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The Wrath of Urkel
In the couple of days since the release of Childish Gambino’s widely acclaimed This is America video, it’s seemed that the question of his longtime interracial relationship with a white woman and whether or not it takes away from the sincerity of his politically charged, “unapologetically pro-black” video has been the subject of more think-pieces, debates and comment section tussles than the video itself. In one corner, he’s been dismissed as a coon/ sellout and has had the entire agenda of his music video brought under suspicion via the “you can’t talk black and sleep white” argument.
In another, more empathetic, corner, Childish Gambino’s interracial relationship has been defended and described as the typical route taken by black nerds after being rejected by black women whom they claim have never been interested in them or their Naruto comics. Black women, in response, have vehemently denied a wholesale rejection of black nerds with the argument that black male nerds simply want white women and have fabricated a black women’s vendetta against them in an attempt to justify their pursuit of white women. Black women have also highlighted the plight of the black female nerd and claim that their experience has been left out of the conversation entirely.
Now what I’ve seen, in the end, is a denial of the validity of the black male nerd’s claims of rejection by the black woman as well as a minimization of the black female nerd and her position within black nerd culture. Both conclusions are inaccurate.
In actuality, the nerdy black guy and the nerdy black girl are very much interconnected and have similar experiences when looking for love within the black community. Black nerd guys feel scorned by the “traditionally” (by colonial/ Eurocentric beauty standards) attractive black woman that every black man is told to want. The black nerd likes a big butt n a smile like everyone else. The problem is the big butt n a smile is absolutely not checking for Urkel because she is seeking out the black man deemed traditionally attractive (by the same colonial/ Eurocentric beauty standards) and is often overlooking any man that doesn’t fit into that mold, aka the black nerd guy. As far as the black nerd girl goes, she too is chasing the colonially defined attractive black man and is also not checking for the awkward, dorky, traditionally unattractive black nerd guy- let’s not pretend that she is. Since the black nerd girl’s interest in men is also governed by colonial beauty standards, she is certainly not checking for Urkel. She wants a fine ass nikka too. However, she’s awkward, dorky and traditionally unattractive so neither the fine ass nikkas, nor the black nerd guy, want her. Both the male and female black nerd end up chasing waterfalls- the traditionally attractive black man/woman whom they are generally denied due to their own traditional unattractiveness- and overlooking each other entirely.
What Urkel means when he says “black women don’t like me” is “Laura Winslow wasn’t tryna gimme no play so I’m throwing all black women away”. It’s a claim based solely off of their history of lofty romantic ambitions, rejected advances and hurt feelings.
With love, and a Dragon Ball Z tattoo,
a former black nerd
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The late Mildred Loving in 2007, remembering her marriage to Richard Loving and the landmark legal case that struck down state laws banning interracial marriage. The U.S. Supreme Court’s ruling in Loving v. Virginiawas issued on June 12, 1967.
In her later years, Loving became a strong proponent of same-sex marriage.
freedomtomarry has the full text of Loving’s comments here. Image via LovingFilm.com
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Until the late 1960s, it was illegal for interracial couples to marry in most states across the U.S., but that changed June 12, 1967, when the Supreme Court ruled in favor of the fittingly named Mildred and Richard Loving, effectively and rightfully declaring that love can, should and does transcend race. This landmark Loving v. Virginia ruling is commemorated on Loving Day, which falls on June 12 each year, to teach others about this significant legal decision.
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This weekend is Loving Day, a celebration of the Supreme Court decision outlawing bans against interracial marriage. Our readers have been sharing their stories of how interracial marriage has affected their lives.
Being multiracial today means that you don’t have a racial group to identify with. For me, it means that I don’t blend in with my white friends and family, but I also stand out amongst minority groups. It means I’m an outsider because, “[I] don’t really know what it’s like."
On the other hand, being mixed race is fantastic! My parents raised me with all of my racial/cultural traditions. In one month, I could go to a Swiss Days festival and then dance at a Buddhist temple for Obon. I took both ballet and hula classes; I grew up with the biggest palette; and a pidgin English that included, Finnish, Swedish, Danish, Japanese, Tagalog, Hawaiian, and Lao.
While I don’t fit in completely with any one group, I have some "claim” to so many beautiful and unique traditions.
– Sarah Brown Rupper
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Usually people ask me if my family is OK with my fiancé being black, or my parents ask if his family is OK with me being Mexican. I cannot understand why it is such a problem, but I know generations before me were different.
The fact that me and my fiancé can blend both our families and our cultures makes me feel so happy, because I know that our future kids will be a part of something great. They will be part of two amazing worlds, two amazing cultures and two amazing heritages. Thank you to the Lovings for standing up for love.
– Diana Ortega, Van Nuys
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I have always known that I was mixed. I can recall sitting in a circle with my elementary school friends saying what our races were and I clearly stated I was half white and half Mexican. I also had a special affinity for the mixed-species Mr. Spock. It didn’t mean that much to me until I entered college at UC Berkeley and became a student activist. After spending several years doing multiracial student organizing I returned home and became active in the multiracial movement through Multiracial Americans of Southern California (MASC). For years I participated in the struggle to change the Census to allow people to mark one or more races: organizing conferences, workshops, letter writing, etc. We were successful in that mission but imagine my surprise when I found they didn’t allow mixed Latino identity. In spite of all my efforts to enable millions to acknowledge all their identities that option was still denied me and likely millions more people.
When it came time to start my own family I chose a Latina friend whom I’ve known since high school. I wouldn’t say I explicitly set out to find a Latina, but rather, when looking for someone with which to spend one’s life, you tend to settle on someone with whom you have something in common. We had a daughter shortly after we married but then five years later chose to adopt a child from LA County. When we heard our son’s story and saw him as a newborn we couldn’t say no. When we made our decision at the time it really didn’t matter much to us what his race was. It wasn’t until we began introducing him to friends and family that we realized the significance of our transracial adoption.
Some like to believe that love is all you need to raise a child. But how do we show our love for our kids? We do what all parents do, we try to prepare them for life on their own. We live in a racist world, and our children, as people of color, will be subject to that racism at some point in their life. In our son’s case it happened before he was even one year old. So many people were curious about his race and one went so far as to comment how “you can’t even tell he’s black.” Why should it matter if you could tell he was mixed black unless you believed for some reason that was shameful? Being multiracial he was very fair skinned to start but has since darkened up somewhat. Today we don’t go out of our way to teach our kids about racial injustice, but we do try to instill in them a sense of pride in all of who they are. They will learn soon enough all the many ways racial discrimination can affect them. For now, we want them to know how their race makes them special.
Thomas Lopez, president of Multiracial Americans of Southern California (MASC)
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“My parents were married shortly after Loving vs. Virginia. This image of my Black dad and Mexican mom joining hands with us, their biracial children, in a flexible link secured us during waves of prejudice, stereotypes and misunderstandings from the outside world with the ability to pull us in as needed for support. A search for my identity, illustrated by our hands forming an abstract heart, is based on the love and confidence we had for each other to find our own way individually and as a unit.“
– Sonia Smith-Kang
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“Just Married! “ Let’s congrats and bless them~~ ❤️ Interracial kissing ❤️ ~~ Romantic and wonderful~~
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Wow~~Wow~~ Gorgeous… Thanks Kee shared your love story to us. Your guy is so handsome and you are beautiful. Awesome couple. Congrats and bless you and your sweet ♥♥ …
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Interracial kiss on wedding day… Happy and romantic moment,do you agree?Congrats and bless them ♥♥ …
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Recently I had a realization about conservatives and anti-choice policies: The rank-and-file conservatives fundamentally do not know what consent is.
I am not talking about the “smart” conservatives: the billionaires, political strategists, and mega-church owners who actually benefit from conservative policy. I’m referring to the poor white people who vote for the candidate that promises to take away their welfare because it might hurt a poor black person more.
These poor conservatives don’t understand consent, and their misunderstanding of all social policy follows this lack of knowledge. The smart conservatives know this, and so they always tailor their talking points to sound as scary as possible to someone who doesn’t know what consent is.
For abortion, that means telling the conservative base that the left wants to FORCE YOU to have an abortion. And the base falls for it, because without consent, they can’t comprehend any possible abortion positions besides “abortion is prohibited” and “abortion is mandatory.” For interracial marriage, it was the same thing: the conservative strategists told their base that the SCARY LEFTISTS are coming to break up your marriage and force you to marry a black person. For gay marriage, it was the exact same argument. The left-wing position on a lot of issues is that things should be allowed when they are consensual and not allowed when they are nonconsensual (there are exceptions, of course, and there are disagreements within the left as to what those exceptions are). But without understanding consent, the rank-and-file conservatives can very easily be fooled as to what the left-wing position actually is.
black-men-white-women.tumblr.com Haha this pic is so cute. Little girl shy & boy excited while her mom peeps and try to capture it on wedding entrance
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Our Facebook Fans 'Hanna’ and ‘Corrie’ wedding from Sweden.
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Very beautiful Interracial Wedding black-men-white-women.tumblr.com
This photograph from the Brooklyn Congress of Racial Equality (CORE) collection shows the Bibuld family: parents Elaine and Jerome, and their three children Melanie, Carrington, and Douglass (L to R).
The Bibulds, an interracial family, lived in Crown Heights in the early 1960s and the children attended a neighborhood school that had a Gifted and Talented program and enrichments like art, music, and field trips. After their home caught fire in the fall of 1962, the Bibulds moved to Park Slope, and the children’s new neighborhood school had substandard academics and few enrichments — and the student body was more than 70% African American and Puerto Rican.
Elaine and Jerry Bibuld, both members of the Brooklyn chapter of CORE, were angered by this educational inequity and concerned for their children who were very bored at their new school. So, they pulled their children out of this racially segregated public school and sat them in an all-white school in the Bath Beach section of Brooklyn. Technically, the children were not enrolled in school and the City considered them truants, which opened the parents up to imprisonment for parental neglect. For roughly three months, the Bibuld protest was the most important desegregation case in the city.
(viaBrooklyn History)
In an interview with New York Times, Vice President Richard Nixon expresses his dissatisfaction with the show I Love Lucy, claiming it is breaking down pure traditional marriage in this Country by displaying an interracial marriage. He is quoted “Shame on the television networks for allowing America to be subjected to this race-mixing marriage between a fine upstanding hard-working Cuban gentleman like Ricky Ricardo and a dirty, despicable Irish conniver like Lucy.“
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