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By Sonia Mittal
As many excited feminists know, there are a growing number of initiatives taking place to raise awareness about sexual assault on college campuses in the United States. One of the most influential has been the “Carry the Weight” initiative started by Emma Sulkowicz at Columbia University. After being raped by a classmate who the school cleared of the crime, she vowed to carry a mattress with her as long as she and the accused student attended the same school in order to represent the weight she has to carry around with her every day since this traumatic experience. This even resulted in her receiving a standing ovation as she carried the mattress across stage on her graduation day in order to show the lack of action taken by the administration at larger universities. This movement is one of many that has gathered force in the recent years in order to spur more conversations about sexual assault especially within younger generations.
Another important instance is the “Enough is Enough” legislation in which all colleges in New York State are required to adopt a uniform definition of affirmative consent, must ensure an amnesty policy in which students coming forth with incidents of sexual assault are immune to campus violations surrounding drug and alcohol use, and have to create a unit within the State Police that is trained to respond to crimes of sexual assault.
While I personally have never experienced sexual assault, I have been heavily involved in encouraging conversations surrounding this topic in order to remove the stigma behind this type of violence on my college campus. Yet, after various workshops and trainings I have realized how even though there are now numerous stories in the media and people coming forth talking about their personal experiences and ways to survive from such a trauma, there is more work that needs to be done to make sure that the voices of South Asians all around the nation are heard. That is not to say that South Asian names are not extremely apparent in the media today. From Mindy KalingandJhumpa LahiritoPriyanka ChopraandKiran Gandhi, Indian women have been making headlines for their amazing job using different platforms to tackle important women’s rights issues. Yet, while there is a significant amount of progressive work being done in organizations like Sakhi and on college campuses, there is more to be done to make conversations surrounding healthy relationships and sexuality more normalized within South Asian communities.
Through watching Bollywood movies, talking to friends, and reflecting on my own relationship with my parents and extended family, I have come to the conclusion that there are certain widespread cultural ideals that often silence issues of sexuality and gender within the South Asian community. Discussing these topics is essential in raising awareness about sexual assault and domestic violence from a very young age. I have been lucky enough to grow up in a household where my parents have been very open about having conversations involving sex and relationships. My mom has discussed how a partner should be treating me, has made sure that I am respected in every relationship that I am part of including that between family members and friends, and has warned me of the signs that indicate unsafe situations. My relationship with my mom has influenced the way I interact with men on a day to day basis. I pay attention to the words other people use when talking to me, and if I start to feel hurt or misspoken to in anyway, whether the impact of the comment was intentional or unintentional, I separate myself from the situation immediately. I am also aware of physical connection and know how to say stop if I feel that I am being touched in a way that makes me feel uncomfortable. I feel more safe and secure knowing that I can discuss incidents like these with my parents and that I am not alone.
However, even just glancing at the relationships I know many of my South Asian friends have with their parents or even looking at my own relationship with my grandparents, there are so many differences that can certainly lead to a misunderstanding or lack of information about relationships, communication, and sexuality. Without an understanding of what constitutes a good or bad relationship, how one should be treated by others, and even how to stop certain uncomfortable situations from happening, students are going to feel less inclined to speak up and offer support to others who are brought up in a closed, more secretive household.
In order to be agents of change in gender justice movements and push back against environments that claim that women can not be sexual, it is important that women in the South Asian community speak out as much as possible. Whether this means volunteering for an organization like Sakhi or working at colleges to remove the cultural taboo around topics like relationships, sexual assault, or sexuality, it is important to create and foster spaces where young women can participate. Students should start to teach both elders and younger people the importance of having a relationship where topics like sex and gender can be discussed, whether this means discussing this with parents or serving as a role model for siblings. While change is often difficult and we know it’s culturally important to respect our elders, it is vital that women within the South Asian community assert themselves and create and nurture environments where our voices are heard.
Sonia Mittal is a sophomore at Brown University studying Economics and Psychology. She grew up in New York City and has always been extremely passionate about issues surrounding women’s rights. She has done a lot of work in infertility clinics and looking at women’s reproductive rights both in the United States and in India. In college, she is heavily involved in the South Asian Students Association, is on the executive board of Women in Business, and works with various organizations to bring awareness to others about sexual assault on college campuses.