Scammer: ronaldosantosdaddy

NEVER SEND MONEY TO ANYONE

Scammer: Tom-and-life

These never cease to end.

Again…. these “daddies” are really lacking creativity in their scamming.

Swimmingshepherdpizzapony

This guy was elaborate and talked and sent pictures for weeks before pulling this scam.

Never send money or your account info. Do not give your name and address.

TUMBLR SCAM DADDY - Adrewjsmith

Will ask for your bank or cashapp login so he can “direct deposit” money into your account. Saying “it’s a trust thing”. DONT FALL FOR THAT

Another scam daddy looking for you to “verify” yourself by sending him money.

NEVER SEND MONEY

SALT SALT SALT. Fucked me and gave me no money!! Pressured and encouraged me to do cocaine! Lied about his age by over a decade and tricked me into sex because he spend the day with me on his “birthday” so he could get birthday sex. This was the first guy I met off SA or ever sugar related so I was clueless. Thought he would give me my allowance after the sex. But no. Never gave it to me. Has a drug and alcohol problem and has 3 DUI’s. Stay away from Jay Vanesa!!

Prepare yourself for the bullshit I went through. Said he was new to SA and lived in Sarasota which is two hours away from me. Told he he would cover my travel expenses and give me cash when I got there. My ass takes a $90 uber to Sarasota, meets him at Starbucks. He’s handsome and the conversation is good, and then he asks me about my allowance. I tell him what I am looking for and how many times a month. He offers me ¼ of that and wants overnights! I’m like I’m sorry I just can’t do that. So he looks at me, gets up, and walks out of Starbucks. I’m like WTH?!?! I follow after him quickly and I’m like “okay it’s too bad we’re not going to work out, can I have money so I can call my uber?” He’s like “no. You can stay the night with me and I’ll give you $400.” I was like “Fuck you HEL NO. Give me my uber money!!” He literally just turned around and walked away. I was screaming losing my mind and yelling all types of profanity then called my uber. All an all I was out $200 I uber fees that night and he propositioned me. Fuck this guy!!!

Went to dinner with him, had a fabulous time. Told me for our next date he was a fabulous cook and he had to show me! Invited me to his place were we had a great dinner and nice convo. Started to feel on me and I told him no, we need to discuss and agree on an arrangement before anything sexual happens. Became very violent. I started on oral because he was beside him self enraged but he tried AGAIN to have sex with me. I lost my shit on him and he pelted his phone across the kitchen breaking it and cussing me out. Telling me I’m only here for money and he’s sure I would sleep with him if he threw a wad of cash on the table. I got an uber to pick me up and got the fuck out of there! His name is Mike and he is in the St. Pete area

This guy is in the Columbus and Cleveland, Ohio area. We met two times and he seemed genuine the first time and we texted frequently. The second time he was completely pushy and only wanted sex. We agreed to $1000/week and he gave me $113 and told me to leave. Do not message or meet up with him! He is fake and a liar.

Psa:

YOUR COMPETITION IS NOT OTHER SUGAR BABIES.

I cannot stress this enough.

If you find yourself comparing your sugar journey to others, you can fall into the trap of frustration and anger.

I’ve received some private messages expressing feelings of inadequacy, asking how I as well as others who post about their SDs have been able to get where we are, when on their own side they haven’t had such luck…

PLEASE remember every single one of us have a different story, and a different starting point, so you simply cannot base your progress off of someone else’s experiences.

I personally have been in the bowl for 5 years now, so trust me when I say nothing happens over night. For every success story I share, trust and believe there’s just as many flops as well. For every SD trip I talk about, there’s just as many failed dates and awkward meetings I’ve sat through as well.

When I share pictures and updates about my time spent with my SDs, it’s never meant to put anyone else down, and certainly not to brag or make anyone feel bad about their own journey in the bowl. I share my experiences to remind other sugar babies that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and that staying focused will eventually pay off if you let it.

Your only competition as a sugar baby is the person you were yesterday.

Many of us when we started out in the bowl had to overcome feelings of anxiety, fear, and just general discomfort as we tackled a whole new way of life. If you have dealt with these feelings, you should be proud of yourself for just that! Many people cannot get past this step, so you’re already ahead of the game here!

If you took the time to make a profile on Seeking Arrangement, or any other sugar baby platform, and if you take the time to check your inbox regularly- you should be proud of yourself.

If you take the time to go free lance in hopes of connecting with a sugar daddy, you should be proud of yourself.

If you take the time to make an effort to get all dressed up, and to make yourself look fabulous for a SD date, you should be proud of yourself.

If a man hands you any amount of money just for being you, you should be proud of yourself.

All these things put you on a path to success, whether the results are immediate or not, you should be pretty damn proud of yourself- and I’m proud of you as well.

5 years ago I was 17 and living in my third foster home, separated from my only brother, recovering from the sexual abuse of my previous foster “father”.

I was happy to even receive a message on SA offering a free meal and a mere hundred dollars.

Today, I have several long terms SDs who are putting me through college, have supported me to where I actually have a savings account, and take me on trips around the world.

Looking back on where I have started, I have come a long way- and none of this would have been possible if I would have given up and gotten discouraged after all the failed meetings, and SD encounters that made me want to stop being in the bowl all together.

I am living proof that if you stick to it, and persevere through all the experiences, you will allow yourself to have the life you’ve always wanted.

If you look back on the person you were when you started your sugar baby experience, and if you’re doing even only slightly better then your previous self, hell even if you have $20 more dollars to your name- you’re living proof too.

And that’s pretty awesome if you ask me.

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Update: October 24, 2019

Exciting news! I officially now have a residence in New York. One of my SDs who lives full time up there leased an apartment for me in Manhattan, so I can come and go as I please without having to stay in a hotel every time.

The view is absolutely beautiful, and located right next to Central Park. (where I looove going on runs.)

While I won’t be living here full time, (since my college is in my home state), I will definitely be making more trips up there as my schedule allows. Do any of you SBs live or frequent NY as well? Would love to meet up if so for drinks and to just hang out if so! Shoot me a message babydolls. (I don’t know a lot of people up here, and my NY sugar daddy stays pretty busy. It gets lonely!)

I hope all of you have been enjoying this spooky season of October, and that your bank accounts are extra full this month!

xo

lex

September 30th 2019

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Last day in Hawaii with my SD Cal!

It’s been a wonderfully relaxing week, and even found the time to catch up on homework!

Cal had an all day convention two of the days we’ve been here, so I have had quite a bit a of time to relax in solidarity! But he and I had a great time at the bars, an exquisite spa, and even walked through a local’s market sale- beautiful handmade clothing and jewelry galore.

After chatting with some of you guys recently, I see a repeated theme of concern when it comes to traveling with a SD. Awhile back in June I created a post as to offer safety and other tips when it comes to meeting a new SD that requires long distance travel, but after the initial meeting there can sometimes be a variation of new expectations.

While I ALWAYS recommend having your own hotel/Airbnb while visiting your SD in his home state, I also recommend having your own room even when you guys travel together.

**Tip for maximizing your experience while traveling; always request a private room.** Let me explain, while I feel very comfortable with Cal after being in an arrangement for 2.5 years, when we are traveling out of his home state- I always ask that he books two rooms.

I am the kind of person who values their private time, and needs to have a quiet space to retreat to when necessary. Does this mean I don’t stay the night in his hotel room? No, not necessarily. Many nights I do! But I like my own space to get ready in, do yoga in, FaceTime/call friends, and honestly sometimes I just need a break from my SD in general. ‍♀️

I’m not withholding physical intimacy, or taking large periods of time away from being with him, simply asking for the respect of being recognized as an individual who expects certain things in order to feel most at peace while not in my own home. (The opportunity to have your own room will not always be an option, especially if your SD is renting a house/airbnb and there isn’t a room across the hall he can snag for you otherwise. Something to keep in mind as not having your own room shouldn’t always be a deal breaker when considering travel.)

I highly recommend making this request of your SD when you guys travel as well if possible! There’s nothing wrong for asking to be comfortable!

Anyway, before I board my plane back to the states I need to finish up smoking this weed , and head up from the beach bar to pack! (I’m including below on this thread a funny message I got on seeking today, a painfully accurate deduction of the climate of SA from a sugar daddy )

Hope you guys found time to both cash out, and relax this weekend!

xo

lex

Update: September 23rd, 2019

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Hey guys!

Happy Begining of Fall!

I’ve been meaning to make this post for a minute now, but I’ve been running around and staying busy these last few weeks- between my college courses, working, and back to back travels I’ve had little time to take a deep breath and relax.

But I’m in Hawaii this week, and I couldn’t be more excited for the opportunity to enjoy some quiet time and sun. (And hella weed went on a run first thing when we landed, and literally ran into my new plug for the week. ) “Cal” one of my SDs of 2.5 years decided it was time to escape out to his beach house in East Honolulu for the week instead of spending our usual time in California. I live on the other side of the country, so my arrangement with Cal is that as long as he continues to provide a monthly allowance, I visit him for a week once every other month. While I adore my visits out to California; I’m happy to spend time anywhere out of my home state even just for a little bit!

Anyway! A couple posts ago I mentioned that I was stuck at the airport on my way to meet my POT/SD “Jay”- I eventually made it down safely to Kentucky, and was there for three days a couple weeks ago. Officially moving his status from potential, to sugar daddy.

It was actually a really fun several days spent down there; but as Jay expressed more about the type of arrangement he was ideally seeking, I had to keep it real with him and explain my schedule isn’t exactly as open as he’d like. He was insisting that we shoot for me flying down to KY once a month, and he would provide financial compensation at that time. (I still always prefer a SD who hands out $$ regardless of time spent, but I think I can get him there. Already convinced him to send money a couple times for shopping and a massage appointment.) But as a full time student with a job, and a life for that matter, I can’t commit to anything out of state monthly. He was bummed about this, but understood.

Ultimately we agreed that playing things by ear was the best thing to do for now! We would find time for me to travel to him based upon availability as it happens, and if Jay had the time and desire- he could even pop over to see me, as he does business in a city often that’s only a couple hours from my current home.

Jay sent a lovely arrangement of flowers when I returned home from my visit with him, including some beautiful purple and pinks- my favorite colors. I love his thoughtfulness and genuinely kind personality. It’s a rarity these days to meet someone as charismatic and humorous as he. Happy I had the time to go back and see him after our first initial meeting in May! If only he didn’t repeat the same stories from his youth over and over

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I met both Cal and Jay on seeking arrangement. Which I know gets a lot of shit on here from many sugar babies frustrated with the experience- and I completely understand where you ladies are coming from. Often times logging on to SA means combing through many ignorant messages filled with inappropriate comments and private picture requests. It’s annoying and down right disappointing sometimes! But with patience and some finesse, there is still some hope on SA to find a real genuine SD, who will offer you much more than “drinks and $300 to meet up tonight”. ‍♀️

Seeking Arrangement tips/reminders:

1.)Make sure your profile is in its best condition.

- Do you have enough content on your profile? Not suprisingly, adding just a bit more information than the typical SB page shows that you’re serious, and genuine about the process. Doing so also helps make your profile stand out from a sea of other potential girls! Adding a bit more “fun” causal information about yourself- like mentioning a hobby, or maybe what you’re studying in school gives your page more personality and detail. This is the POT/SDs first impression of you, make it count!

- Many SBs fall into the trap of only mentioning what THEY are going to receive out of the deal on their profile, which can be a turn off for POT/SDs who can smell desperation and money grubbing a mile away. Add the phrase “mutually beneficial” somewhere in your profile, or a comparable equivalent, it puts the thought in a SDs mind that you are aware that they too will also be receiving something out of the arrangement. It’s a given that these men are going to help you financially, they’re supposed to be a SD after all, so take the time to mention things you can provide for them as well! Include more specifics to outweigh just the financial assistance aspect- like mentioning your favorite types of dates, or adventures you’re looking forward to pursuing with them. Someone who writes about how they like to try out new bars in the city, or touring art museums, will be immensely more appealing than someone who touches on how they’re a broke student in need of cash quick. - If you are willing to travel out of state to meet up with a POT/SD, make sure you say so on your profile! This casts a bigger net for potentials who don’t happen to be in your immediate area but are still interested in meeting.

2.) Be willing to send the first message.

- Waiting to receive a message from POTs can be time consuming and unpredictable. There’s nothing wrong with being the first one to reach out with a cute introductory message expressing interest in their profile, and inviting them to check yours out. Favoriting a member’s profile shows a little extra interest as well!

- When looking through profiles, add filters to your searches to find more serious candidates. Selecting things such as “Diamond members”, background check, and premium weeds out profiles that are poorly thrown together and run by in-genuine salt daddy’s.

- Be aware of the age displayed on the POTs profile. He’s in his twenties? Very seldom someone this young has the financial means to be a genuine sugar daddy. Honestly 35+ is a more reliable age group.

- “Hi” doesn’t quite catch the eye, especially in an inbox filled with messages from other people who might have taken the time to craft a real sentence. Put some thought into what you’re saying as to showcase yourself in the best way possible. Compliment their profile if they have a nice detailed bio filled out, or set of pictures uploaded- flattery goes a long way with the male mind.

- If you are comfortable with pursuing arrangements with out of state POTs, adjust the location settings in your search. Highlight cities you’d like to travel to, or would feel comfortable traveling to when it comes to meeting up with POT/SDs, doing so will expand your list of potentials!

3.) Make sure the photos on your profile are the best.

- Including clear photos of both your face and body will increase the chances of a POT expressing interest in you. Naturally, these are men we are dealing with, so the physical appearance is undoubtedly an important aspect for them.

- Low quality, or Snapchat filter filled photos should be avoided. You can do better then this if you take the time! And you should. Whether that means dedicating an entire afternoon of selfie taking, putting in the effort pays off when a POT comes across your profile and is simply compelled to reach out after viewing your high quality breathtaking photos.

4.) Be Patient!

- Finding a quality sugar daddy usually won’t happen over night, this can be a process of months for many, so don’t get discouraged if things aren’t happening as quickly as you’d like.

- Monitor your inbox regularly to stay on top of messages and responses, the faster the reply- the more likely to engage in a conversation that is truly going somewhere.

I hope all of you guys enjoyed the end of the summer, and are kicking ass in school so far if you’re currently studying!

May all of you have abundant blessings and luck this week! Talk soon.

xo

lex

There really are two kinds of guys on seeking

Hey Babydolls!

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Currently stuck at the airport, but making the most of this ridiculous delay with my second glass of pino

AND I do have exciting news, I’m finally flying down to spend more time with the POT/SD “Jay”, whom I wrote about in May.

(That was the gentlemen who brought me to the Kentucky derby that I met through SA.)

Last time Jay paid for travel expenses, 5k for me, and a split of the winnings from the derby. This time we agreed to a very similar arrangement, but there’s no derby events this time around, so fingers crossed for some successful shopping instead.

Stay tuned for a formal update on my trip with Jay coming up here! I’m excited ✈️

Until then..

I’m extremely bored over here stuck in this airport terminal! Send me some asks ladies and gentlemen!!They can pertain from anything sugar related or personal.

Hope you guys are starting this new week refreshed, rested, and ready to secure some serious bag.

xo

lex

Hey babydolls!

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Not an update- but I just found the coolest website ever.

Meet “Kitestring”.

It’s a personal safety service. This website will actually call or text your cell number to check in on you at a preset time you’ve programmed. Not exactly a new concept on the block, but this website is different! Most other apps/services currently available have to be triggered by the user performing some action, like pushing a big red button,shaking the phone, or submitting a codeword. Unfortunately, if caught in a bad situation- you usually do not have the opportunity to take such actions, and very seldom even get to your phone for that matter. That’s why Kitestring is a little different—it’s triggered by your inaction. If you don’t respond to the call or text, Kitestring alerts the emergency contacts that you set up ahead of time, (whether that be the police, friends or family) with your current location and pre-saved alert message.

The website is extremely user friendly, and you can of course always extend your ETA if things are going longer then planned but you’re safe, and you can always check in early.

Meeting up with a new POT/SD or client? It’s the perfect safety net. You can go into your dates more confident that your safety is ensured. Or maybe you know in advance you’re going to get stuck with an extremely talkative person and you’d like to have a scheduled “get out quick” plan, lol. Whatever the situation may be, how cool would it be to have a service on deck that will reach out to you no matter what!

The website offers a free plan, which gives you 3 opportunities a month to use their services- but to receive unlimited access it’s literally only $3 US dollars. 3 bucks to have a personal online security guard- um hell yeah!? Your safety is truly priceless ladies and gentlemen.

Just thought I would share this with you loves, there is value in having your own back!!

Kitestring

xo

lex

Sugaring as a Sexual Assault Survivor

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I will never forget the first time I gathered the courage to talk about my sugaring with a friend I had in real life. I was 17 years old at the time, and had been active for nearly 6 months. (Before proceeding let me clarify, I do not condone nor encourage underage sugar activity for ANYONE. But this is my story.)

The reaction was as expected, negative, and I watched a wave of confusion and disgust wash over her face. I was shaking.

“How could you be having sex with old men? Just surprises me after what HE did to you. Sounds fucking stupid to me, like you don’t know these guys, do you want it to happen again? Did you really learn nothing?”

He- the only word we used to describe the man who was sexually abusing me from ages 11 to 15. He was my foster father, but I use the word “father” very loosely. He was never a dad to me, nor any sense of that word.

I felt more shame, and anger in that moment with my friend then I had ever planned for. I began to second guess everything. Did I WANT it to happen again? That burned inside my mind for awhile. The situation in which you consent to having sex for money is very very VERY different then that of being assaulted as a child, and yet she had me feeling as though my experiences were discredited because I was allowing other men to use my body.

That was a dark time in my life, was I really saying what “he” had done to me was okay all because I chose to involve my self in sex work?

At the time I struggled viciously with those kinds of thoughts.

Here I am 22 now and free from the burden of that disgusting mindset.

YOU ARE NOT ANY LESS OF A SURVIVOR BECAUSE YOU ARE A SEX WORKER.

YOUR EXPERIENCES ARE VALID AND MATTER NO LESS THEN THOSE OF OTHER OCCUPATIONS.

Please don’t ever forget that. Your body is your body no matter what. No one can rob you of it’s ownership and value. With being a survivor comes strength, beauty, and endurance. What you choose to do with your powerful body will be amazing.

If, like me, your body brings wealth, prosperity, and success through life as a sex worker- then that is something to celebrate. Be joyous in your choices, set yourself free from any thoughts that tell yourself otherwise.

You are a survivor.

You are a sex worker.

You are a bad ass.

xo

lex

Update: June 3rd, 2019

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Hey Babydolls!

Tonight is my last night at the beach with my S/D Cal. It’s been an amazing trip, did a lot of shopping today, and spent quite a bit of time at the beach! The new bags, relaxation and daiquiris were much needed!

After my first initial postings about traveling to see two of my out of state SDs, I received a lot of messages asking for tips/advice on meeting with POT/SDs that require long distance travel arrangements. So while I’m sitting here on the beach, I’ve decided to compile a list of things I hope offer some answers and insight on the frequent questions I’ve been getting!

BEFORE meeting

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1.) Make sure you REALLY know who you’re traveling to meet.

• Know his real name, a photo form of government issued I.D is a great way to confirm this.

• FaceTime/ Skype/ Snapchat Vid Call him, or oovoo him. (He can fake his pictures, but not likely a video chat.)

• Look him up! Run his name on google, and

a background check platform.

2.) Make sure you guys are on the same page, about EVERYTHING.

• The compensation you are receiving

should be clearly stated, EXACT numbers.

• Form of compensation should be clear as well. (cash, direct deposit, etc.)

• Compensation should always be given up front, make sure he is aware and prepared.

• Has sex been discussed in a respectful and mutual manner? Whether you are comfortable, OR NOT, with intimacy should be clear. (Condoms are a standard ladies and gentlemen, for your own health do no risk it. Bringing your own supply ensures an untampered with option at the ready.)

3.) Making Travel/Lodging Arrangements.

• Always first request an airline voucher/gift card so you can manage your own travel arrangements.

• If the POT insists on taking care of your tickets themself, always call the airport and confirm the legitimacy of the information you are provided.

• If the POT offers their private jet, always request to fly commercial first for the initial meeting. Explain you are not comfortable boarding a private aircraft until after becoming acquainted with them. Private planes are much more comfortable and tend to take off quicker however, definitely utilize this option after you are comfortable you’ve had a successful meeting.

•First meeting trips should only be between 2-3 days.

• Request private appropriate lodging. There is no reason to stay in the POT’s personal home/condo/flat. This is a must for your safety, as well as privacy.

• Research the hotel your POT suggests. Confirm it is up to your standards, and that its location is in a safe neighborhood.

• The hotel room should be in YOUR name. Confirm this by calling the hotel itself, and have them confirm your reservation.

4.) Safety First

• ALWAYS tell someone where you are going, when you are going, and with whom you are meeting.

• If possible, tell a trusted individual you know in real life all of the above information.

• If for privacy and discretion reasons you are unable to alert someone in your real life, ALWAYS alert a sugar sister. We are a loving community of support, and I for one have been blessed with many friendships through the bowl, and I’m sure many of you have as well. There are so many of us who are more then happy to be a friend and confidant to any sugar babes out there looking for a support team. (Most of my layovers and plane transfers I spend talking/facetiming my sugar babe friends, seriously so amazing to be able to talk to someone who is likeminded and knows what experiences you encounter! This can also really help shake any nerves you may have; by talking it out with someone who understands! ) My inbox is always open to you babydolls! ((Sometimes messages get burried due to an overload of spam ))

• Upon arrival after your plane lands, request private transportation arrangements that do not include your POT present. Getting into the car alone with him before checking into the hotel and settling in is not ideal or safe. Your first meeting should be public, not in his vehicle. Suggest he sends you an Uber/lyft gift card, or some taxi fare that will cover the full amount of the trip from the airport to your lodging space. This way you can arrange your own arrival to the hotel, allowing yourself time to freshen up, as well as time to get comfortable- And it’s safer!

• ALWAYS travel with emergency money on your debit/credit card. Should something go wrong, or change last minute, you need to be able to adapt! Whether that be getting yourself a new hotel room or plane ticket, you should be prepared to take care of yourself if necessary.

5.) Packing Guidance

• Discuss what the plans will be for the time you spend down there. Will you be going to the Yacht club? Music theater? Louvre de france? Knowing your plans will help you pack appropriately and efficiently!

• Check out the weather forecast for where you are traveling to, plan accordingly.

• Pack a few back-up outfits! A zipper can break, a dress can snag, but you can be one step ahead of these fashion disasters.

•Review TSA guidelines as to what amounts of liquid and powder can be brought through security. (3.4 ounces) Double check all the cosmetics you are bringing! There’s nothing worse then having an agent rummage through your belongings and confiscating a precious product all because it’s size is an issue!

•Pack travel size cosmetics you are comfortable with! Traveling to meet a POT is not the time to discover you have an allergy, or just overall unsatisfied in a product you purchased just because it was in the travel size section. Buy travel canisters/containers you can transfer the products you’re already using into instead.

• Pepper spray in the the purse is always a nice touch!

• Always leave a little space in your luggage for any shopping scores. However, if your shopping was EXTRA successful, don’t be afraid to let your POT know you need additional luggage space to be purchased. Also note, often times airlines will charge extra for more baggage to be included, remind him of that fee he needs to take care of as well.

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If your POT has any objections to any of the above, trust your gut and tell him goodbye, sugar daddies are replaceable- you are not. Your safety is key, never compromise yourself during this process for any reason, there is no payout worth your life.

But don’t forget to have fun! Breathe! This trip is about meeting a potential man who is going to take care of you the way you deserve to be! Enjoy the journey

xo

lex

Another day, another idiot

Nothing more annoying then a photo request without any initial context or conversation , no sweetie show me you’re worth my while first

Silly men

xo

lex