What is the greatest perk of being in a romantic relationship with an INFP?
Mystery - we are quite dark & keep our deepest emotions only for those that have earned that trust.
Trust - if you get into our good books & stick around we’ll trust you with the most intimate information & secrets about us. CHERISH IT! We don’t open up to just anyone!
Loyalty - We’ll back you to the hilt & see through some of your flaws to protect you.
Caring - Those smoochy kisses & cute hugs are our game when we’re happy. An INFP will bring you a random gift out of the blue. If you show genuine appreciation then expect more.
Dating - INFPs will take you on quirky & weird dates. You’ll never visit a club but he/she will take you on the midnight Jack the Ripper tour of London or to the perfect photograph location of a harbour.
Conflict - We don’t like conflict so will try to resolve our differences with you in order to create a long term harmonious atmosphere.
• If you want to go and smell that flower, do it. Let people think you’re odd. They’re the ones missing out. <3
• People may say they understand how you feel, but if they tell you you’re exaggerating or you should be over it by now, they obviously don’t understand.
• Yes, daydreaming is a true and wonderful hobby.
• Your ideas and feelings are important. Keep a journal of your thoughts because no one else in this world has your experiences and unique perspective on life.
• This planet can be a pretty harsh place. There are so many examples of violence and sadness in the news. If you need to hide away for a while, do it. It can only help your heart.
• Do all those creative things that make you happy. Try not to let the opinions of others squash your dreams.
• Criticism is difficult. Oh, how I know. Others can’t easily understand how painful it can be to hear. Remember that you have a beautiful soul and their words can not find you there. <3
• That romantic crush may not be real. Give yourself a moment to step back and look at the situation without idealization getting in the way.
• If you feel sad often, get a pet (if you don’t have one). They are ridiculous and cuddly. I swear that a fuzzy baby can seriously change everything.
• If you prefer sad emotional movies over comedies, that’s perfectly okay. Sometimes crying with the characters is exactly what is needed.
• Society is loud, abrasive, and out of control. It’s not uncommon to feel like you were born on the wrong planet.
• I know you have a story to tell. You should write it!
INFP’s are basically cuddly/cold walking contradictions! :D
Sensitive, but strong. Bright but annoyingly dreamy. Introverted, yet love to connect with people.
On the outside, we may appear reserved, detached, shy, or perhaps even cold. But engage us with a new idea, or share an intriguing thought and we light up like human pinball machines. Mature INFP’S tend to crave intellectual encounters and you’ll know you’ve successfully captured our attention when our eyes fill with wonder and sparkle with life. The thoughtful, quiet person in front of you will suddenly transform into a surpringly social and charming creature, full of depth and complexity. When we’ve decided we’ve had our fill of socializing, we are more than happy to retreat back home where we can let our thoughts and imagination roam wild in private. During this time is when we are most creative, either penning entire novels in our mind, (which may or may not make it to paper) creating symphonies in our head, or bringing worlds to life with paint on canvas or molding them from clay with our bare hands. Creating art is where we live!
Although we are dreamy and tend to over-romanticize (literally everyone and everything!) we can also be surprisingly objective at times, and are quite capable of carrying on logical discussions of topics that capture our interest.
It should also be noted that despite our overall gentle, laid-back demeanor, we have a wickedly dark sense of humour that only those closest to us can fully appreciate.
Above all, we value loyalty, honesty, and compassion from those whom we let close, and though we may not show it on the outside, we are deeply hurt when we feel someone has wronged us.
Started a new INFP Instagram because the enneagram isn’t the only great personality tool out there. ;)
A few INFP strengths and weaknesses. The beauty of it is, we can all improve in our areas of weakness. They tend to be the areas where we naturally struggle most, but with practice we can always grow in them.
When I was 13 I was making breakfast on a gas stove and caught a hot pad on fire. After standing there looking at the flaming hot pad in my hand, I dumped it in the sink setting off a plume of steam and smoke…just as my dad walked in.
He poured a cup of coffee, took a sip, nodded, and left.
“As things stand now, I am going to be a writer. I’m not sure that I’m going to be a good one or even a self-supporting one, but until the dark thumb of fate presses me to the dust and says ‘you are nothing’, I will be a writer.”
It seems many INFPs have depression, or at least existential depression (what is this world and where do I belong?).
For me it seems to come from an identity crisis. I don’t know who I am, and I am afraid when I find out I won’t like me. The more I integrate myself, work on my “shadow”, and accept myself as I am - the better my depression has become and the more I overcome.
I also see it as this. INFPs, being the original optimists, get beaten down by life. They see that most people don’t share their philosophy, and that will never change (or at least not in this lifetime). Indeed the world can be cruel and I really believe that crushed me at some point. And then we become cynical, but under that the original optimist calls out, and this causes confusion, depression, anger, etc.
Any thoughts? Do you have the INFP blues? What has helped, if anything, and what do you think the challenge is of overcoming it?
I also think changing my perspective has helped. One of those things is learning that you don’t find yourself - you create yourself”
