Date idea: he hits you up at 2 am on Thursday early morning with a Snapchat. You open it days later, left him on read. Then he Snapchat’s you again a week and a bit later on a Sunday at 9 pm. You wanting to know what it is, but not giving him the satisfaction of him having power over you.

Once of the things I used to struggle with was understanding why a guy dumped me.  I thought I was independent enough, nice enough, etc., but I wanted answers.  The truth is that we may never know why someone decided to break up or walk away from us, but finding individual closure is the best way to heal.  Through the course of dating, I have been lied to many times with many excuses of why they couldn’t date me anymore.  My favorite break up line was “you are so amazing and such a sweet person.  It’s not you, its me”.  I used to let it bother me, but then I realized that it was never about me and that I am a good person.  I learned that focusing on myself and the things that I enjoyed to do was the best way for me to heal.  Having an understanding that I am beautiful inside and out, and that I tried my best is what I focused on.  What are some ways that you have pulled through a break up? 

After he met the family he said that they were all great.  I didn’t bring anything up for a couple of weeks because I thought maybe he just needed to process everything since it was new.  We went out to dinner and he met my son, so I thought maybe I would bring it up after that.  We sat down and talked after dinner, and he never had really brought up his past or anything very private about himself, but he brought up his ex that night and had mentioned just a couple of things. IT was not enough to really make me feel like he was opening up to me. We then talked about us, and he said he was comfortable where we were and still wanted to see where things would go. I just wanted to scream on the inside.  It had been 5 months already!  In my head I was thinking he should know if he likes me or not, he should know if he wants to be with me, and he should definitely know if he wants me to date other people or not.  I felt so stuck.  What was I supposed to do?  I felt strung along.

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single life update

Intentionally undefined relationship with multi-racial, polysexual, aromantic man still going strong. Asked for a drawer in December and got it. It’s fully stocked with anything I may need while at his house. I adore him. The feeling seems to be mutual.

Interest in Latina trans*woman still strong but we have moved to a friendship I’d prefer not to fuck up by trying to have a relationship with. Especially since she is significantly younger than me.

Now in casual relationship with male presenting, non-binary, polyamorous person I’ve seen four times. He’s fun and quirky and a little bit naive and kind of adorable.

Chosen not to look or date anyone else for a while. Two steady relationships, regardless of definition are all I can manage with my schedule.