#traditional marriage
Even the most submissive of wives will test you from time to time. These tests might be intentional, or they might be subconscious, but the purpose of these tests are to ensure that she is safe in your leadership.
A test might like look outright intentional disobedience, or it might be more subtle - testing a boundary, pushing you to get a reaction, or generally bratty behavior.
The key to passing these tests are to recognize them for what they are. She’s looking to see if you will remain a strong oak in the face of adversity.
It’s easy to fail these tests - losing your temper, reacting in kind, or letting her attitude change yours. On the other side of the spectrum, you can also fail these tests by being aloof, indifferent, or giving in. These reactions tell her that she is not safe with you, and impairs her ability to fully submit.
Passing the test can be equally easy by exercising a technique called amused mastery.
Imagine that you were play-wrestling with your kids. You’d allow them to pin you, and it wouldn’t hurt your pride. You wouldn’t take them as a serious threat. Even though they might be using every ounce of their strength to try to take you down, you’d see no need to match their effort. You’d find the whole thing fun and cute, confident in the fact that you know (and your kids know) that if they took things to far you could easily bring an end to it.
So it should be when your wife tests you. You shouldn’t match her emotional level, or get sucked into a battle. Your reaction to her should be loving, secure, and somewhat amused.
Amused Mastery in Action
My wife recently announced that she was on a laundry strike. “A what?”, I asked, arching my eyebrow with a mild grin. She then proceeded to tell me that there was too much laundry to do, and it wasn’t fair that she had to do all of it, so she was going on strike.
Now, there are a couple ways I could have failed this test.
I could have tried to logically explain to her we laundry was her responsibility and that if she had done more during the week, there wouldn’t be so much to do right now (pro-tip: if your plan for navigating your wife’s tests involves the use of logic … best of luck with that)
I could have lost my temper and yelled at her, which would have probably resulted in the laundry getting done but her feeling unsafe in my leadership.
I could have acquiesced with a “yes dear”. This would have also left her feeling unsafe in my leadership.
Here’s how it actually played out. I’m not saying it is the perfect approach, but hopefully it illustrates amused mastery in action. Picking the story back up …
Her: “(some convoluted reasoning on why she was on a laundry strike)
Me: “Ok, so you are on strike. Where is your picket sign?”
Her, stomp foot: “I’m serious!”
Me: “I know dear, this is all very serious. I guess I’ll need to do some laundry then. In fact, I should get started now.”
Her: “Good! Hey, what are you doing?”
Me: (Unzipping the back of her dress) “I’m doing laundry! Let’s get these in the washer ASAP”
Her: (starting to giggle but trying to remain very serious) “This isn’t what I meant!”
Me: (Undoing her bra and lowering her panties) “Sorry, but I am doing the laundry now and nothing can stop me”
Her: “We’ll see about that!”
Fast-forward. I’m lying in bed in a post-sex haze when I hear her quietly tip-toe out of the bedroom to start a load of laundry.
my daydream of feminization
I try not to post politics here, but I can’t resist this one.
If you’re not actively influencing your child someone else is.
I remember one time I was in a trad relationships group and a lot of people complaining about finding someone. So I made a post asking how those who were married found their spouse.
The overwhelming answer was they started as FWB or a hookup from places like Tinder.
So I guess I’m not the only one who has been going about finding his future wife all wrong.
This one’s for the boys. You know who you are!
I’ve noticed there’s been a lot more toxic postings in the trad community and it needs to be addressed. There’s a lot of trolls and troublemakers who are specifically attempting to make a trad relationship look wrong and vile. Or attempt to insert various things that are innately mutually exclusive of a trad relationship, such as poly or trans, and subvert the community by forcing inclusion. And there’s many who are bringing up the classics: How trad is racist, abusive, etc.
Ignore them. Ideally block them. Many are from Twitter, which is well known to be pointlessly hateful. You don’t have to deal with them and there’s nothing wrong with wanting and having a trad relationship. You can expect this sort of hate from liberals a lot, but don’t be surprised as you see conservatives who also consider family to be less than important.
Also you’re not alone. Several people I talk to regularly on here have seen the same. Don’t feel like you’re an isolated case. That’s part of the tactic, to make you feel like you’re by yourself, but you’re not. So don’t let them get you down.
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Tradfem versus Radfem
Are you confused by these terms? Well don’t be any longer.
Tradfem means “traditional femininity” or “traditionally feminine”.
Tradfems love traditional gender roles, and romance and marriage. We do not force our views onto anybody, we just want to lead happy lives! But people attack us for no reason.
YOU’RE NOT A TRADFEM IF YOURE A PORN BLOG. STOP ACTING LIKE YOU ARE. FREAKS.
Radfem means “radical feminist”. They hate man and trans people, and are generally all around bad people. They harass women for being in relationships with men, they want to kill men, and say that whenever a man is abused or raped, he deserved it, or that it never happened, or that it wasn’t as bad because “women go through much worse!” radfems are also known as terfs (trans exclusionary radical feminist). Most everybody hates terfs, so block them if you want. Most of them have “rad” in their urls, but that doesn’t mean that everybody with “rad” in their url is a radfem, because rad is still a completely normal and harmless word. Don’t block someone just based on their url.
So I hope I taught you something. Tradfems are good! Radfems are bad.
Edit: DONT INTERACT WITH ME IF YOURE A PORN BLOG