Refuse to be average, refuse to be normal! You all are unique. DONT YOU DARE let anyone else tell you otherwise .If you don’t believe in yourself then know that I DO!
Get up and go out there to become who YOU TRUELY WANT TO BE! Get the body you want !!!! DONT JUST SETTLE . I’ll be with you every step of the way!
Keep that vision of what you wanna look like right in front of you! Look at it every morning and night. Keep focused and headed to that goal. IT… WILL…. HAPPEN!!!
I’m here for all of you , ask me any questions or concerns you have!
Estoy muy agradecida con todas las personas que me han enviado mensajes pidiendo consejos, ayuda o alguien que los escuche. Todos y cada uno de ustedes tiene el derecho a tener un amigo, un apoyo, y yo estoy aquí para serlo. Si tienen algún problema, o necesitan hablar con alguien, envíen un mensaje, quedará completamente privado, prometo tratar de ayudarlos. Y a los que ya lo enviaron, gracias por la confianza. ♥
I am very grateful to all who have sent me messages asking for advice, help or someone to listen. Each and every one of you has the right to have a friend, a support, and I’m here. If you have a problem, or need to talk to someone, send a message, will be completely private, I promise to try to help. And to those who already sent, thanks for the confidence. ♥
do y'all even know how much i hate being an “elder queer” at 40? a whole goddamn generation before me was wiped out by a plague that politicians deemed not their problem bc it was killing the “right” people. like. this was OPENLY STATED. i spent a large chunk of my childhood going to funerals. nevermind the fact that killing queer people for being queer wasn’t codified into law as a hate crime until i was a junior in high school.
i should NOT be an elder queer, i should be middle at most. i am a middle aged queer. most of the elder queers died.
when i was growing up i didn’t go to pride parades, i went to pride marches. because that’s 100% what they were in the 80s and 90s.
from the absolute bottom of my heart, LEARN OUR FUCKING HISTORY. a generation was nearly wiped out so you young queers could be here. don’t let that have been in vain, please.
the fact that people have reblogged this and tagged it “q slur” makes me want to eat glass.
fuck what everyone else says or thinks, you our special and there is someone who cares about you and if you don’t believe me trust me ive been there and it gets better. ILY
was gonna leave my comment in the tags but tbh i’m silent enough about this as it is.
seeing stuff like this is so upsetting because these terms were well known and widespread in the ace community but because of exclusionists many people stopped using terms like this because they felt uncomfortable and unsafe.
i loved these terms when i was in highschool, i loved the feeling of community, but i lost that because i didn’t feel comfortable openly and proudly calling myself asexual.
they’ve hurt so many people and damaged our community badly and i will never forgive them for that. we deserve to use our own terminology and feel safe within our community.
sometimes i notice i haven’t seen “grace” (grey-ace) in a while and consequently wonder if i made it up.
I remember ppl - even other ace ppl - saying the card suit thing was “cringey” and “straight ppl aren’t gonna take us seriously” (sounds familiar?) So i guess the community wound up abandoning it. We were also having severe issues at the time with aces being stereotyped as “childish/immature” for associating things like cake, dragons, and space with asexuality, plus in general as most aces just don’t “get” allosexual things in media and irl. We were starting to be viewed as ignorant, virginal, childish, losers, etc. I haven’t seen an ace-cake thing in a good while now.
This was the infancy of exclusionary influence on us. I didn’t realize it did more damage than just closeting us. Whole symbols and terms have been lost. Community has been lost.
I remember three-four years ago I got myself into the ace community on Insta, and I came across these terms. People in these circles would talk about cake, space, dragons, and the black ring on the middle finger. Then, a year or two later, ace content fizzled out (I thought it was Insta’s algorithm figuring out that I knew all this and didn’t bring me the old stuff) and young aces had no idea what any of these were - including the black ring. Finding out young aces had no idea what the black ring meant nearly snapped my heart in two - I proudly wore the black ring, I drew characters with it, and it was my quiet way of communicating to others what my sexuality was. I was baffled at the lack of knowledge - and it turns out that exclusionists got their hands into our community and snuffed us out.
Anyways, we need to bring this back. I thought the card suite thing was cool, it taught people the different ways people can experience attraction, I loved making jokes about preferring cake, I loved wearing the black ring and talking about it with my fellow queer people at my highschool QSA club.
I’m sorry, people don’t know about the cake or ring anymore? I remember being welcomed with spams of cake gifs, photos, and MS Paint drawings. I also distinctly remember that the block solo ring in the midle was meant as reference to the Ace of Spades (black, solo, middle of card). Only thing I didn’t know was that other aces could represent a more refined nuance. Let’s see if we can get this all rolling again.
Welcome to anyone who is interested in helping with the culture revival.
Selfshippers with space related f/os please rise up. I don’t care they’re an alien creature, space explorer, space pirate, some kind of space general, Jedi, Sith, literal regular ass human in space, Vulcan, good, evil, WHATEVER THEY ARE, please rise up. It is your time to shine. ✨
