the universe: you WILL have to see your ex gf seven days in a row AND you have four projects due this week

me:

actual thing that happened today

so my gf and i broke up a little bit ago and it’s been super awkward cuz we are in the same friend group but we are both still super upset. so today i was like hey are we going to get dinner and my friend was like oh [insent ex-gf’s name here] is going to get chicken, we will just steal it from her and i was just like

what am i supposed to do, steal chicken from my ex-gf who i haven’t talken to in a week. just be like “hey, i’m still mad at you, but i’m really fucking hungry-can i have some chicken” like no

Being a girl suckkss!! Imagine waiting for a reply without even sending a message? Violence.

Places you should visit if you listen to hozier

1. Forests

2. My heart

3. Therapy

Why does everyone care when it’s too late?

Bestie if you’re going to do something to impress a man, just don’t.

I don’t give up but i don’t force shit either.

I’m only toxic if I care

I said I wanted my HAIR played with not my FEELINGS but ok

Ask me Anything. Literally anything.

Relationship questions?

Sex questions?

Addiction?

Depression? Anxiety?

Career and school questions?

Multicultural or feminist counseling?

Counseling psychotheories of change?

You want my world famous guacamole recipie? I’ll fucking give it to you if you ask, bitch.

My inbox will be open all day.

I’ll answer literally every question tonight.

Relationship anatomy

(Series of questions which can be useful when facing issues inside a relationship of any kind. Taken from a discussion with the Woebot app’s AI)

1) What are the advantages of blaming the other?

2) What are the disadvantages of blaming the other?

3) How much would I rate the advantages and disadvantages I found? (say, on a scale from 0 to 10, with 10 meaning it’s a very strong advantage/disadvantage)

4) What’s a negative thought I have about the relationship?

5) What is my role in the relationship? What type of person am I in it?

6) What adjectives describe my role in the relationship? (at least three adjectives, if possible)

7) What is the other’s role?

8) What type of words would I use to describe them?

9) What does it feel like for me to be in this relationship?

10) What are the “Rules” of the relationship that connect the two “roles” and reflect them both?

11) Do the rules and roles accurately reflect the interactions in the relationship?

12) Is it similar to other relationships in my life or specific to this one?

13) Looking through rules and roles, do I feel differently about the relationship or the same? If I feel different, this difference has had a positive or negative effect on how I think about the relationship?

14) Do I feel motivated to change elements of my relationship? If I am, can I pinpoint directly the changes I want to implement?

15) Overall how do I feel now? Better, the same or worse?

I know I havent posted in a while. I have been trying to officially start a life here in Ireland, which is going a lot slower than I thought it would. When I was back in Wales everything was so easy. I was put in dorms where other students were living, where everyone wanted to make friends. Now the only way to meet new people is to go to a meetup group or through work. My shy nature isnt helping me too much either. Because of this, I think Mozart and I are driving each other more crazy than usual. He met a few people with similar ideas and interests so I have been encouraging him to try to meet up with them. To make the next step. Im afraid if we both dont do our best to branch out, we will begin resenting each other. In a way, it has already started happening. 

Mozart is notorious for not being able to get up in the morning, and even when he does, he does it kicking and screaming. Every night before we go to bed he tells me that he wants to wake up early, have a fresh start, do a lot with his day. He tells me that I need to wake him up no matter what, but when I do, he is horrible. He says all these mean things, throws pillows (or this morning my phone against the wall) and curls up under the blankets. Telling me that he doesnt want to spend the day with me, that I am constantly dictating what he does with his days and that he just wants to be left alone. Sometimes I can do goofy things that will turn his mood right around, but more likely it has been just me leaving him alone like he wanted. I am so confused where this is all coming from. Maybe he is depressed. Or maybe a majority of it may come from the fact that we do indeed spend a lot of time together…so if he spends time with some with his new found friends everything will be better. maybe maybe maybe. 

It sometimes makes me feel like I am with two different people. The boy who loves to think about the wonderment of the world, the boy who laughs and is excited about doing things. The boy who will cuddle me and just tell me that he loves me. But then there is a different side. A switch in his eyes where he retreads the a dark corner within his mind, refusing to let anyone in and blaming anyone who even tries.

But maybe we all have these sides, these duel personalities, it is just with time that I am able to see his more clearly then ever before. 

Does anyone have advice on how to not sabotage your own relationship?? I feel like I keep getting sad around him as an excuse to push him away.

So communication is probably important in relationships lmao

Which one are you?

Breaking up with someone you love is one of the weirdest feelings, and I don’t know how to cope.

I’ve been hurt a lot… give me a chance to try and love again.

Unknown

“Help.”

“With what?”

“I like someone.”

“What’s wrong with that?”

“I like someone.”

“But, like, only a little bit though.. totally.” *cough*

Me: *wants love/attention/best friend energy*

Boyfriend:plays two video games at the same time