#abuser
Being drained by a narcissist is the absolute worst feeling. To be discarded so hastily…. It is terrible. I feel violated. It doesn’t happen just once; it’s over and over and over. Narcissists are like a drug to the energy supply, like the supply is a drug to the narcissist. They can read, understand, and control your inner most thoughts and weaknesses. The emotional withdrawals after you’re thrown away are like withdrawing from a class A drug and can even cause physical symptoms. It is mind-blowing to me that these emotionless humans incapable of emotions really do exist. The entire mental disorder is baffling and terrifying. I only wish I would have known what it was before I was so carelessly caught in the path of one.
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So…. in today’s society, when we can finally be bold enough to speak out against abuse and say “me too,” so many Star Wars fans support Reylo as a healthy, wholesome thing? Kylo Ren, as in the very same Kylo Ren who literally raped Rey’s mind and removed her sovereignty over her body (the mind is part of the body, possibly the most important)?
What a lovely pairing.
If this happened for real, wouldn’t people be calling for Kylo Ren to be put in jail and certainly not encouraging Rey to ‘be with’ her abuser?
I can certainly see writers writing it as dark!fic, a fascinating, horrifying, unhealthy relationship, but people…. getting back with the person who hurt you like that makes NO sense.
Edit/Update: Tags don’t really “belong” to people, people. Also, mind rape might not be “real” real, but metaphors exist throughout history, and whether or not they were in an official relationship, what Kylo did to her (invasion without consent) was WRONG. So wrong. Would it ease minds if I called it “violation” instead? Because that’s what it was. She did not give consent for it to happen.
Additionally, apparently JJ himself leans this way: https://web.archive.org/web/20160131094352/https://www.facebook.com/ashleycohagan/posts/10101640869471608
To those who say it’s fiction, well, art imitates life, and life imitates art. What we create has impact on our society for better or for worse. Think of all the influential writers and film directors through history, and the power of fiction is made extremely clear. I somehow don’t think the Star Wars makers wanted us to see romance in the interrogation scene between Kylo and Rey.
Additionally, prisoners of war is a far different situation than combatants on a battlefield. One commentator compared this to Harry and Draco dueling. Um…. Harry was not a prisoner or under Draco’s power. They were dueling. Rey was a restrained prisoner. A captive. That’s why things like the Geneva Convention exist. If being a prisoner is the same as a fighter, then all the prison torture and rape and mistreatment that goes on doesn’t count. That does not sit well with me. at. all.
Finally, from TFA novelization itself:
““I can take whatever I want.”
Her muscles tightened. “Then you don’t need me to tell you anything.”
“True.” He rose, resigned. “I would have preferred to avoid this. Despite what you may believe, it gives me no pleasure. I will go as easily as possible – but I willtake what I need.”
She knew that trying to resist him physically would not only be useless but would likely result in unpleasantness of a kind she preferred not to imagine. So she remained motionless and silent, her arms at her sides, as his hand rose toward her face. He touched her again, as he had in the forest of Takodana.”
Guys…. the evidence is right there.
Also: Resorting to random personal insults doesn’t miraculously make your case stronger, sorry to disappoint. It just makes it sound like there’s nothing the person throwing insults has worthwhile to say. And it reflects badly on that person’s base, in the way throwing a temper tantrum makes a toddler look silly.
trauma-r-us-deactivated20211010:
who else is terrified of becoming a monster like your abuser but at the same time wonder how satisfying it would be to take revenge upon them.
like i want to hurt others to show i am in pain but i avoid doing it for obvious reasons, but i just,,, want someone to pay for the hell i went through
it isnt fucking fair lmao
“if i could make them feel a hurt with deep & aching roots mirroring that which they forced upon me… maybe they’d say, it was real.. i see that now. i was wrong. i was wretched. you didn’t deserve it. i’m so sorry. how can i ever make up for this thing i’ve done? sweet child, what have i done? you loved me when you shouldn’t’ve. thank you.”
One of my abusers was released from prison in September. My brother seems to think that he was court-ordered to check himself into an in-patient psychiatric hospital; I hope this is true because it’s where he needs to be, in my opinion. I do feel a little safer now than I did in the past because the only people he could have contact with who know my current address are my mom, dad, and brother and I know they’re not going to tell him. So yeah, here’s hoping he leaves me alone.
