#enfp personality

If you have an ENFP in your life I’m sure you’ve had at least one of those “oh my God, who is this person and when did they bodysnatch my ENFP?” moments. I’m speaking, of course, about the ENFP in “angry mode”. That’s what I’m calling it now - no, screw it - I’m coining it. “Angry Mode”. There.

ENFP’s are generally very agreeable and friendly creatures. Our Ne-dom nature tends to be highly agreeable because we’re able to see things from different perspectives, and we fancy ourselves as good at reading people’s intentions. It’s hard to be upset at someone who probably means well and just didn’t think what they did was mean or inconsiderate, right?

This agreeable nature is one of the reasons why other types generally rank us highly in those online “which type is best type lol?” polls that you find at personalitycafe, but it does have very firm boundaries. Boundaries that are often hard to make out. Think of it as hidden land-mines in the worlds prettiest and most rainbow-filled park you’ve ever seen. Now, if you’ve ever found yourself landing on one of those land-mines, my first question should be “oh my God, are you okay?”.

If you are so lucky to never have been close enough to an angry ENFP, allow me to explain. When you step on one of the hidden land-mines (Fi) you risk ending up in Te-ENFP-Territory (also mine, just coined it). Te-ENFP-Territory is an ugly place. It’s the only time you would hear an ENFP tell you to “go fuck yourself” while delivering precision strikes against everything you are most insecure about.

Te-ENFP-Territory does not hold punches. It obscures rational thought and, with the help of Ne (wearing war paint), pulls all the data that it has absorbed through all of your conversations and strikes where it thinks it hurts you the most. It does not let up until a (mostly unclear to the ENFP) goal has been accomplished.

Think of it as a defense mechanism. This defense mechanism is there to bite you when the ENFP feels like you have wronged him/her. Here are a few typical things that it is protecting the ENFP from:

• Encroaching on the ENFP’s individuality. Any attempts to limit the ENFP’s freedom is risky and must be dealt with while wearing fire-proof gloves.
• Not considering the ENFP’s point of view as valid or acceptable. Your ENFP has spent a lot of time valuing why he/she decides what to believe. A complete dismissal of their ideas is hurtful.
• Making the ENFP look like they don’t know what they’re talking about. Does your ENFP often pretend to know stuff and get it wrong a lot? Sure. Does your ENFP appreciate being called out on it? NOPE.
• Negligence. This one is often overlooked and typically only relevant when in a romantic relationship with the ENFP. Knowing that you prioritize and love the ENFP is very important. If you do not show sufficient interest in your ENFP, they will start to withdraw and, if pushed, will go into full Te-ENFP-Territory. Speaking from personal experience, I am convinced that this clinginess comes from a very specific Ne-dom insecurity that his/her partner is currently looking for new partners on the side of the ENFP. Paying close and affectionate attention to your ENFP is vital to avoid this - especially in the beginning of the relationship. They don’t call us the infantiles for nothing!

How often does the ENFP go into Te-ENFP-Territory? Practically never among casual friendships and on occasion when among his/her closest friends. The real suffers from Te-ENFP-Territory are romantic partners and family members. The good news is that we feel awful almost immediately after we snap out of it and go out of our way to make it up to you afterward. So … I guess that’s something?

Me the ENFP: whats your mbti

Them: oh it’s [insert random mbti].

Me the ENFP: no it’s not

Them: wha-

Me the ENFP: im an expert I know yOU I KNOW EVERYTHGIN ABOUT YOU

Me the ENFP: ok brain be normal

Brain: ok

Brain: “The FitnessGram™ Pacer Test is a multistage aerobic capacity test that progressively gets more difficult as it continues. The 20 meter pacer test will begin in 30 seconds. Line up at the start. The running speed starts slowly, but gets faster each minute after you hear this signal. [beep] A single lap should be completed each time you hear this sound. [ding] Remember to run in a straight line, and run as long as possible. The second time you fail to complete a lap before the sound, your test is over. The test will begin on the word start. On your mark, get ready, start.”

ENFPs are just philosophers or teletubbies.. occasionally both at the same time.

Me, the ENFP: *is very heckin angry, wants to show wrath, bathe in the blood of my enemies*

Me, the ENFP: *still angry…. accidentally giggles*

Me, an ENFP: *has a mental map of all ideas that correlate to one another. Mind wanders. Finds something suddenly worth mentioning*

Me, an ENFP: “the sound of snapping your fingers comes from your middle finger hitting your palm, not from the friction it creates with your thumb.”

Friend: “you’re so random.”

Me, an ENFP: wow I would love to sleep early, eat right, lose weight, be effective, and get fit.

Also me, the ENFP: already through 3/4th of a pizza, it’s 4 a.m. and the birds are chirping, laying on piles of undone laundry, is this a chip in my bra??,

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