imagine if people cared about domestic abuse survivors as much as they care about johnny depp
He is a domestic abuse survivor you fuck wit.
Imagine if people cared about domestic abuse survivors as much as they care about defending female abusers
op is a dumbass and a hypocrite.
anyway, believe women, not men who have long histories of violence, and don’t be like these idiots who will blindly eat up anything that johnny depp shits
wow okay so depp’s psychologist or whatever said that “bpd is a common factor in women who physically abuse their partners” and none of y'all are blinking an eye at that…… LMFAO
i hope every depp supporter gets their teeth knocked out
wait so lemme get this straight… this bitch was hired BY DEPP to evaluate amber. after TWELVE HOURS she came to the conclusion that amber has borderline personality disorder. and then of course goes on to say that in her professional experience or whatever, women with bpd are basically known to be abusers.
are y'all seeing this shit???
on top of that she also diagnosed her with histrionic personality disorder. so this psychologist (HIRED BY DEPP WHO HAS HAD DINNER AT HIS HOUSE) talks with amber for TWELVE HOURS across TWO DAYS, diagnoses her with bpd (making her an “abuser”) and hpd (making her “attention-seeking”) and no one thinks this is a little weird. a little odd. a little bit of a setup?
but amber’s psychologist who worked with her all the way back in 2019 is a sham apparently. amber is faking ptsd as a bisexual victim of abuse from MULTIPLE different people in her life but this clown hired by her abuser can diagnose her with bpd and hpd in less than a day. i fucking hate y'all.
i’m just so fucking exhausted and disgusted by the open vitriol against women who were abused. like people memeing amber heard’s abuse, her pain, taking bets and making jokes against her during the trials like it’s some sort of spectacle for their enjoyment. how did people participate in those “justice for britney” “justice for megan fox” movements and then turn around and decide that actually, they WILL spend the next decade harassing another abused woman to her breaking point. like i know in 10 years people are gonna look back and wonder what the fuck was wrong with people, just like how the same Gen Zs that are currently making fucking D3pp fancams right now look back and wonder what the fuck was wrong with people who shat on britney while she was at her lowest, and i’m not gonna let people forget they were making jokes about a woman’s abuse bc they liked a character in a movie based on a fucking theme park ride. it’s so fucking easy to “support” and “believe women” when there’s a hulu documentary about it but the second you throw in a third-rate actor who hasn’t even been relevant since 2004 into the mix all of the sudden everyone’s morals are shaky, lmao. also i’m curb stomping the next person i hear joking about it since abuse is sooo fucking funny to them apparently
Am I the only one who’s tired of seeing bad liars in media like anime, manga, and webtoons? Like I get its usually done for comedic effect or to let the reader know, but honestly it’s so tiring at this point.
Give me a character that can lie with a straight face and smile. Give me a character that can bluff super well about stuff they didn’t even find out till just seconds before. Give me a character that can’t act for shit but can make up a lie so well even they’re a bit surprised. Give me a character that DOESNT LIE AT ALL but skirts around the actual truth all the time. And finally give me a character that doesn’t feel guilty for their ability to lie, because to them that’s just how they learned to protect themselves (or some other reason).
Yves is such a habitual liar it’s actually hard to get the straight truth out of him on some subjects- his entire life has been about skirting things that aren’t “suitable topics” or avoiding saying certain things. He can be a master of obfuscation.
Lies Yves has told repeatedly:
“I’m quite certain.”
“Everything will be fine.”
“There’s nothing worth bothering about here.”
“Nothing for you to worry about.”
“No, it’s no trouble at all.“
“We’re happy to help in any way we can.”
“I understand Sir.”
“It’ll be done, Miss.”
“No, it barely left a mark.”
“I’m quite alright.”
“Doesn’t even sting anymore.”
“I’m not tired yet, you get some sleep.”
“I accept your decision, then.”
“I will do as I am ordered Sir.”
“No I haven’t seen them all day, Sir. Don’t know where they might be.”
Abusers aren’t always abusive 100% of the time. Abusers can have “good moments” with their victims. You might remember all the “good times” you shared. You might remember how they were sweet to you sometimes, how they were tender to you, how their touch didn’t always hurt, how their words weren’t always mean….
but guess what…
that does not in any way invalidate your abuse. Conditional kindness, fleeting love, sparse tenderness, these are not valuable. You deserve to be loved ALL THE TIME. You deserve to be treated like a human being ALL THE TIME.
And if they can’t do that for you, no amount of those “good times” can erase all the BAD TIMES and pain they put you through.
what i’m worried most about is Hunter’s sense of identity, and how for the entirety of his existence it was so fully determined by Belos’ manipulation and abuse. he literally cannot conceive of a life that is not of use to his abuser -> if he cannot be of service he might as well just die. he barely has anything inhis life other than his duty as the Golden Guard, and the purpose he was told he had in the grand scheme of the entire world
i cannot even begin to comprehend how much is going through his mind right now, and do not know how able he would be to process the overwhelming degree of Belos’ mistreatment, how much he’d be able to actually Rightfully blame Belos for. so i’m just really dreading the possibility of him processing some of this immense traumatizing revelation by instead absorbing the idea that there is something wrong with him, not the man who’d hurt him and every prior incarnation of him for centuries. that, knowing that every other Grimwalker that came before him ended up betraying the man he’d learned to be so, so loyal to, that the original person he “comes” from did the same, Hunter will internalize it as being, cosmically, a failure. that in his eyes, he is just another failed attempt at the end of a long chain of failed attempts, with, undoubtedly, some fatal flaw that makes him unable to just do what he’s here for, to ever properly serve any real purpose
so yeah, can’t begin to explain how glad i am his world finally started expanding beyond just his service to Belos just in time for ALL OF THIS to happen. especially with his deep connection to Flapjack, a creature with a real, living soul that, like Hunter, was made instead of born, but still needs and deserves to be handled with love and care, instead of being used and then discarded
You’re allowed to have complicated feelings about your abuser. You’re allowed to have happy memories involving your abuser. You’re allowed to miss certain things about your abuser and miss those times.
It doesn’t mean that you weren’t abused or that it wasn’t real; we’re humans and we have complicated emotions. Having happy memories doesn’t mean the abuse didn’t happen.
My father, arguably, abused me because he has anxiety. It made it nearly impossible for him to regulate his anger when things got even slightly out of control, and he did and said a lot of horrible things while mid-panic attack.
I’m gonna go ahead and call that “Anxiety Abuse”. Everyone with anxiety could do that to me, so I think it’s fair for me to say people with anxiety are dangerous across the board. They all have the potential to abuse me because of the way they’re hardwired, because of the way their brains worked. They’re not the same as me. They’re less than human. They’re scary.
Now, my dad’s been in therapy and on meds for anxiety for years, been working very, very hard at it since I can remember. He still has anxiety and shows symptoms sometimes, but he doesn’t abuse me any more.
But, y'know what? He’s still evil. Everyone with anxiety is still evil. They could hurt me, so it’s only fair that I assume each and every one of them will hurt me, and treat them accordingly. If people with anxiety or people with friends with anxiety challenge me on this belief, it’s because they are either also evil or are trapped in an abusive relationship. It’s my job to inform everyone who knows anyone with anxiety of this so that they can get themselves to safety, so that everyone with anxiety can have no one in the world, so that they are alone, so that they have no support, because that makes me feel a little safer.
Does this sound fucking ridiculous? It’s because it is. Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a disorder, like any other, that can cause distressing behaviour and that people can recover from. If you choose to treat Narcissists as inherently evil, you are actively preventing that recovery.
There’s a reason you put a word in front of abuse and it’s to either specify type of abuse (eg. physical, sexual, verbal) or relationship between abuser and target (eg. domestic or child abuse). Narcissism is not an action you can do to someone or a relationship you can have with someone.
A narcissist may have been verbally and emotionally abusive towards you but that doesn’t mean you were narcissistically abused, it just means you were verbally and emotionally abused. If you were partners with a narcissist that does not mean you were in a narcissistic relationship, you were in a romantic relationship.
When people tell you to stop using terms like narc abuse they aren’t telling you that you weren’t abuse, they’re telling you that your language is harmful and dehumanizing.
the elephant in the room when it comes to the “we must protect our children” objections by conservative politicians is that they are not referring to living, breathing children, but a platonic concept of “a child” that children are coerced into emulating through abuse kneaded by both the state and their parents. The lack of rights children possess is to render them unable to object to what adults claim to do for their own good, which oftentimes are merely just means to maintain them as property than help them as people. The idea that teaching 6th graders very basic, very clinical sex ed is child abuse stems from the fear that their parents lose some control over their child’s autonomy by having the child know things (which, statically, also makes them more likely to tell someone when they are being abused by an adult. Interesting) that the parent has not sanctioned as a part of their person. Conservatives accuse everyone else of child abuse not because they care that a child is being hurt, but because hurting children is only their god given right.
“I recently spoke at a university where a student told me it was such a shame that Nigerian men were physical abusers like the father character in my novel. I told him that I had recently read a novel called American Psycho, and that it was a shame that young Americans were serial murderers.”
people are always saying that ABA is trying to abuse people into masking or being allistic but for me that wasn’t true. they didn’t try to abuse me into being allistic or abuse me into masking they tried to abuse me into being nothing at all.
allistic kids are allowed to want food and water. I was only allowed food and water if I “earned” it and wasn’t allowed to ask for it. I wasn’t allowed to play, or take up space, or make noise. I had to be quiet and sit and do nothing because they did not want me to exist.
they thought my existence was a burden so they wanted to make me no longer a burden, they did this by trying to erase me and make me fade into the background until I was nothing. they knew I’d never mask, never become allistic, so they took away my AAC, took away everything I enjoyed, took away my basic wants and needs, they turned me into just a shell. a human body that they did not see a human inside, I was expected to be like a decoration. just sit, don’t stim quiet hands don’t show any signs you are a person
brad pitt is already suing angelina jolie for defamation for calling him abusive so now seems like a good time to say:
angelina has maintained this entire time that all she cares about is the safety of her children
their oldest child maddox literally refuses to speak to brad
angelina has also said that she was deeply uncomfortable with brad because he chose to continue working with harvey weinstein after weinstein assaulted angelina. brad knew this but still worked with him anyway
when they divorced, the court ruled that angelina was allowed to sell her share of the vineyard she and brad co-own, and she offered to sell her share TO BRAD but he declined, so she sold to a company called stoli. stoli is now suing brad for mismanaging funds, so he’s suing angelina as a big distraction and because he thinks this will get her shares back to him, if he can prove she “lied” to destroy his reputation
brad is also lying and saying stoli is pro-russia, but the owner is a huge putin critic and has been for over 20 years. the owner is even banned from entering russia because of all their criticism of putin, but brad is lying to destroy this person’s reputation too
ps: brad’s also specifically asking for a trial by jury. wonder who he learned that from?
She also continues to communicate with popular figures in the social justice community, such as crimewave420. Nick has informed me that Jared and River were friends on facebook. From looking at River’s blog, she still lists them as a friend.
Whether Jared was unware of River’s behavior or chosed to simply ignore it, Nick feels that they should be addressed as well, considering they’re prominent in the social justice community yet continue to associate with River.
I will leave the original callout is it is, however I will add some more trigger warnings to it: #ageplay #incest roleplaying
End of mod note.
ORIGINAL CALLOUT BY CHEVREAU/NICK BELOW
WARNING this post will contain content such as sexual harassment, gender dysphoria, perhaps transphobia/disregard for gender dysphoria, asexual erasure, homophobia maybe (homophobic stereotypes)
I originally made a vague post regarding my ex-partner (see here) because I saw people reblogging her posts, and it was making me uncomfortable.
Now, however, after speaking with other people about her, I have discovered that her behavior is not all-that new and she has treated multiple people the same way as me.
Thank you selchidh for also providing screencaps.
So I’m making an official callout post for River AKA tumblruser cavebae/biologiclust (NSFW)/dicksploiter for sexual harassment
She has attempted to harass anyone who reblogs this post (only on anon though) information here
Edit: She made her own “callout post“ accusing me of necrophilia and animal abuse. Also involves more asexual erasure and disregard for the fact that I have always been open about my sexual confusion/asexuality. (warning for ableism at some parts)
River and I started "dating” during sometime early April. It had started out as sexting when she informed me that she wanted help getting off because the birth control pills she was taking were increasing her sex drive.
However, after a couple of days of just teasing/sexting, things soon progressed to the point where she confessed she “loved” me.
However, it should be known that she was extremely persistent with her advances and “confessions”.
It was my first “relationship” (something that she was aware of) and I had told her multiple times that I wasn’t too comfortable with relationships, especially extremely romantic sexual ones.
Despite being told this, she would send me multiple messages (majority of them being sexual) per day.
I’m not going to upload all the screencaps in this one post because there are A LOT, but I will link them
This is only perhaps half of the messages she sent me over a span of two months.
When I had told her her sexual advances made me uncomfortable (for reasons that I have a history of sexual assault, gender dysphoria, and general confusion about my sexual) she would typically “play the victim”, or try to “comfort me” in order to be more sexual
Here is a chat log I had with River explaining my gender dysphoria and just general dislike for my body
[I then proceeded to tell her about my experiences of being sexually harassed as a teenager, and just the bullying I went through in high school]
This is all she really had to say about the matter. This chat was from April 20.
Even after this discussion, she still continued to send me sexual messages. They became more graphic, too, asking for specific role playing (particularly anything involving incest). She would also send me videos and nudes regularly.
It had gotten to the point where I could no longer handle her sex drive when she had decided to send me sexual comments when I was going through a difficult time with my dad. I had made posts about it during the time (and she saw, because she commented on them) about how my dad was in Moncton during the Moncton Shootings.
I had told her I was not in the mood and continued to ignore her messages for the rest of the night. She handled this very poorly and continued to send me messages while speaking poorly about me to selchidh/zh (who provided the following chat):
[14-06-06 12:08:40 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: I honestly do not get what people wouldnt get out of pandering [14-06-06 12:09:08 AM] cafeniu: huh [14-06-06 12:09:17 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: Like really what would be the reason to even keep me [14-06-06 12:09:51 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: If hes being ok to stay with me then why [14-06-06 12:10:02 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: Hes forcing [14-06-06 12:10:10 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: To be ok with me [14-06-06 12:10:13 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: But WHY [7:37:42 PM] cafeniu: [14-06-06 12:23:20 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: Ughhjjjj [14-06-06 12:23:23 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: - [14-06-06 12:24:19 AM] cafeniu: ??? [14-06-06 12:25:15 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: THINGD [14-06-06 12:25:17 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: S [14-06-06 12:25:30 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: I DON T GET IT I TRIED ! [14-06-06 12:26:39 AM] cafeniu: agh [14-06-06 1:04:24 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: WE TALKED [14-06-06 1:04:26 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: ITS OK [14-06-06 1:07:14 AM] cafeniu: how it go [14-06-06 12:56:32 PM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: i overreacted i think but then again so did he [14-06-06 12:56:45 PM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: we were both sad [7:38:00 PM] cafeniu: [14-04-30 12:55:27 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: im gonna find chev and just FUCK [14-04-30 12:55:37 AM] pontata: isnt chev asexual [14-04-30 12:55:39 AM] pontata: i forgot [14-04-30 12:55:48 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: not really [7:38:09 PM] cafeniu: [14-06-06 12:01:39 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: also he didn’t comfirm as asexual he just said “wow i thought i might be” [14-06-06 12:01:51 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: I really don’t get it. [7:38:59 PM] cafeniu: [14-06-05 11:57:47 PM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: I think im being dumped [14-06-05 11:58:03 PM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: by chev because he thinks im using him for sexual narcism [14-06-05 11:58:11 PM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: when im just… really power bottom
zh also informed me that River had disgregarded my sexuality/confusion with my sexual multiple times before, even insinuating that because I enjoyed gay porn I wasn’t asexual
Anyway, after that incident, I had told River that I wanted to break up (sometime on June 14 - I can’t remember the exact date) after she had sent me several incoherent/hostile messages because I was I was acting silly during one of her video game streams
These are only some of the messages I received
A couple days after she had unfollowed me and no longer spoke to me. I had thought it was the end of everything, however, it turned out that she was telling people that we were still together (screencaps provided by zh again)
I had just found out about this literally like, 3 days ago too when zh had told me (my own screencaps)
Afterwards, I was extremely upset and began to basically blog about my displeasure about finding out River was lying to people about our relationship, which caused her to send the following asks present in this post
I have heard that this behavior is not necessarily new for River - however I will not speak about the experiences of other people as I do not have their permission.
This post is mostly about my own interactions with River and how she treated me. I made this post in order to warn others that she is extremely manipulative and does not understand the meaning of “no”.
She also continues to communicate with popular figures in the social justice community, such as crimewave420. Nick has informed me that Jared and River were friends on facebook. From looking at River’s blog, she still lists them as a friend.
Whether Jared was unware of River’s behavior or chosed to simply ignore it, Nick feels that they should be addressed as well, considering they’re prominent in the social justice community yet continue to associate with River.
I will leave the original callout is it is, however I will add some more trigger warnings to it: #ageplay #incest roleplaying
End of mod note.
ORIGINAL CALLOUT BY CHEVREAU/NICK BELOW
WARNING this post will contain content such as sexual harassment, gender dysphoria, perhaps transphobia/disregard for gender dysphoria, asexual erasure, homophobia maybe (homophobic stereotypes)
I originally made a vague post regarding my ex-partner (see here) because I saw people reblogging her posts, and it was making me uncomfortable.
Now, however, after speaking with other people about her, I have discovered that her behavior is not all-that new and she has treated multiple people the same way as me.
Thank you selchidh for also providing screencaps.
So I’m making an official callout post for River AKA tumblruser cavebae/biologiclust (NSFW)/dicksploiter for sexual harassment
She has attempted to harass anyone who reblogs this post (only on anon though) information here
Edit: She made her own “callout post“ accusing me of necrophilia and animal abuse. Also involves more asexual erasure and disregard for the fact that I have always been open about my sexual confusion/asexuality. (warning for ableism at some parts)
River and I started "dating” during sometime early April. It had started out as sexting when she informed me that she wanted help getting off because the birth control pills she was taking were increasing her sex drive.
However, after a couple of days of just teasing/sexting, things soon progressed to the point where she confessed she “loved” me.
However, it should be known that she was extremely persistent with her advances and “confessions”.
It was my first “relationship” (something that she was aware of) and I had told her multiple times that I wasn’t too comfortable with relationships, especially extremely romantic sexual ones.
Despite being told this, she would send me multiple messages (majority of them being sexual) per day.
I’m not going to upload all the screencaps in this one post because there are A LOT, but I will link them
This is only perhaps half of the messages she sent me over a span of two months.
When I had told her her sexual advances made me uncomfortable (for reasons that I have a history of sexual assault, gender dysphoria, and general confusion about my sexual) she would typically “play the victim”, or try to “comfort me” in order to be more sexual
Here is a chat log I had with River explaining my gender dysphoria and just general dislike for my body
[I then proceeded to tell her about my experiences of being sexually harassed as a teenager, and just the bullying I went through in high school]
This is all she really had to say about the matter. This chat was from April 20.
Even after this discussion, she still continued to send me sexual messages. They became more graphic, too, asking for specific role playing (particularly anything involving incest). She would also send me videos and nudes regularly.
It had gotten to the point where I could no longer handle her sex drive when she had decided to send me sexual comments when I was going through a difficult time with my dad. I had made posts about it during the time (and she saw, because she commented on them) about how my dad was in Moncton during the Moncton Shootings.
I had told her I was not in the mood and continued to ignore her messages for the rest of the night. She handled this very poorly and continued to send me messages while speaking poorly about me to selchidh/zh (who provided the following chat):
[14-06-06 12:08:40 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: I honestly do not get what people wouldnt get out of pandering [14-06-06 12:09:08 AM] cafeniu: huh [14-06-06 12:09:17 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: Like really what would be the reason to even keep me [14-06-06 12:09:51 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: If hes being ok to stay with me then why [14-06-06 12:10:02 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: Hes forcing [14-06-06 12:10:10 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: To be ok with me [14-06-06 12:10:13 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: But WHY [7:37:42 PM] cafeniu: [14-06-06 12:23:20 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: Ughhjjjj [14-06-06 12:23:23 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: - [14-06-06 12:24:19 AM] cafeniu: ??? [14-06-06 12:25:15 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: THINGD [14-06-06 12:25:17 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: S [14-06-06 12:25:30 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: I DON T GET IT I TRIED ! [14-06-06 12:26:39 AM] cafeniu: agh [14-06-06 1:04:24 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: WE TALKED [14-06-06 1:04:26 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: ITS OK [14-06-06 1:07:14 AM] cafeniu: how it go [14-06-06 12:56:32 PM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: i overreacted i think but then again so did he [14-06-06 12:56:45 PM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: we were both sad [7:38:00 PM] cafeniu: [14-04-30 12:55:27 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: im gonna find chev and just FUCK [14-04-30 12:55:37 AM] pontata: isnt chev asexual [14-04-30 12:55:39 AM] pontata: i forgot [14-04-30 12:55:48 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: not really [7:38:09 PM] cafeniu: [14-06-06 12:01:39 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: also he didn’t comfirm as asexual he just said “wow i thought i might be” [14-06-06 12:01:51 AM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: I really don’t get it. [7:38:59 PM] cafeniu: [14-06-05 11:57:47 PM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: I think im being dumped [14-06-05 11:58:03 PM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: by chev because he thinks im using him for sexual narcism [14-06-05 11:58:11 PM] Ｒｉｖｅｒ: when im just… really power bottom
zh also informed me that River had disgregarded my sexuality/confusion with my sexual multiple times before, even insinuating that because I enjoyed gay porn I wasn’t asexual
Anyway, after that incident, I had told River that I wanted to break up (sometime on June 14 - I can’t remember the exact date) after she had sent me several incoherent/hostile messages because I was I was acting silly during one of her video game streams
These are only some of the messages I received
A couple days after she had unfollowed me and no longer spoke to me. I had thought it was the end of everything, however, it turned out that she was telling people that we were still together (screencaps provided by zh again)
I had just found out about this literally like, 3 days ago too when zh had told me (my own screencaps)
Afterwards, I was extremely upset and began to basically blog about my displeasure about finding out River was lying to people about our relationship, which caused her to send the following asks present in this post
I have heard that this behavior is not necessarily new for River - however I will not speak about the experiences of other people as I do not have their permission.
This post is mostly about my own interactions with River and how she treated me. I made this post in order to warn others that she is extremely manipulative and does not understand the meaning of “no”.
