#adulting
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The Associated Press always scored very highly when it comes to unbiased reporting. Well worth checking out if you want news sources that are not coloured by opinions or editorial policy.
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A bit specific I know but it helped me out just a few days ago
I’m working on 3 things right now:
- My mindset
- Health
- Money
Reminder
- Get ride of toxic people
- Learn from your mistakes
- Keep building your skillset
- Hustle in silence and let success make noise
- Last but not least, invest in yourself.
True adulthood is when you can make peace with the fact that you love and respect your parents, in spite of the fact that they are not always right.
Me, this year, on my last birthday of my twenties.
11.21-12.21
hello so i filmed this back in september but school is hard and i finally have time to edit this now that it’s winter break. long overdue. fall semester was a chaotic but great time. xx
I am honestly so mentally and physically exhausted, I just need to be held.
I just need 20k and a new house.
I just need alcohol, and more alcohol.
This is an EXTREMELY blessed post! And accurate! When I first moved out I was so excited for my new place I slept on the floor and had my tv there and that was it. Loved it. You grow and you build and you gain and you lose. I lost that place and everything in it. Now I have a new place with new things and it’s very much home.
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Good things that happened today:
I exercised for the first time in like six months! Go me!
I am starting to design a lot of my own stuff at work! There are two companies interested in my first ever design, which arrived from the sample room a couple weeks ago. Something I created could be making a $300,000 order and be selling in malls nationwide!
I am doing good freelance work and feeling good about myself!
Hooray!
Things I have learned this week
1. learn how to cut your own hair, salons be expensive
2. unpaid internships in CA sometimes pay in weed
3. Social media takes a lot of time ( I am my companies new social media person)
Walking around with @artsy_remi at night. At the ICA for some culture. #adulting (at Chinatown Gate)
https://www.instagram.com/p/B79sJiSJS6m/?igshid=17gpurequ8h4g
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This is a big, giant list of Youtube tutorials that will teach you all the basic life skills you need to know in order to be a functional adult. There are a lot of important skills that aren’t included in this list, but this should be enough of a basic guide to get you started and prevent you from making a total mess of yourself. Happy adulting!
Household Skills:How to unclog a toilet without a plunger
How to clean soap scum from your tub and shower
How to escape from a house fire
How to make a budget and stick to it
How to clean a self-cleaning oven
How to clean red wine stains from carpet
How to clean blood stains from fabric
How to clean grease stains from fabric
How to test your smoke detectors
Cooking Skills:
How to tell if produce is ripe
How to know if food is expired
How to properly sanitize a kitchen
How to put out a kitchen grease fire safely
How to use kitchen knives properly
How to make grilled cheese sandwiches
Health Skills:
How to help someone who is choking
How to save yourself if you are choking alone
How to recognize when someone is having a stroke
How to maintain a healthy sleep schedule
Mental Health Skills:
How to calm down during a panic attack
How to help someone who is suicidal
How to recognize problem drinking
How to deal with disappointment
Relationship and Social Skills:
How to recognize an abusive relationship
How to rekindle a damaged friendship
Job Hunting Skills:
How to dress for a job interview (for women/femmes)
How to dress for a job interview (for men/masculines)
Other Skills:
If there’s ever anything you want that isn’t on this list…youtube it. Everyone always comments on my handiness, but everything I know comes from an old guy and his iphone.
Not an adult yet but I got a feeling this’ll come in handy
OH MY GOD whyyyy did no one tell me you’re supposed to send thank-yous after interviews?? Why would I do that???
“Thank you for this incredibly stressful 30 minutes that I have had to re-structure my entire day around and which will give me anxiety poos for the next 24 hours.”
I HATE ETIQUETTE IT’S THE MOST IMPOSSIBLE THING FOR ME TO LEARN WITHOUT SOMEONE DIRECTLY TELLING ME THIS SHIT
NO ONE TOLD YOU???? WTF! I HAVE FAILED YOU. Also: Dear ______: Thank you so much for the opportunity to sit down with you (&________) to discuss the [insert job position]. I am grateful to be considered for the position. I think I will be a great fit at [company name], especially given my experience in __________. [insert possible reference to something you talked about, something that excited you.] I look forward to hearing from you [and if you are feeling super confident: and working together in the future]. Sincerely, @mellivorinae
THIS IS A LIFESAVING TEMPLATE
YOU ARE WELCOME
My brother got a really great paid internship one summer. The guy who hired him said the deciding factor was the professional thank you letter my brother sent after the interview.
should it be an email? or like a physical letter?
email, you want to send it within a few hours at max after the interview if you can so it’s fresh in their mind who you are.
Confirmed! I interviewed for a job right after arriving in NY. The interview went incredibly well, and I went home and immediately wrote a thank you letter and put it in the mail. I had a super good feeling about this interview.
I didn’t get the job.
However, a few weeks later, I was called in to interview with another editor in the same company, and I did get that job. I found out later from the initial editor (the one who didn’t hire me) that he had planned to offer me the job, but since I didn’t follow up with a thank you letter, he assumed I didn’t really want it. He offered the job to another contender–but when he got my letter in the mail shortly after the offer had already been made, he went to HR and gave me a glowing recommendation. It was based on that recommendation that I got called in for the second interview.
So: send an email thank you immediately (same day!) after the interview. If you’re feeling extra, go ahead and send a written one too. OR go immediately to a coffee shop, write the letter, and return to the office and give it to the secretary.
Either way, those letters are important.
Pro tip: If you really want HR to develop a personal interest in your application, publicly thank them on linkedin. Just make a short post telling your network about how X recruiter really went above and beyond to make you feel welcome, or about how be accommodating and professional they were, or whatever. Make sure to use the mention feature so they’ll get a notification and see it.
Flattery will get you everywhere… and public flattery that might make its way back to their manager, doubly so.
Obligatory plug for one of FreePrintable.net’s sites: ThankYouLetter.ws. They have a whole section with interview thank you letter templates, and a page with specific tips for interview thank you letters. (There are also tons of other letter templates if you browse around a bit.)
As a former professional recruiter and recruiting manager, I confirm, especially for entry-level positions, where you are competing with oodles of people. This little thing can make a difference. Also the fact that, maybe, you took time to google the “interview etiquette”.
SIGNAL BOOST
The post-interview thank you notes can be a good way to recover in case you got asked a question whose answer you either didn’t know or felt was super weak. So if you follow the above given template, jump in with something like “upon further thought to your question, here’s my revised answer.”
But yeah always send a thank you note after an interview. It’s a small thing but it makes a hell of a difference. And def send thank you messages to any recruiters who may have helped. And also after you get the job. Small things like that really go a long long way.
GO READ ASK A MANAGER RIGHT NOW.
AAM is an AMAZING resource for all work-related questions. This is a good starting place—basically the Big Questions people tend to have. (And some weirdness.) Job searching, negotiating for raises, performance issues, living through toxicity, recognizing toxic situations, dealing with coworkers, managing people, helpful starting-point scripts for all of the above… Do yourself a favor and check it out!
JFC no one ever told me any of this!!!!
A visual representation of my success with adulting thus far in 2021.
Adulthood is like I have to go buy more shampoo. I have to go buy more coffee grounds. I have to go buy more eggs. I have to go buy more toilet paper. I have to go buy more paper towels. I have to go buy more cumin. I have to clean the dishes so they can get dirty again. I have to do my laundry so it can get dirty again. I have to clean the bathroom so it can get dirty again. I have to buy more cleaner to clean the bathroom. I have to go buy more rice. I have to cook dinner. I have to cook dinner. I have to go buy more shampoo again.
“Shit I have to feed myself, guess it’s redbull and Skittles because I’m a literal child and my executive functioning is dead after work so I’m not making dinner”.
I mean, no, me?
Here’s some basic car maintenance
I’m going to post this is short sections, cause you know, ADHD and long paragraphs lmao
DISCLAIMER I know nothing about diesel vehicles or manual transmissions at the moment. I shall learn, it’s just taking awhile because attention span.
If you don’t know if you have a manual or automatic transmission, you probably have an automatic.
By doing basic maintenance on your vehicle yourself, you will save money, as well as be able to keep your vehicle running for longer. However, if you can’t or don’t want to do some of this, don’t sweat it. It’s okay to take it into a shop, just be prepared.
We’ll do the basics of how to find information about your vehicle first. You should always know the year, make, model, and engine size of your vehicle. This will make looking for parts a lot easier. For this example we’ll use my mom’s vehicle. She has a 2014 Ford Edge Sport 3.7 L V6. (When you purchase a vehicle, the previous owner or dealership should be able to give you this information and it should also be on your purchase slip). Owner manuals will have most of this information in it as well, you can purchase your owner manual online and you might even be able to find it free on some sites.
You should also know where and how to find your VIN (vehicle identification number) . This is usually on the drivers side above the dash in the left hand lower corner on the windshield. If it’s not there, check the car frame on the drivers side door.
If you have any questions, or specific things you want to know about basic maintenance, let me know!
