Just remembered that a K-pop idol completely lost his career seven years ago when he announced that he was getting married and his former fans dropped him, started slandering him to everyone who’d listen just because he dared to ‘go against them’ and still attack him in 2021 because they’re that pathetic. In an industry where other fans defend idols committing DUIs, SA, domestic violence, etc., all sorts of crimes basically, the one who got the worst treatment is the person who did nothing but pursue his happiness in his personal life, while still working hard in his professional life, which apparently doesn’t matter because “oppa betrayed us when he got married!” It’s so weird to think that Lee Sungmin is still person non grata in K-pop in 2021. He just dropped a song and a lot of people are acting like he doesn’t exist. He was crazy famous before this. You wanna know what those fans hold against him, besides the fact that he’s married? Apparently he signed some albums with his nickname, that his wife allegedly gave him, and didn’t invite his superfan fansite (person who followed him to all his schedules prior to this and took photos of him) to his wedding, and since that person had a whole lot of influence in the whole fandom, they managed to turn everyone against him with fabricated tidbits that made people resent him. I don’t know how they, as adults, read the list of complaints that they wrote up against him and think those things are rational. Even if they were heated back then, how can they stand behind it now, still, seven years later, when they had some distance and time to think about it? The fans said they would boycott the group he was in if his company (arguably one of the biggest South Korean entertainment agencies ever, home to SHINee, EXO, Super Junior, SNSD, NCT, SuperM, Red Velvet, Aespa, BoA) didn’t kick him out of it, so they decided to listen to them and made him sit out every comeback ever since, despite still keeping him under contract, thus allowing the fandom a power that it never should’ve had. You’re not entitled to control somebody’s personal life just because you got to their concert or buy their album. It’s so weird, so weird. The guy who was accused of beating up his pregnant girlfriend and pressuring her to have an abortion still has fans, the guy who was accused of being a pimp still has fans, but the guy who got married and never harmed anybody and always treated his fans nicely (except if they crossed the line, which they did, many times, where upon he would only ask them not to do things like that again) is the one who still has a hate mob against him and has his projects boycotted to this day?
A few years later, an idol from the same company, Chen of EXO, announced his upcoming marriage and fatherhood and to this day people still want him out of the group for it and I can’t help but to feel that if the company didn’t allow that first group of bully fans to act the way they did and put Sungmin on the backburner in order to placate them, they wouldn’t have cultivated a culture of entitled fans thinking they could dictate how the idols and companies act. Now their idols have to deal with their mental health being destroyed by, on top of everyone else, obsessive fans who always skirt the line of love and hate and are ready to destroy them if they ever do anything that they’re not happy with. Those fans stalk them to the point of buying their phone numbers, addresses and even airplane numbers so they could follow them around, they collect information about them while they’re stalking them, spread them amongst their toxic group of stalkers and hold those things against them for blackmail purposes.
They hold protests in front of the company building demanding things, like for example, this #ChenOUT protest, where they demanded EXO Chen be kicked out of the group for starting a family (he’s also been sort of put on the backburner to placate these folks, despite how pathetic their protests have been).
These fans are so creepy that they’ll find a way to sit next to their faves on their plane by buying info about their rides and bribing the staff to get those seats.
They’ll crash idols’ graduations and show up uninvited to their schedules in different countries, like it happened to NCT Mark (and how creepy it is that the poor boy had stalkers ever since his teen years, some of which were adults).
(MisteryStranger and “Mark in my Heart” are the names of the fansites run by those stalkers.)
There’s a stalker fan (sasaeng in Korean), who even followed SHINee’s Onew to the jungle!
IN BRAZIL!
It’s not just this company whose artists are experiencing problems with stalker fans, sasaengs. The biggest group in the world, BTS, experienced similar things from stalkers. I’m pretty sure most groups go through experiences like that, just to different extent.
There’s an idol called Jaejoong whose home was broken into while he slept and the sasaeng who did it took photos of him sleeping and posted it to the internet to brag about what she had done.
It’s one of the worst invasions of privacy I’ve ever heard of and companies should focus less on pleasing stalkers and more on protecting their artists and that’s that!
THIS, all of this, is cringe af. We also need to hold K-pop companies accountable for the “training” idols have to go through where they are instructed to romanticize their relationship with the fans. It’s not the idols’ fault that some deluded fans can’t understand the difference between “fanservice” and reality, but K-pop idols would have better lives if the companies stopped with that “Save your ring finger for oppa” bullshit. I understand that the whole romanticized relationship with fans is a part of the idol deal but maybe that needs to go?
The companies really were the ones who started all this mess and continue perpetuating it! But then you have idols like U-Kwon who from debut refuses acting in a 'boyfriendly manner’ with his fans because he has a girlfriend and what did that get him? Unfortunately, anti fans who still share made up stories about him being allegedly rude at fansigns (BY/FOR REFUSING TO PRETEND TO BE THEIR BOYFRIEND AND NOT WANTING TO CALL THEM GIRLFRIENDS) and you really can’t win as an idol in the K-pop industry. Even when you draw a straight line, you’re at fault somehow.
On a side note, this is my favorite gif of Sungmin and his wife Saeun from their wedding. I am sure it makes a lot of people seethe with rage.
It also doesn’t help when companies like Cube kicks out two of their artists for dating,,, in 2018.
especially when you consider how big of an impact one of them had on the kpop industry and how much money she brought the company. The fact that she got so easily kicked out for a relationship must have increased the confidence and entitlements of those types of “fans”
Hyuna was so pivotal in putting Cube on the map and was their first trainee/artist - the founder of Cube Ent was the former president of JYPE who left JYP to start his own company and Hyuna was the only one who went with him from JYP to said new company. She was an extremely successful soloist who completely changed the game and was very popular in general and Cube let her go because she confirmed that she was dating her labelmate in 2018. They also let him go, despite that clearly not being what either him or his groupmates wanted. Cube Ent had terminated Dawn and Hyuna’s contracts, citing that they were unable to maintain trust with them. Trust? For being in a consensual relationship as adults in their mid twenties? Companies have too much power over the lives of their idols. Don’t get me even started on how controlling of their private lies they are. Dating bans (? your employer has the right to tell you not to date anybody?), taking them out of their homes as teenagers, putting them into tiny dorms where like 20 people share 2 rooms and not providing enough for them, training them to become idols from dusk until dawn while restricting their contact with other people, including their families! Taking their phones away and giving them phone privileges to contact their parents only when they meet certain goals (even weight goals and things like that). Restricting their diets and not providing enough nutrition to them. Creating a culture of eating disorders and putting them on diets of like 4 bananas per day, resulting in a lot of them having brittle bones and similar issues when they get older. Pressuring them to get plastic surgery. Pressuring them to get continuous plastic surgery, even. Basically creating vulnerable, sheltered, lonely, young people who are somehow supposed to deal with these obsessive fans, media criticizing them, hate comments online, stalking, abuse, overwork, and so on, despite having nobody but each other, and often even not that, to rely on. Not providing psychological help for them. Allowing toxic work environment and bullying to happen between group members, even allowing staff to bully the kids, but the staff also gets treated horribly and are severely underpaid. I could go on. These companies make teenagers sign unfavorable contracts and end up with most of the profits they make by overworking them. Most of the entertainment companies are not good places. Don’t even get me started on sponsorship rumors. I’d like to believe that the companies protect their artist at least in that way and don’t make them entertain sponsors, but there’s always one case or another of a small company being exposed for doing things like that. It might seem like idols lead glamorous lifestyles, but I don’t envy them at all, if anything, I feel sorry for them. They’re under constant public pressure and abuse and money can only buy you so much. It can’t buy you happiness.
I would also like to remind again as OP has said that these are mostly teenagers and the corruption and the abuse that happens in this industry is worse than we imagine.
That’s why I would like to also remind everyone of the SOPA Scandal which started because a bunch of brave students of SOPA, which is an official idol school, posted this video
Which you can still find in YouTube in which they call out the school for the abuse they have suffered.
Also let’s not forget that in the idol industry image is everything, so by speaking out about this they probably won’t be hired to do the very same thing they have been training their whole lives.
You can turn the subtitles on.
You can learn more about the situation and the aftermath of the whole scandal explained in this video:
Dear God, how do these people have so much damn time on their hands that they can stalk people like this?
There’s a happy ending to, because the robbery was unsuccessful, the couple ended up getting the money Eden needed from a movie inspired by em! Also John only had to serve part of his sentence. Check out their wedding photos btw they’re beautiful.
reblogging because I’ve seen this post a thousand times and I’ve never seen the happy ending!!
Hate to ruin it for yall but this guy was a HORRIBLE abusive transphobe. And you need to stop glorifying him.
Pairing: Backstage Pass!Bucky x Backstage Pass!Steve x f!reader
Words:951
Warnings: Very brief mention of Bucky’s past abuse, as well as mama Sarah’s past abuse, other than that, this is pure, comforting, fluff. You guys earned it. Enjoy <3
Bucky is first on the bus, holding the door open for Steve, who has kept you cradled against his chest; unwilling to let you go during the whole seven-block walk back.
“Hey guys, can we have the room?” Bucky asks Clint and Nat. They both take one look at you and start throwing on their clothes and shoes.
“Is she okay?” Nat asks quietly.
Bucky nods. “She is. She will be. I promise.”
Bucky has a quick, but hushed conversation with them both, which concludes with Clint insisting, “Of course. No problem, brother.” He tosses a wink over his shoulder at you, “We love you lil’ mama.” Nat sends you a sweet smile, and blows you a kiss.
As they leave, they both give Bucky a kiss on the cheek before he closes and locks the door behind them.
Steve sets you down on the couch and helps you get your shoes off. Bucky brings you a bottle of water and a cereal bar, and sits next to you.
“I’m gonna clean up real quick,” Steve says to Bucky, and disappears into the bathroom. It’s only then that you realize he’s got more blood on him than just his knuckles.
Bucky wraps your hands around the cool bottle, and unscrews the lid. “Drink something,” he urges you. Once you take a few swallows, he breaks off a piece of the cereal bar, makes you open your mouth, and pops the bite onto your tongue. The anxiety and adrenaline are wearing off, and it’s left you feeling shaky and empty, so the cereal bar tastes better than it has any right to.
Once you finish the pastry, and half the bottle of water, you’re feeling a bit better. “I’m sorry,” you say quietly.
“For what?” Bucky asks.
“For what happened.”
He wraps his arms around you and squeezes you tight. “None of what happened with him is your fault. Not back then, and not today. You don’t have anything to apologize for.” You still look apologetic, so he takes your hand in both of his, and continues, “Look. You and I both have abusive exes, right?” You recall the horrible mental and emotional abuse he suffered at the hands of their ex, Peggy, and nod. “Do you think what she did to me was my fault?”
“Of course not, Bucky.”
“Then this isn’t your fault either.”
“What he said though…” You trail off and drop your eyes to your lap.
Steve leans against the bathroom door frame, scrubbing at his hair with a towel. “What did he say?”
You fish around in your brain before you’re able to come up with the thing he’d said that nearly made you puke on the bright-white grocery-store floor. “He said nobody would take in a whore like me unless I fucked them first.”
Steve sits in front of you on the coffee table. “That’s crass, clearly, and downright fucking infuriating, but out of the whole shitty encounter, why is that in particular sticking with you?”
“Because,” you whisper, “it’s kind of what happened.”
“With who?” Bucky asks, confusion clear on his face.
“Wait,” Steve connects the dots a little faster than Bucky, “With us?”
“Yeah.”
Bucky barks a laugh, and immediately claps a hand over his mouth. ”I’m sorry for laughing. I am. But that is so NOT what happened with us.”
Steve is the one that’s confused now. “You think that’s the only reason you’re with us now? Because you fucked your way onto the bus?”
“I didn’t think it. Not until he said it.”
Steve slides off of the table, onto the floor at your feet, and takes your hands in his. “We thought you were hot as hell way before you ever set foot up those steps. We wanted to see if you would make the first move. If you were actually interested in either of us, or just hoping anyone from the band would grab you, like most of the groupies do. But honestly, we were about two days away from dragging you out of the crowd ourselves.”
“You aren’t here because you conned us into something we didn’t want.” Bucky reassures you, “You’re here because it’s something we all wanted.”
“Besides,” Steve cuts in, “even it that’s what happened—it isn’t, but even if it was—who fucking cares? What we have is real. This love is real. This family is real. So it doesn’t matter how we all got here.”
Bucky continues, “You’re ours, Y/n. Now and forever. And you own us completely. We were made for each other.”
You study their faces, their eyes, and you know by the sincerity written there that they mean every word of what they said. Suddenly you huff out a laugh, because you feel silly for letting your ex make you doubt yourself and these two incredible men. Your men.
“Hey,” Steve squeezes your knee, “I’m sorry I scared you. It took my mama a long time to stop flinching after her abuser died. I know better than to act like that.”
You shake your head, “No! He got into my head today. That’s all. You could never scare me, Stevie. Ever. You two make me feel safer than I ever have before.”
Bucky and Steve both preen a little at knowing you feel secure and protected by them.
“I love you two so much it hurts.”
“We love you too,” they answer in unintentional unison, making you giggle.
You sigh, “Please take me to bed. Help me forget today ever existed.”
“Whaaaaat? And forget the bomb dick you’re fixin’ to get?” Bucky chuckles, and scoops you up into his arms.
“Okay, maybe everything before right now.”
“You’ve got yourself a deal, gorgeous.”
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When people try to devalue polyamory they’ll bring up stories of people who had bad abusive polyamorous relationships. They take stories of cults, people who forced their partners to accept live in mistresses, and people without sexual boundaries and show them as proof that polyamory is dangerous, sexually deviant, and unsafe to be around kids. However each of these examples isn’t evil because its polyamorous. They’re bad for other reasons. They include abuse, lack of communication and consent, double standards, brain washing, bad relationship rules, and lack of basic human decency. These things exist within bad monogamous relationships too.
Bad relationships will be bad whether they’re monogamous or polyamorous. Abusive isn’t intrinsic to either group. People being abused in polyamorous relationships shouldn’t be encouraged to become monogamous, they should be encouraged to escape.
Hello! For my biology class, I’m doing a project on Voluntary Termination of Pregnancy (Sorry if I’m not using the most correct English, but in the end I mean abortion) and how people’s opinions change according to different scenarios, their gender, age, and nationality.
I made a quick (only five questions really) survey for me to use in my presentation to show just that, because many people still consider this topic extremely sensitive and are afraid to talk about it, when any person who can get pregnant might encounter themselves in one of the scenarios I put on the project. (Attention: some of the scenarios may be triggering and I’m going to try to tag things as correctly as possible, but the questions really had to be asked)
So, if you’d please please pleaseanswerthis survey it would mean so much to me! Again, I might not be the best at english, but I hope it’s understandable nevertheless! The data I collect willl be purely anonymous and only used for that class! (And if you could also signal boost, that would be so amazing, because this whole project is really important to me. Thank youuuuu!!!)
Thank you so much for the attention!!!
Gonna reblog again, because I really need as many people as possible, so sorryyy
For everyone who helped me, I love you so damn much, you’re an amazing bean
Hello! For my biology class, I’m doing a project on Voluntary Termination of Pregnancy (Sorry if I’m not using the most correct English, but in the end I mean abortion) and how people’s opinions change according to different scenarios, their gender, age, and nationality.
I made a quick (only five questions really) survey for me to use in my presentation to show just that, because many people still consider this topic extremely sensitive and are afraid to talk about it, when any person who can get pregnant might encounter themselves in one of the scenarios I put on the project. (Attention: some of the scenarios may be triggering and I’m going to try to tag things as correctly as possible, but the questions really had to be asked)
So, if you’d please please pleaseanswerthis survey it would mean so much to me! Again, I might not be the best at english, but I hope it’s understandable nevertheless! The data I collect willl be purely anonymous and only used for that class! (And if you could also signal boost, that would be so amazing, because this whole project is really important to me. Thank youuuuu!!!)
leaving your teen years is realizing that you don’t know who you became, that you’ve changed too much. it’s crying and clutching your baby blanket, mourning the childhood you should’ve had. why do i want to cry when i eat? why do i flinch so hard at every touch? why am i unable to accept love? i’m supposed to be an adult now.. everyone knows how to do these things! i don’t have my liscence, i don’t have a good job.. i’m failing college.. i just want to be a kid, but without the beatings and self harm and molestations. without the shame every time i ate, beatings when i opened the fridge, showers with dad and dvds in moms room. a childhood where i was loved and believed.
BACK AFTER GETTING IN, THANK U MOD RULER, COLLEGE DONE NOW TIME FOR LAW SCHOOL,,, also I made an imagines blog (kimetsu no yaiba, anyone?) while I was waiting for this to open, please check out this? Also, announcements later. Thankks! - Mod Avenger
Beowulf
He’s terrifying. He cages you behind him like some terrible beast guarding a princess in a tower. Of course you are; to him you are kind, your songs like nectar from a flower. He wants to be the only one listening to them, they’re all taking advantage of you that’s why–
You need to be safe. Absolutely. His intentions are pure, all he wants to do is keep you away from conniving servants, those mages who look at you like a lab specimen, your parents who look at you and no longer see their child but a battle-worn soldier, everyone.
Keeps you in line with threats. It’s just verbal at first. Then it escalates when he hits you one day. You look at him with so much hurtand while he hates it, Beowulf notices that it keeps you so much more in line. It helps him keep you in line.
Soon you’ve got a pavlovian condition where the slightest tensing of his arm makes you flinch, as you know what usually happens after that. If you were so docile, maybe we wouldn’t have to be ths way, he thinks. But now, you’re safe. Nobody can do anything to you now. N o on e.
Merlin
Merlin keeps his S/O in line by eternal sleep. That’s the last resort. Second is paranoia, just enough for them to only turn to him, and first, nightmares.
He gives his S/O nightmares of everything they fear. Maybe everyone leaving them for a better, stronger master. Maybe their family locked away by the Clock Tower, their lineage opened and examined. Maybe this time, the clock tower cuts you up and examines every vein and cell.
In those dreams, Merlin makes sure he is the one who saves you. All the time. The Cycle repeats until you can’t tell apart reality from dreams anymore. You’re erratic. Pushing everyone away. Mashu is concerned, but she doesn’t understand. Only Merlin does.
You sleep more and more with Merlin. He covers you up and makes you dream of a world where everything is soft, and whatever you want it to be. A Pokemon adventure? You become a Master with Merlin! Fantasy? Both of you travel! and your dreams turn into days and days turn into years and years turn into decades and decades into centuries but that’s okay! Merlin is with you so (WAKE UP)
“You don’t need to wake up, my little dove. Stay here f or re ver.”
Proto Cu
Okay, so Proto Cu is the younger version of Fate Cu. He has Emer. And Yet Emer can’t hold a candle to you, and neither does Fand, the fairy woman Emer was ever jealous of, who was able to charm Cu.
Cu is chill! That’s a fact. But he gets unnecessarily riled up when you’re involved in the conversation. When other eyes stray to you, be immediately slips between you and them, arm around you and smiling with thinly veiled malice.
He’s one of the more healthier yandere, tbh. Cu is confident in his abilities and looks, so he’s fairly lenient on his victimS/O. He just comes off as territorial, and somewhat aggressive when another takes interest in his S/O.
But when he snaps, say goodbye to the outside world for months at a time. He’s your only companion now. Keep your eyes and hands on him so Cu might forgive you and let you out again.
“You don’t need to look at anyone else, yeah? I’m here. I’ll give you everything to give. Oh, but I’m taking everything you are in exchange, of course. I love you so m u ch after all.”
“You see, you start pretty much from scratch when you work with an autistic child. You have a person in the physical sense - they have hair, a nose, and a mouth— but they are not people in the psychological sense. One way to look at the job of helping autistic kids is to see it as a matter of constructing a person. You have the raw materials, but you have to build the person.“
“They have tantrums, and believe me they are monsters, little monsters.“
“Spank them, and spank them good. They bite you and you just turn them over your knee and give them one good whack on the rear and that pretty well does it. This is what we do best; we are very good at controlling these kinds of behaviors.“
“We stay close to them and when they hurt themselves we scream “no” as loud as we can and we look furious and at the same time we shock them.”
“We know the shocks are painful; we have tried them on ourselves and we know that they hurt. But it is stressful for the person who does the shocking too.”
“Bound to a bed. The child would be bound to a bed spread-eagled so that he could not get to himself. …I remember a kid named John who had been in restraints for years.”
I love when people come to my tumblr and say I’m lying about nuns or priests abusing or torturing kids in orphanages or schools when I’ve also personally explained (multiple times) my dad, his mother, and my grandmas father were all victims of abuse in schools/orphanages and it’s one of the reasons they hated the Catholic Church and were disappointed when I converted.
I got a comment today on one of my posts about it that my “ignorance was astounding”. The severity of abuse (my family) they suffered is THE reason why the abuse of children/spouses (including the abuse I suffered) in my family was so prevalent and why I was the FIRST PERSON in my ENTIRE family to not be an addict. So if you have a problem with hearing about it just because you’re Catholic and you can’t imagine Catholics being sinners of the worst kind, maybe read a Catholic theology book.
What’s truly “astoundingly ignorant” is Catholics who have a problem with my offering up prayers and doing penance for all the sins done in the name of God (which is to me the worst kind) by people of God. There is a great need for these prayers, because y’all are too soft to confront the reality of these graves sins.
Reputation over repent, over truth, I know. As if these sort of things could remain in the dark, as if keeping them there will hide the screams of people who cry out through generational suffering. I have no problem speaking on these things because the reason why I became Catholic is because I wasn’t afraid of the truth.
What’s wild is it’s always from people who throw around the quote, “hell is paved with the skulls of nuns and priests”.
What a boring way to live out your Catholic faith, tbh.
Thinking about how we’ve seen the inner self projected in The Owl House, about how it’s a reflection of the host’s current emotional state, to some degree:
(cw: religious trauma, abuse mention)
Willow’s memories are burning and she is burning, but she still looks like herself at the heart of it
and in the end we see her younger and current self, reconciled:
So if the preview images we’ve seen of younger Belos is one of these inner projections, and not a specific memory…
Then I believe it is a reflection of both vulnerability,andchildishness, in the sense of trauma recursion within an adult
So abuse was really common in early colonial America, and Puritanism/the culture at the time didn’t really provide an outlet for children to process things like this; children in their moral development go through a phase where they base decisions on punishment vs reward (rather than an internal sense of morality, which comes a little later), and under religious dogma this is conceptualized as a sign of inherent sinfulness
so there’s a solid core of trauma, that would been “”“resolved”“” with a healthy application of scripture, prayer, and silence that’s being carried within him
and then the brothers literally wind up in the demon realm, which is basically several layers of trained religious fears rolled into one island
and I wonder how younger!Philip’s childish escapism would have been flavoured. The bible would have been the only real source of leisurely reading, so I imagine it might have resembled something along the lines of overcoming this Inherent Sinfulness ™ via righteousness–and maybe something saintly
the Boiling Isles, even being terrifying and alarming as it is, is also an opportunity in some ways
so when the worst comes to pass, that Philip/Belos himself is infected by the terpitude of the island, corrupted and rotting? that he let it get insidehim? to be diseased from the inside? and that disease acts a living, conscious curse? to be trapped with a beast inside yourself?
to feel like a victim, with compromised/limited agency, and constantly faced with your inherent vileness?
In the heart, you’re still that scared child. It never got properly reconciled with your older self. It’s always a hanger on, clinging to your beliefs like a safety net
Make no mistake, because of the Depp/Heard trial many men are going to realize they can use the courts to continue to abuse their victims. There is going to be a measurable uptick in litigational abuse against women.
When my father used litigational abuse against my mother after she managed to divorce him, it had a devastating impact on our family. We lived in a county where the courts were sympathic to my mom and recognized my father as an abuser, but my mom barely survived. She was a single mom and primary caregiver of two young children. Because of him, she had to pay for lawyers to combat his abuse for overfifteen years. She was below the poverty line and had to borrow money from family members to keep food on the table. My father did not want my mom to escape him without taking his pound of flesh, even if it was at the detriment of his own children.
I mean, this is the day the divorce was filed:
And this is one of the last petitions my dad put against my mom, asking that she no longer receive child support- even though he was thousands of dollars behind bc of outright refusal to pay and he still hasn’t paid because my mom simply doesn’t have the resources to go to the courts for help. (funnily enough, five days after my 18th birthday)
Between these two dates (and some time after), there are hundreds of petitions and motions my dad submitted to the court to financially and litigationally abuse my mother. Even if those motions ruled in my mom’s favor, she had to 1.) go to a lawyer 2.) take time off work and find childcare 3.) go to the courthouse and face her abuser when he was at his most vile and vindictive
It is hell for victims and an ego-trip for abusers, because they have the support of the legal system. The Depp/Heard case is nothing more than a tutorial for abusive men to continue thier abuse. Marilyn Manson (Depp’s bestie, mind you) is already engaging in litigational abuse against Evan Rachel Wood.
Until the Depp/Heard case, my parents’ was the only case of litigational abuse I was aware of. It is geniunely cruel and nothing more than the message: You will never escape. I may not live in your house, but I still have power over you. I still have power over your finances, you personal life, your trauma, and your children.
i haven’t watched the whole thing but the ios16 feature about restricting abusive partners access is like low-key really tone deaf . Do they have any idea what a violent controlling partner would do if they suddenly didn’t have access ??? Like yes we need to do something to stop abusive people but in my opinion actually knowing and experiencing men like that . it’s almost a death wish to do that
Hi Michael appreciators come get your juice I was bored last night.
CW: abuse/blood (hence why this has a read more cut haha)
Something started happening at home. He came to school with cuts, bruises, split lips, and a nose that gushed blood every now and again. He always had a black eye. Sometimes he had two, but he never said a word about it. He knew if he did, there would be hell to pay.
People be swearing up and down that you can’t ship Joker/Harley because it’s abusive and romanticizing abuse but when it’s Ivy/Harley they be silent as fuck.
What’s abusive about Ivy/Harley? :-S
I only have a few screenshots since I’m not that into the comics but here’s what I have.
Ivy has physically attacked Harley and thought about killing her, reduced her to tears, and verbally berated her.
That said I don’t have an issue with the ships (I ship both Harley and Ivy, along with Harley and Joker), just hypocrisy. Antis try to shut down Joker/Harley by calling it abusive, calling the shippers abuser/abuse apologists, that they’re romanticizing abuse, etc. yet are totally silent and ignore the abusive implications of Harley/Ivy, and more often than not, shippers of Harley/Ivy who shut down people who ship Harley/Joker romanticize the abusive between Harley and Ivy while accusing Harley/Joker shippers of being romanticizers.
Double standards in a nutshell
Wow. I’ve seen the accusations about Ivy and Harley, but this is the first time I’ve seen any proof.
Not sure I agree with all the stuff in the Livejournal analysis, but the comics cited do illustrate a pretty nasty willingness to condemn one jerk and give another jerk a pass just because she’s female.
