I remember my wife often saying how exhausting it was for her to have to tell me what to do all the time. It’s why the sexiest thing a man can say to his partner is “I got this,” and then take care of whatever needs taken care of.
I always reasoned: “If you just tell me what you want me to do, I’ll gladly do it.”
But she didn’t want to be my mother. She wanted to be my partner, and she wanted me to apply all of my intelligence and learning capabilities to the logistics of managing our lives and household.
She wanted me to figure out all of the things that need done, and devise my own method of task management.
I wish I could remember what seemed so unreasonable to me about that at the time.
It’s not just about equal division of labor. It’s also about, “this thing is important to her. If he ignores it, he’s saying that what she wants is irrelevant to him.”
And that’s a guy saying, “I’m only spending time with you because it’s pleasant for me.” He’s already decided what’s “really” important, and her input is not welcome.
If he won’t do the dishes and laundry, he’s looking for fun, not a partnership. And his “leftist” ideals will be the same–something he studies because it’s interesting to him; a form of activism that he thinks will bring him a better life. If he can’t do household tasks that matter to a person he loves, he sure as hell can’t support policies that help people whose struggles he doesn’t even acknowledge are real.
I’m writing this today on behalf of a coalition of over 80 people and growing, called Not1More, deeply affected by the recent events at University of California Santa Barbara. As I’m sure you’ve heard, on May 23rd, a young man named Elliott Rodger murdered six people and injured seventeen before killing himself, after his bitterness over his virginity came to a head.
We are organizing a national demonstration for June 28th, and taking direct action against the cultural standards of misogyny and male entitlement that allowed this horrible incident to take place. We feel that we must take a stand. This man’s beliefs and actions were unacceptable, but also stemming from direct messages in our media; and as citizens of the United States, we are responsible to remind people that our social norms are created by us, and can be destroyed by us too.
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The spa failed this poor woman terribly and the TiM can only think to complain about the fact that he’s still a male.
Looks like trauma is no longer enough for these people– Not that it ever has been given Edinburgh, they’re just not going to pretend to accept it anymore.
I fucking hate the ‘argument’ that ‘feminazis don’t wanna let men sit comfortably on public transport.’
I don’t give a fuck how you sit in order to be comfortable. Slouch, lean, sit straight, rest you head on your hand, sit by a window, stand, fucking hang up-side-down on the baggage rack! Awesome! Just don’t take up more than one fucking seat and don’t invade someone’s personal space, dickwad. I don’t appreciate knocking knees with some dude who feels the need to fucking spread his legs wider than a sexually-liberated woman. It’s fucking rude, it’s like the people who put their bags on the seat next to them and then refuse to move it, but I don’t see you championing for their right to sit comfortably.
My socially awkward ass is tired of sitting like this
all squished because you need to be ‘comfortable.’ What about my comfort? Why should I care about you when you obviously don’t give a fuck about me? Enough with the excuses, you just don’t like people telling you what you’re doing is rude and unnecessary, adding to the fact that it has a sprinkling of feminism added to it. Be an adult, close your fucking legs, and be respectful when you’re in pubic. It’s not that fucking hard.
A collective of Indonesian radical feminists contacted me to spread the word about Anindya Shabrina, who has been repeatedly harassed by authorities. She is going to court and faces a prison sentence for her feminist, anti-racist, and anti-poverty activism.
“In December 2017, Anindya and her company of friends began advocating against urban poor eviction by the officials, and their fight still continues today.
On July 6 2018, Anindya was attending a discussion and movie screening in a Papua students’ boarding house. The event discussed the human rights violations by the Indonesian government toward the Papuans. As a context, there’s still a high level of racism against Papuans or Melanesian groups in Indonesia; therefore, Papua-affiliated events are always seen as separatism.
During the discussion, hundreds of the government’s apparatus along with military officers barged in without any warrant and terminated the discussion. While confronting an official and asking for the warrant, Anindya was sexually harassed by one of the police members. Another woman in the location, Isabella, was dragged by them. After being dragged and harassed they were bullied by the police officers.”
“Anindya is an active Indonesian feminist-activist who is being persecuted for speaking up, not only about the sexual harassment she experienced done by a state apparatus, but also against injustice done to women and poor people in Indonesia. The government is trying to silence her by using multiple accusations.“
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As you know we are trapped between the right and the left, and neither fully represents the needs of women.
As Dworkin said, the right sees women as private property; the left sees women as public property.
Here is a list of Democrat politicians who have promised to remove Title IX, eroding sex-based protections for women.
Please contact your representative encouraging them to uphold the legal definition of woman. We are oppressed in order for men to access our bodies; we are oppressed on the basis of sex.
“In a remarkable letter released just days before the 2018 mid-term elections, 98 candidates declared their intention to eliminate Title IX sex-based equality protections for women, replacing the protected category of "sex’ with ‘gender identity’ - a nebulously defined legal category based on an individual’s subjective identification with a social sex role defined by adherence to sex-stereotypes.
The signatories all state that legal rights for women which mandate equality based on sex are 'cruel’ to males, and 'unscientific’.”
The only forms of rebellion the system allows are those which create the illusion of choice while benefitting the status quo.
Black rights activists are still murdered. Indigenous activists are still murdered. Environmentalists are still murdered. Women are still murdered.
Transgenderism is a false, sanctioned form of rebellion that falls within a framework of the oppressive, capitalist system. It benefits pharmaceutical industries and relies on patriarchy’s lie that gender stereotypes are innate.
The system creates the problem and sells a solution. Gender dysphoria is real, as any woman can attest. Gender, however, is not.
All forms of rebellion can be absorbed into the capitalist framework, especially through the sale of selfhood as an external marker. Under such defense, nothing is sacred and any idea or identity may be bought; there are no limits to what can become a commodity.
This is why activists who pursue changing the system are killed, why transgenderism as an ideology is being embraced worldwide by governments who understand that it benefits men and legally erases patriarchy.
Those who oppose this way of thinking are murdered; those who adopt it as a person choice become lauded mascots.
How do you immediately understand that transgenderism is a false flag?
By how quickly it has been embraced by celebrities and politicians, and how very quickly laws are being changed globally.
Reminder: the US never passed the ERA granting women equal rights.
We have so much work to do. We are on the brink of mass extinctions. What better way to divert from global ecological crises than to label biology itself as socially constructed by men, and who better fit to encourage bio-denial than corporations and celebrities?
It makes complete sense that the death throes of an obsolete system collectively resort to violent gnashings against nature and biology itself, at a time when our very survival as a species depends on healing biological systems.
Anyone who cares about the survival of the planet, or even of humanity itself, ought to shun outright the concept of becoming a true “self” through toxic chemicals. Instead we ought to re-establish a concept of selfhood through actions as opposed to perceptions.
Indeed, human self-identity is also at odds with the survival of the planet, as long as we shape it as dependent on external means.
You can never buy an identity, or medicate yourself into existence; in truth, your existence is nothing but part of an ecological system.
It’s my view that transgenderism goes hand in hand with climate change; that it diverts us from our own extinction by feeding an appetite for validation, to fill a hole created by a destructive system.
So we turn inward, rather than facing our shared reality.
As much as transgenderism is biophobia, extreme societal denial of physical reality, it can’t exist without the very real phenomenon of womb envy, which is to say the acknowledgement that women reproduce life and men play a less significant role in continuing humanity.
Women have emphasized repeatedly that the female ability to reproduce is what men seek to control when they oppress us.
Now, they demand our silence regarding our physical differences.
We are allowed a body, or a mind; never both at the same time.
When and if society at large realizes that this has been but a stepping stone towards transhumanism, the human merging and dependence on technology for survival, it will be too late; and undoubtedly, a man will receive credit for pointing out what is quite obvious to us as women.
Men use patriarchy as a tool to remove women’s right to natural selection, so that men do not have to be judged by the same standards they apply to women; the end result is that even the most physically mediocre male may have access to a woman if he displays personal characteristics which uphold male dominance.
Men and women are not “equally oppressed” under patriarchy.
Such statements are nonsensical as oppression predicates inequality.
Male domination treats women and girls as commodities to be abused and discarded by men.
“A new U.N. report warns ‘the number of human trafficking victims is on the rise’ as criminal gangs and terror groups prey increasingly on women and children to make money and bolster their numbers. The 90-page Global Trafficking in Persons report says that children, who account for 30 percent of all trafficking victims, include 'far more’ girls than boys.”
The pharmaceutical and cosmetic industries transform women-made bodies into man-made bodies.
The rise of trans ideology shows us that there are men who associate womanhood with the facsimile imposed by patriarchy, but even more so, that men believe themselves equally capable of creating males or females, and see themselves as heroes correcting the errors of those made insufficiently by women, when it is a man-made patriarchal system that is at fault.
It exposes patriarchy’s deeply entrenched envy of the female ability to create life, and his desire for complete domination over nature.
She served 15 years for protecting herself from a man who paid to rape her when she was only 16 years old.
A month ago, the Tennessee Supreme Court was unanimous when it ruled against Brown saying she would have to serve at least 51 years of her prison sentenced before she would be eligible for parole.
The ruling by the courts came in response to a lawsuit in which Brown argued her sentenced was unconstitutional, citing a 2012 opinion by the US Supreme Court that said mandatory life sentences without parole for juvenile offenders violate the US Constitution.
Thirty three year old, 6′ 3″ tall Brazillian volley ball player Tifanny Abreu is expected to be one of the first male-born transgender athletes competing in the Olympics at Tokyo 2020.
New rules set by the IOC (International Olympic Committee) in 2016 now allow transgender athletes to compete in women’s sport if they can show their Testosterone levels are below the arbitrary level of 10nM for 12 months. Surgery is not required. 10nM is below the average male Testosterone range (average 23nM) but above the female average of 2.6nM.
Abreu started playing men’s volleyball at age 17 as Rodrigo Abreu, competing at men’s professional league level. After starting to identify as a women in 2012 and changing names to Tiffany, Abreu started playing in the women’s professional league in 2017. In less that a month, Abreu was scoring the highest number of points a game on average and then beat the record set by one of Brazil’s Olympic stars, Tandara Caixeta, for total points scored in a single game: 39.
Few elite athletes speak up about the obvious unfairness and adverse impact on female sportswomen. However, 4 times Olympian for Brazilian Volleyball and bronze medal winner Ana Paula Henkel (now Connelly) has bravely spoken up and written a powerful open letter to the IOC.
Eighty male students at Notre Dame University wrote an open letter in the school newspaper asking for a porn filter on the school’s Wi-Fi.
“This filter would send the unequivocal message that pornography is an affront to human rights and catastrophic to individuals and relationships. We are calling for this action in order to stand up for the dignity of all people, especially women,” the letter read. “The overwhelming majority of contemporary pornography is literally filmed violence against women — violence somehow rendered invisible by the context.”
“Pornography is prostitution through the lens of a camera, but more abusive. It exploits the men and women involved, advances a twisted narrative about human sexuality and harms those who consume it.”
Two more medical schools in Japan have admitted to systematic discrimination against female students this week, the latest institutional scandal to hit the industry after Tokyo Medical University was accused of rigging examination results to suppress the number of women in the student body.
Juntendo University and Kitasato University on Monday conceded that they had set different passing scores for female and male applicants in entrance exams, as well as prioritized male candidates. Female applicants were held to a different standard because “women mature faster mentally than men and their communication ability is also higher [when they take the entrance exam],” Juntendo University’s medical school dean said, according to Japanese newspaper Asahi Shimbun. He added that “in some ways, this was a measure to help male applicants.”
In August, Tokyo Medical University was found to have manipulated exam scores to exclude female students for more than a decade, prompting backlash and a government investigation into entrance exam processes at medical schools across the country. An investigation found that the university had reduced all medical school applicants’ initial test scores by 20%, before inflating the scores of male applicants’ exams. The institution initially defended the policy by arguing that women were more likely to leave the medical profession to pursue motherhood, creating a staffing shortage in the sector.
Juntendo University President Hajime Arai apologized for the discriminatory testing practices, and Kitasato University’s officials have said they will introduce an external committee to address the issue.
The latest news of the academic discrimination comes amid government efforts to raise the profile of women in Japan’s workforce. As of 2017, women made up 43% of the laborers, according to the World Bank. In the same year, Japan ranked 114th out of 144 countries in the World Economic Forum’s Global Gender Gap Report.
Despite Shinzo Abe’s pledge to create “a society in which all women shine,” the Japanese Prime Minister himself faced criticism in October after a reshuffle left only one woman in his 19-member cabinet.
“From the beginning, Cyntoia Brown’s life story has been heartbreaking. She was put up for adoption at the age of 2, and her life after that was a traumatic spiral of verbal abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, and substance abuse.
At the age of 16, she was sold as a sex-slave to a 43-year-old Nashville realtor—Johnny Mitchell Allan. She was subjected to more abuse by Allan, and in a documentary about her life, she described the abuse and how it made her paranoid.
In 2004, she was tried as an adult for killing Allen. She said she shot him because she feared he was going to kill her. During the trial, she said there was always a gun pointed on her during her captivity. She said she was hit, choked and dragged. She feared for her own life, and she acted out of that fear.
It didn’t matter. A jury convicted the then-16-year-old to life in prison. Under the then-Tennessee law, she would only be eligible for release after serving 51 years of her sentence.
The law in Tennessee has since changed. Now anyone 18 or younger cannot even be charged with prostitution, and that change in law came about because of Brown’s case. Still, it has done little to help Brown.”
“As in all war-torn societies, women suffer disproportionately. Afghanistan is still ranked the worst place in the world to be a woman. Despite Afghan government and international donor efforts since 2001 to educate girls, an estimated two-thirds of Afghan girls do not attend school. Eighty-seven percent of Afghan women are illiterate, while 70-80 percent face forced marriage, many before the age of 16. A September watchdog report called the USAID’s $280 million Promote program – billed the largest single investment that the U.S. government has ever made to advance women’s rights globally – a flop and a waste of taxpayer’s money.
Government statistics from 2014 show that 80 percent of all suicides are committed by women, making Afghanistan one of the few places in the world where rates are higher among women. Psychologists attribute this anomaly to an endless cycle of domestic violence and poverty. The 2008 Global Rights survey found that nearly 90 percent of Afghan women have experienced domestic abuse.”
Spain’s governing party wants to penalize clients and those who provide apartments for prostitution activities. The sex workers themselves would not be targeted in any way, as they would be regarded as victims. The bill is inspired by the abolitionist model pioneered by Sweden.
The new law seeks to disincentivize demand by outlawing the purchase of sex. It also considers human trafficking for sex exploitation to be a form of gender violence.
Modelling is one of the gateways to prostitution. Girls are groomed to self-objectify to please men.
“Nicole is a ‘mumager’ and her daughter has been modelling since she was six-years-old. She also manages her daughter’s social media pages.
'Monitoring the direct messages is like a full time job, deleting penis photos, marriage proposals, all sorts of disgusting comments,’ she told 10 daily.
She says one photographer 'convinced her’ to take a picture of her daughter with her pigtails covering her naked chest.”
A Washington State man in February texted to his friends pictures of a partially naked woman on his bed, according to police documents.
The man, Brian Varela, said in the texts that he believed that the woman was overdosing, but bragged that he had had sex with her and that he could do so again. Mr. Varela, who was 19 at the time, then started to play a video game, and fell asleep. When he woke up, the woman, Alyssa Noceda, 18, was dead.
On Thursday, Mr. Varela was sentenced to about three years in prison after he had pleaded guilty to felony charges that included second-degree manslaughter and third-degree rape.
The 34-month sentence was seen by members of Ms. Noceda’s family and others as woefully inadequate, and drew sharp complaints.
Indigenous women are roughly seven times more likely than non-indigenous women to be victims of serial homicide, according to a compiled international dataset of serial killings.
