#special snowflake
to kids claiming they cant afford a therapist: talk to your counselor
to adults claiming they cant afford a therapist: get a job
up to this point, i’m super confused about which tumblr people i should take seriously and which i shouldn’t. i understand that as a human being, i can’t expect or pretend that i know everyone’s perspectives. i don’t feel any genuine hate for these people, i just find them to be a mild annoyance, bothering me with their problems when i don’t care.
i feel like i’m referencing the quote, unquote, “special snowflake” type people, and my heavy confusion as to which blogs are trolls and which ones seriously think that they have the soul of a mythical creature.
Equality Golbat: If you want to be an ally, learn how to listen to people.
Sometimes, you’re going to hear things or see things and you’re going to be shocked. You might even be offended. Do not spend your time refuting those kind of claims. If you’re so upset that people can’t see you’re not “like other white/cis/straight/abled people,” it’s not time for you to be an ally.
Spend more of your time in an effort to see where other people are coming from, instead of trying to make yourself look like a hero.
-Glaceon
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Asexual Glaceon: Aromanticism and asexuality are not exclusive to each other.
Romantic asexual people are commonly invalidated because society at large conflates their romantic attraction to be sexual attraction. Aromantic sexual people, on the flip side, are invalidated because society conflates their lack of romantic attraction as unnatural and inhuman.
We need to take steps to de-stigmatize asexuality and aromanticism in society.
-Glaceon
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Equality Golbat: No one should be drafted, regardless of gender.
Even if military drafts are an example of sexism harming men, no one should have to be drafted from the start. Military drafts remove all people’s agency. If the people don’t want to go to war, they shouldn’t have to be forced into it.
The people should ultimately decide whether or not to go to war.
-Glaceon
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Equality Golbat: A rewards-only approach can still be abusive.
Reward actions that should be rewarded. Positive reinforcement helps kids remember things that can help them in the future. It’s important to help your kids and get their opinion if they have trouble doing some things.
Reward your kid for doing something good for someone else without being asked, for instance. Help your kid and reward them for doing something that might not be the easiest thing for them to do. Why reward your kids if you have to help them do something? Because it shows you understand that they’re putting in a lot of effort to do the thing, even with your help.
If you’re rewarding acceptance of punishment, pain, degradation, helplessness, or withholding vital necessities and putting them under the guise of rewards, that is abusive.
-Glaceon
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Behaviorism: A school of psychology that focuses on forcibly training specific behaviors.
Behaviorism is based on neurotypical, able-bodied behavior being the norm, and makes no attempts to be inclusive to neurodiverse and disabled people. According to behaviorists, as long as you display “appropriate” behavior, it doesn’t matter whether the process of acquiring such behaviors was harmful or not. This makes it unsettlingly easy for abusive parents to institutionally abuse their children.
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