Even though I’m aroace, I recognize that I have the passing privilege of an allohet. In the vast majority of scenarios, I don’t get harassed, threatened, or “corrected” for my orientation. There are some who aren’t as lucky as me. Especially because I’m romance-favorable. I can’t relate to the “ew love” of aro meme culture or the “love makes you complete and human” from allo culture.
It’s like a firepit to me. I want to make a campfire to roast some marshmallows, but my lighter works differently. It’s not broken or bad, just doesn’t make fire often. I strike it over and over, but it rarely makes any sparks, and a spark doesn’t mean the log will catch flame. I look to my left; there are loads of people with fire and toasted marshmallows. I look to my right; there’s a smaller group who don’t have fire, but some don’t want marshmallows and others think marshmallows are gross, so they don’t need a spark. I know that I don’t need toasted marshmallows to live, but it would be nice to have.
It’s reading romance negative posts online and simultaneously seeing the image of a “whole” person with a partner that sometimes makes me think I don’t belong anywhere.
now available in the flags for asexual, aromantic, greysexual, greyromantic, demisexual, demiromantic, acearo, quoi, and one with a combination with six of them.
[image description: six different cartoon-style bunting graphics, featuring six pride flags hanging from a brown rope. The flags are rectangular, finishing in a chevron shape, and have rows of brown stitching across the top of the flag and along the bottom of the chevron. First image in each set shows the flags with the topmost stripes facing the left; second image shows the three right-hand flags flipped, so all topmost edges face away from the centre of the bunting.
The first flag on each banner is an aromantic spectrum identity and alternates with the corresponding asexual spectrum pride flag. Banners in descending order: askepsiromantic and askepsisexual, cupioromantic-flux and cupiosexual-flux, delloromantic and dellosexual, demiromantic and demisexual, intrusiromantic and intrusisexual, nullumromantic and nullumsexual.]
Aromantic and Asexual Bunting
Flags: Askepsiromantic and Askepsisexual, Cupioromantic-Flux and Cupiosexual-Flux, Delloromantic and Dellosexual, Demiromantic and Demisexual, Intrusiromantic and Intrusisexual, Nullumromantic and Nullumsexual.
Free to use with credit to one of my accounts. Original files are available to download from my Aro Worlds Patreon or my Aro Arrows WordPress site.
@fandomshateaspecs is working on getting #aromantic trending for 9/14-15/19. Send in your arospec headcanons for Star Wars characters, and I’ll do my best to get some icons/lockscreens/headers made and posted when I can! Specify which type of edit(s) you want please, or you’ll probably get something random.
An anon had asked for aro Mara lockscreens, which I posted yesterday, but here are some arospec Mara icons as well, because she’s my favorite arospec gal. My personal headcanon for her is that she’s demi-biromantic. <3
@fandomshateaspecs is working on getting #aromantic trending for 9/14-15/19. Send in your arospec headcanons for Star Wars characters, and I’ll do my best to get some icons/lockscreens/headers made and posted when I can! Specify which type of edit(s) you want please, or you’ll probably get something random.
Anonymous said: Greyro Rey x Demiro Finn x Aroflux Poe!
Aro trio FTW!!!
@fandomshateaspecs is working on getting #aromantic trending for 9/14-15/19. Send in your arospec headcanons for Star Wars characters, and I’ll do my best to get some icons/lockscreens/headers made and posted when I can! Specify which type of edit(s) you want please, or you’ll probably get something random.
it’s aromantic spectrum awareness week. so i guess i’ll talk about identifying as demiromantic and what it means for me.
for the longest time, i would say things like “i could be arospec, but it could also just be trauma from my last romantic relationship”, as if that made it any less legitimate. but sometime earlier this year, i just thought “you know what? i should be kinder to myself. even if i’m not right about this label, it still comforts me in the current time. besides, my identity and labels have changed so much ever since i first thought i could be queer, and there was a time when it comforted me to identify as a lesbian, so why not this?” and so i did. it’s just really freeing to not have to worry about romance as much as i did. i’m a relationship anarchist anyway, so i have no desire to seek a relationship that is romantic. i’d rather just have good people in my life and let the relationships define themselves separately. amatonormativity is a poison and the ways in which i identify are slow working anecdotes. i’m just happy to not worry about romance as much these days. i don’t want to force it. if it happens, it happens.
If you know anything about me, it’s that I’m aggressively arospec and the world’s biggest alphonse elric kinnie/stan so I made these! Feel free to use with credit!
I made a demiromantic, a demisexual, and a demiseuxal+romantic flags!
The demi flag has been bothering me for uhm quite a while. the black triangle doesnt have a great meaning behind it (tw holocaust). I ended up making 3 color combinations that i liked equally, so im keeping all 3 for the demi community!
The meanings are abstract like in every flag i tend to make, because the lgbt flag in itself has abstract, but sincere, meanings.
Please do not use this to make fun of demi- people. You’re stealing my art and creative work for a purpose i have not made it for. You’re in the wrong
[Image description: a photo of three stickers, three bottle charms, and a string of hearts surrounding them. The stickers are drawings if the pokemon leafeon with the greyromantic flag, aromantic flag, and demiromantic flag in the background. The bottle charms contain the same flags. The hearts are green, lime green, white, gray, and black.]
Romo aro moodboard. I can’t find a link to the post of the original creator (update: a-romantic–aromantic reached out to let me know they are one of the creators). From what I understand romo aro is for romance favorable aros/aros who want romance or aromantic spectrum people who experience some amount of romantic attraction.
[Image description: a 3 by 3 moodboard. At the center is the romo aro flag, which is the aromantic flag (dark green, light green, white, light grey, and black stripes from top to bottom) with two thin pink stripes in framing the middle white stripe. In the middle row around the flag are photos of a pink rose in sunlight surrounded by greenery and a bright, light pink dahlia against an off-white background.
The top row from left to right is a photo of two hands with hearts on the back touching each other over green grass, thick dark green foliage and grass, and light green leaves in sunlight. The bottom row from left to right is a photo of a bright white moon through leaves in a black sky, two small fireworks against a black sky, and finally a small streak of pink sunset over black backlit mountains. End description.]
Explaining you gender identity or sexuality is good and helpful, but if you find yourself arguing about it stop.
If you find yourself arguing that you exist you’re talking to someone who doesn’t want to know. They just want to hurt or control you. You can argue if you want, but there is no obligation. Your personhood is not a topic of debate.
ALT
