I’m making this brief return to tell you guys about something that happened.
So, I was obviously feeling a bit down from my breakup, and my mum noticed. I was doing relatively alright until she asked what was wrong and if I was okay. So I just broke down a bit and she comforted me.
This woman straight up said: “So you two broke up.”
Keep in mind, I’m not out to her and she wasn’t even supposed to know I was dating someone. After I collect myself, I say: “I don’t still need to come out, do I?”
She laughed so hard she was sitting on the floor with literal tears streaming down her face. And you know what she said next? She said: “I may act oblivious, but I’m not stupid. You should see the way your eyes light up whenever you talk about your ‘friend’.”
Me, half-joking: “I’m sorry, I just don’t like men in that way.”
My mum: *jokingly* “you’re not really gay, you just haven’t found the right man, yet.” *can’t take herself seriously and snorts*
So that’s how I came out to my mum.
Note: my mum was joking on the last part, she’s totally supportive.
To anyone who heard lgbt slurs this holiday, directed at them or not, I’m sorry you had to go through that. I know it feels horrible hearing your family speak like that
You are notworth less than any other person. You are amazing and beautiful and absolutely valid ❤️❤️❤️
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Reading the statement the Australian journalist released about Rebel Wilson’s sexuality infuriated me.
First,how tone deaf can you be? Yes this society has advanced but let’s not forget that same sex marriage is still illegal in so many countries. Or that people still aren’t dying and committing suicide for being part of the LGBTQ+ community and struggling to come to terms with that or being obstracized by family.
Second, this is her private personal life. When a celebrity or anyone decides to come out it should be on their own terms. Not to sell your own damn papers. “We reveal the truth.” Yeah this isn’t some Watergate or politically corrupt official. This is just for gossip. Journalists get to leave once their story finishes. The persons life who would change is the person you outed and who are you to decide if they’re mentally ready for that or not?
Well just found out through social media that one of my friends is transphobic (she shared a clip from a Dr. Phil episode where a man argues against the statement trans women are women and said the man had good points). This really sucks cause me and her have the best discussions about diversity, inclusion, and race. And all of last year we hung out and I always got the impression she was very supportive of the LGBTQ+ community. Hell when our very overtly transphobic teammate told us he didn’t buy into it she immediately said we should respect people’s identity. And we had great discussions where I brought up how transphobia and homophobia is a huge issue in Mexican communities (my ethnicity). She said it was the same for African-Americans (hers) and we both sighed in disappointment.
I am 99% positive she agreed with the man because he said mtf individuals are appropriating womanhood. I know as a Black woman she’s very critical of cultural appropriation and very protective of womanhood and critical of the patriarchy. And I just want to scream because I know that’s likely the part she’s clinging too and it’s not the same thing. Idk if I should just cut her off or actually engage in a conversation with her about this. But I just feel lied to. Why not ask me questions? She saw me deal with our overtly transphobic teammate. I never screamed or belittled him. We conversed and by the end I got him to realize he should use people’s correct pronouns and not use dead names. Better to ask me and talk about it then lie because you want to stay in my good graces.
(Also I encourage anyone who is transgender to please avoid Dr. Phil. I’ve seen 2 episodes addressing this and it’s usually super transphobic and traumatic. I dropped him pretty quick).
