If PDA isn’t allowed in an LGBT safe space, it isn’t a safe space.
Apparently, anywhere that’s safe for children isn’t “an LGBT safe space”.
Have some consideration for others.
@thecybersmith I’m sorry, are you saying LGBT people aren’t…safe for children?
I’m saying that PDA isn’t suitable around children.
Innocence is precious and should be preserved.
i guess my (straight) parentes are abusive for…. kissing sometimes?
or does this just apply to gay people?
Do your (straight) parents kiss in the presence of children?
If so, they should probably stop that.
?? Dude what kind of example do you think parents should set for kids if you think that they should never show physical affection for each other? Kids who grow up with emotionally/physically distant parents are predisposed to fall into patterns of abusive relationships later on in life. Children seeing their parents kiss and show signs of affection for each other is not only appropriate, but also fundamental for their growth as it provides them with a healthy understanding of what love and loyalty is supposed to look like. Emotionally cold and distant parents are known to elicit anxiety and depression in children, which can later be detrimental to their ability to form lasting, mature relationships in their adult lives.
Do you ever fucking think before you speak? Or do you open your mouth and just let the monkey brain come out?
Parents should be courteous, reserved, modest people, who only express affection in private.
Thus their children will grow to be courteous, reserved, modest people, who only express affection in private.
i really don’t think you’re in any position to say dictate the traits of people who raise the next generation of kids, my guy…
Why are any of y’all so surprised @thecybersmith‘s parents didn’t give him enough affection as a child? That’s what governesses are for.
My little Valentine is just over three months now.
The last two weeks its been getting increasingly harder to go to work without feeling depressed.
That along with the low milk supply (partially from him not wanting to nurse long or at all, and also from being gone 7-8 hours a day 4 days a week at work) has been really getting me down.
I’m hoping our first weekend trip as a family next week lifts up my spirits. Its Renfaire so I’m getting the first LARP outfits ready. Plus truing to quick diy my own.
I’m soft for Alpha/Beta/Omega stay at home parents with their pups. The idea that it’s only an Omega’s job, in my verse, came from the idea that they’re ‘weaker’. Even though back in the day, it was common for Alpha’s and Omega couples take turns.
Alpha: In this day and age, it is uncommon to see an Alpha in an Alpha/Omega relationship be stay at home parents. Though that doesn’t mean it is absolutely unheard of! Contrary to popular belief, Alpha’s can be just as good parents as Omegas. An Alpha would probably flounder just a little due to their protective nature. Like is the knives out of their pups reach? Even if it’s up on the high shelf. Did they accidentally poison the food? Is the water supply cold enough? But not too cold, cause hypothermia. They try and make sure their pup is protected, though that might get in the way of the pups feelings. But many Alpha’s try and prevent from being emotionally detached from their child. As that is sadly, a pattern for many Alpha parents, protect and care and love but don’t explain and talk. Many, if they start to see the signs that they are falling into this behavior, try and fix it. Especially if they’re a single parent.
They’d teach their pup how to den, even if they don’t know their dynamic yet. It’s just a nice way to bond with their child. And many will continue to help and bond with their child this way. Even if they’re now a Kiddie and an Omega or Beta. Taking their Kiddie into their more protective den (a den inside a den essentially) and watching TV, or doing other activities such as snuggling with them is nice. Although Alpha’s may be awkward about it, they also try and help their pup, now Kiddie, through their presenting. Giving them tips and meds and taking them to the doctor regularly. Sometimes a bit too much, but Alpha parents are worry worts and want to make sure they’re doing it right.
Funnily enough, in A/A couples that possess a man and woman, it is usually the Alpha men that become the stay at home parent. Alpha’s don’t know why, they’re stumped on why this is the case, but many don’t complain. In A/B couples, it usually depends on the individual. But it’s more common for Betas to stay at home than the Alpha. But there are still many A/B couples that have the Alpha stay at home.
Beta: Beta’s are often known to be switching stay at home parents. One year they work, another year they stay at home with their child. It’s a system and is the most common for Beta/Beta households. However, many B/B couples also have one parent be the stay at home one. It depends on the individual and statistics show that it’s almost a 50% 50% on which Beta stays home in B/B couples processing a man and woman. (The statistic is 51% Woman, 49% men.) Beta’s are often thought to be the 'parents that don’t care much,’ which is absolutely not true. A stay at home Beta parent works just as hard to make sure their pup is taken care of. Perfectly balancing out their protective and nurturing instincts. They know they didn’t poison the food, and know the knives are out are reach. But they are no nonsense with injuries and will take action for the slightest of cut. Infection is always a possibility!
Beta parents who are stay at home or single parents are very diligent in making sure their pup or Kiddie know how to be independent and take care of themsleves. How to do the basics like read and write, then how to cook and clean things correctly. Sometimes, they get so worried about them nit making it into the world, that they don’t let their child do all the fun activities that they want. Like playing an instrument or taking classes for artistry and pottery. But many Beta’s recognize this, and try and fix it. Often with a long talk and apology and gifts. Also, when their pup turns into a kiddie, them gifting them all the hingeded barrettes!
In B/O couples, it depends on the individuals! Though it is shown that: In lesbian couples the Beta tends to stay home, in B/O couples that possess a Omega man and a Beta woman that the male Omega stays home. When it’s switched it’s usually still the Omega that stays home. In gay couples, it’s the Omega again. Though of course, this can very!
Omega: Omega’s are often seen as the main stay at home parents. They are usually seen as the most nurturing due to that being the default Omegan trait. A stay at home/single parent Omega’s are usually very laid back. Many see them as the ones that would usually worry, however this is not the case. Omega parents are the type that will hold their child close when need be. Worry when need be. Why be worried all the time? The pups can feel that energy. Stay at home Omega parents also seem to find it easier to keep track of their pups/kiddies if they are getting into trouble. This is due to their increased hearing. They can hear almost everything their little one is getting up to. But that doesn’t mean they never worry or are overprotective. In fact they’ll constantly check if their pup/kiddie/child is okay by simple things like cuddling. They’ll cuddle their little ones over and over to check over them. Which can get their kids probably annoyed.
Omegas will teach their pup how to nest, and will bond with them with it. Or if they get to the age where they don’t want to nest, will constantly drag them in to watch a movie with them. They also will constantly reassure their child, they don’t want them feeling bad, though sometimes they can go overboard. Many Omega’s mistakes with child raising is giving into what their child wants too much, especially if they’re Kiddies. Which can give problems in the future. Though it’s hard to stop it, many try to stop saying ‘Yes,’ to everything their pup/kiddie wants. Omegas also seem to know when they’re child is upset, and are far more sensitive to their child’s emotions, and will try and fix it. Giving them blankets and stones and cute little stuffed animals to make them cheer up and not feel as void!
In O/O couples that possess a man and woman, they actually switch like B/B couples. Taking turns and switching out. And it seems to carry on the pattern even if it’s a MlM, WlW or NBlM or F. They tend to switch places and rotate who takes care of their pup/kiddie. Of course, there’s always exceptions but this is the most common pattern amongst O/O couples.
Our daughter is still working on her left and right, so to help her, we got her some running shoes with Frozen characters on them. The design on each shoe is different, Anna on one, Elsa on the other. To help her remember which is which, I told her:
“Elsa goes on the left. ELsa, what starts with L? Left.”
You’re a daycare worker, watching over toddlers, when the imminent end of the world is announced. It becomes increasingly clear none of the kids’ parents are going to show up as the end inches nearer.
[Audio starts]
“Mom has been texting me for the last twenty minutes. She wants me to come home. It’s a four hour drive, when the roads are clear, and from what I hear everybody is trying to get somewhere right now. There’s no telling if I’d even-”
“Everybody else has left. All the other kids were picked up, the other staff left. They gave me all the keys. I promised to stay and wait for as long as- well. Even if some of the parents show up, I guess some of them won’t, so I’m just waiting. Until.”
[Clears throat.]
“A couple of people came after everybody left. Peter, one of Aidan’s fathers, gave me three hundred dollars for staying. What am I going to do with money? It’s- anyway. I kind of get it. He wanted to give me something.”
[Audio ends]
[Audio starts]
“They’re all between 2 and 4.” Sniff. “They’re so little. Too little to really- maybe if they were older, I’d have to tell them something. But um. I’m just- trying to stay calm and keep them happy and occupied. I think that’s the best thing, right now.”
[Heaving breaths.]
“I normally use this recorder to help me remember stuff. It’s just, uh, habit to talk to it. I don’t know. They’re napping, right now. I’ve got the baby monitor, they know that if they talk into it, I’ll come, so-”
[Sobbing.]
[Audio ends]
[Audio starts]
“Mom keeps texting, so I blocked her. I sent her a text telling her goodbye, first, but. I do. But these kids need me.”
[Sniff.]
“I tried calling their parents again, but I can’t get anybody. It’s just busy signals. I called the firefighter station, 911. I can’t get through to anybody.”
[Shaky breath.]
“I went out into the yard. Um, I think they can play. It’s nice out, and you can’t really see it yet. Little bit of a glimmer, if they ask I’ll just tell them it’s a plane, but it’s nice out and we’ve got hours before-”
Anyone else? Another quick comic without edits done in an hour! I love embracing this quick, loose but confident process!
I’ve added some new originals and a bunch of deep discount prints to my shop - $5 and $10 prints! They’re selling fast, so grab em while you can ^_^ There will be more added by the end of today.
Hey, so my eleven year old just told me she has a crush on a girl (she’s had crushes on boys in the past, so not sure if she means she likes both now?) Her best friend has come out to her as a lesbian (BF is 13). Just curious as I fear my lack of response may not have been what she wanted? I’m totally fine with either outcome of her being bi or lesbian. (I consider myself generally heterosexual and am in a straight relationship, but I do know I may have bisexual leanings in some capacity?) I basically told her to take her time and it was okay whether her crush was romantic or not and she was young and had plenty of time to figure out what it all meant to her and there is no need to rush to define it. I told her I had friends that she knows that are bisexual and another who is trans and it doesn’t matter to me as long as she is happy. Anywho, any resources or recommendations for me to look into? I want her to know she can trust me and that I will love her no matter what labels she finds herself with but I don’t know if I articulated it perfectly?
Kids eavesdrop. No matter how hard you try to keep things from them about their disability, they will eventually succeed in overhearing you.
The time kids are most likely to succeed in eavesdropping is when you are the most upset about their disability — because being upset and overwhelmed takes a lot of energy, and it makes it harder to pay attention to keeping kids from overhearing.
Further — kids these days have access to Google. When kids overhear adults talking about their disability, they are likely to investigate by googling it. The first result for their disability is probably *not* what you want your kid to believe about themself and their future.
Talking to your kids about their disability is much better than letting them find out about it from googling what they overhear.
If you’ve been playing along since the very beginning you already know my struggles with breastfeeding. But if you’re just getting here, I’ll catch you up.
It sucked.
I couldn’t do it. It hurt so bad and never got better. I still tried for months. Saw lactation consultants, rented a hospital grade electric breast pump, tried nipple shields, different pillows, fenugreek, warm showers, boob massages…
I got a rash which no one could explain or fix. Wilder swore it was related to the stress. He was probably right since it only went away when I started the boy on formula.
I’ve been seeing a lot of real shit takes from people about this formula shortage. The worst one is to “just breastfeed” like it’s a switch we flip. I’m not surprised at the number of women saying that bullshit, but I am disappointed.
A fun way to start the morning is by having my son injure his sister and then start crying about it.
It’s a neat tactic to distract from the fact that he’s done something wrong. And by neat I mean frustrating.
He insists that nobody likes him when he gets disciplined, so we’re all stuck trying to get him to calm down instead of addressing the real issue. And his crying goes on longer than you’d believe.
Hearing my kids cry used to get me up and running. They’ve basically trained that out of me though. If everything is a crying emergency, nothing is.
When my son does something wrong he cries. It’s not just crying though, he’s convinced that nobody likes him anymore because he was bad.
I think he’s trying to deflect attention away from his misbehavior. I also think he’s genuinely upset and possibly worried that he can misbehave his way into not being loved.
And last night didn’t go well at all. The 3yo cried in the middle of the night and ran into our room, jumping into our bed and then being a toddler. Kicking, singing, running around, not sleeping.
You can’t sleep with a toddler in the bed. At least, not this one. She kicks and rolls and punches. She is, I’m told, just like me. So that’s not going to work.
Wilder left to sleep in our son’s room and I dozed off every couple minutes between her shenanigans. At some point she ended up on the floor and Wilder came back to bed. I gave up at 7 and went downstairs for a Tastycake for breakfast.
I have no idea how the rest of the day will go but it will probably feel like forever.
We didn’t have Grammy, and I was worried, but it went better than it has in months. No tears, no screaming.
My son even let me read to him and then leave his room which is huge. Usually I have to stay in there until his sister releases Wilder and we switch.
But last night, no issues. It’s amazing how things going smoothly can make such a difference in my mood. Now what I should work on is not letting my mood crash when things go wrong.
I’m embarrassed and sad about the playground today. Everything was fine and then it was time to go. The kids wanted to jump on the stumps holding my hand, so we did, until the girl accidentally injured me.
Then it went to shit. I didn’t want to do the stumps anymore, I’d just gotten my sunglasses smashed into my eye. My son wasn’t finished jumping yet. And that led to the disagreement.
He screamed at me and told me he hated me, and I yelled at him that he broke his promise about leaving nicely.
Going to just lie in my bed and pretend today’s over already.
