#me too movement
https://womensrightsny.com/revised-sexual-harassment-law-new-york/
Even if there is only one employee, one 1099 employee and that’s you, and you are being sexually harassed, you can fight back. Also under the same new revised law, effective July 2018, mandatory arbitration will no longer be mandatory for sexual harassment claims in New York.
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When women are not taught anything about sex–that it should be pleasurable for them, that their partners should listen to them and care about their needs, that they are allowed to say no, that they should never be coerced, guilted, or forced into having sex–women go into the sexual phase of their lives completely unprepared. It leaves them very vulnerable to being used, manipulated, and abused.
- Mandy Nicole, ‘The Purity Problem’
no it’s not the end of #MeToo. #MeToo should have included men (and everyone else) from the beginning and now it does. stop acting like including ALL victims means the movement is now “ruined” or whatever
The World of the Married is one drama I look back on for some of the life quotes regarding relationships. The drama talks about infidelity, but what makes it successful is because the story dives into the reasons or rather excuses each woman tries to convince themselves in order to stay in the same toxic and/or unloving relationships.
The thing is every woman will have rationized one time or another the reason why she chose to hang on, to stay in a relationship and not leave when it was so clear what the correct choice should have been. The question is why? Why does it take the woman so long to leave after seeing the various red flags? Why does she keep hanging on even after the physical and emotional abuse? Why does she keep allowing the man to lie, cheat, disrespect, abuse, and take advantage of her? The reason is, what benefit does she receive from being in it?
There are many reasons like: I’m no longer lonely, I finally have a boyfriend and can show off to friends, I want to keep the family together, I can’t support myself without him, I feel wanted (sexually..), I don’t want to move back in with my parents, no one will want me after we break up or divorce, he is the only one who understands me, I can’t let friends and family know I’m a failure at love, etc. But mainly, the reason for staying was hope that he will change and hoping he will eventually give you what you want (such as marriage, commitment, or children).
So how long does it take to wake up from the same endless cycle of heartache, to eventually realize that the man will never change? And that the inevitable result is either a breakup, separation, divorce or worst yet – murder, death.
As a woman, I’ve always felt we need to look out for each other and call out on the man’s bad behavior. Why should we, women, be subjected to being sexualized and fetishized while tolerant of their bad behaviors, feeding into a man’s stereotype of women having to be submissive and domesticated? To turn a blind eye and enable his bad behaviors while indirectly hurting yourself emotionally?
Looking back, waking up from that fantasy was the feeling of betrayal. It was the feeling of “I’ve done so much for this person, gave up so much, my self respect, my time, my money, losing myself in the process, and yet he didn’t care.” What hurts even more was knowing that in reality, he never loved you. What he loved was just knowing someone wanted him, someone was caring for his needs, someone was gullible enough to believe his lies, someone made excuses for his bad behaviors, and someone allowed him to get away with things.
What’s even harder to let go are the men who you believe you form a connection with, who you believe they truly understand you, and that you two are soulmates. The only problem: the timing is not right or external factors such as parents’ disapproval, distance, they are married, etc. What I have learned so far is, life is supposed to be easy and simple. I don’t believe the universe is trying to make things difficult for you by causing problems. It’s usually the person’s stubbornness that leads to suffering and a lesson unlearned needs repeated heartache to finally wisen up.
If two people are meant to be, timing and situation will be right. Everything will be easy. No hiding from friends or family, they will love and approve of you, they won’t be attached, different pieces of the puzzle will all line up to create the best situation for you.
The other thing is, perhaps the guy had different intentions starting the relationship with you and yet you refuse to believe or oblivious to see. The truth is a guy will always give hints of what he wants. If they are honest, they will be upfront with what kind of relationship they want from you. They will make it known to the world where you stand in their life. If they want to be deceptive then you will hear excuses after excuses, uncertainty after uncertainty. And why would you want a man who is incapable of knowing what he wants, and not knowing what future he sees for himself? That is a disaster waiting to happen, long hours of foreseeable arguments and headaches.
Life is too short to wait for a guy forever. Why do you need to give up your years of youth that amount to a few years together?
Love can be found everywhere, but the most important love is self love. The person who will always be there for you is yourself so treat her with kindness, with respect, and most importantly with love. A man can always wait, but the world will not wait for you to be awesome.
Slow to start, Japan is finally having a #MeToo moment
On Saturday afternoon, some 300 protesters descended outside inner-city Shinjuku Station in Tokyo to rally against sexual harassment and a deeply entrenched culture in the country of victim blaming and forced silence.
The bustling Shinjuku Station serves 3.6 million passengers every day. Every weekend, the surrounding streets burst at the seams with pedestrians. Similarly, the demonstration here, with a stage wedged in between a cluster of high-rise retail buildings, was almost at capacity by start time.
Participants formed a sea of anti-sexism placards while as many as a thousand curious bystanders and other supporters gathered on the sidelines for an hourlong program featuring a dozen speakers.
The #MeToo movement captured the nation’s attention earlier this month after a top-ranking Finance Ministry official was accused by a female reporter of repeated sexual harassment. The official, Junichi Fukuda, 58, denies sexual misconduct despite a secret recording published online that revealed the bureaucrat asking the reporter, “Can I kiss you?” and “Can I hug you?” and “Can I touch your breasts?” during an interview.
Read the full story at pri.org.
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Tyler Blevins is arguably the best gamer in arguably the world’s biggest video game Fortnite. Blevins makes enormous amounts of money streaming his gameplay on Twitch. Ala Mike Pence, Blevins does not play with women though because “it’s just not worth it.”
The Verge’s Megan Farokhmanaresh writes Ninja’s unwillingness to stream with women is a problem that points to a larger problem.
Twitch’s biggest streamer, Tyler “Ninja” Blevins, doesn’t stream with women. … “If I have one conversation with one female streamer where we’re playing with one another, and even if there’s a hint of flirting, that is going to be taken and going to be put on every single video and be clickbait forever,” he said.
Unsurprisingly, Blevins’ belief that “the only way to avoid that [gossip] is to not play with [women] at all,” has been divisive.
Interestingly, Businesweek wrote an article titled Meet Jessica Blevins, the 26-year-old wife and manager of the most popular video-game player in the world right now. Thar article states:
Jessica Blevins, 26, is the wife and manager of the Twitch streamer Tyler “Ninja” Blevins, one of the best “Fortnite” players in the world.
Jessica is one of the reasons Tyler is so successful — she manages his entire business, including coordinating the handful of people who are part of “Team Ninja.”
Having watched the #MeToo movement morph from an important means to root out monsters over their abuses to an irresponsible means to settle scores and gain noteriety over petty insults, can anyone blame the woman in charge of Ninja’s gaming empire (and life) from insulating him from it?
Tyler Belevins said “Have just celebrated my one year anniversary, my wife and my family will always be the most important thing to me and I am doing my best to protect them.”
More power to him.
The best way men can end sexual harassment to women is to simply not sexually harrass a women and call out their male friends for sexual harassment.
