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On the face of it, this is an obvious and common truth that we all experience at some point.
It’s easy to recognise when someone is judging us based on a single moment, or a single mistake from a long time ago.
Their reason for holding on to such experiences is most often more about them wanting to protect themselves from going through it again, than it is about assuming that we’re incapable of being better.
But, there’s a more sinister side to this.
How many of us judge ourselves harshly because of that one mistake that we made a long time ago?
Do you still see yourself through your teenage eyes?
Or maybe you see yourself through the eyes of the one who first betrayed your love?
Perhaps you even still see yourself through the eyes of the family or the community that rejected you?
Whichever is true, when you hold on to being defined by a moment from your past, not only do you convince yourself that you are incapable of being better than that, but you also actively prevent yourself from growing from the experience.
There is no shortage of people who would see fit to judge us, and the ultimate judgement of our lives will come in due course.
Why put your life on hold over thinking either one, instead of living your best life?
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We often discard good advice because we don’t like the source.
Sometimes it’s because we don’t want to appear weak in front of them, and other times it’s because we are trying to save face after having treated them badly.
Emotional maturity is achieved when we are willing to learn from our enemies and loved ones alike.
It’s achieved when we are more focused on growth, than we are on how we may appear to others.
Emotional maturity is key to living with authenticity, and serving with conviction.
But, emotional maturity is not something that you can pursue directly. It is an outcome.
What we need to pursue directly is connecting with the gratitude of who we are, while seeking understanding of why they are who they are.
We must seek to understand the value of every good quality, positive trait, and also every flaw, while embracing how each of these contribute towards making up the whole of who we are as a human being.
Emotional maturity and quality of life, and relationships, follow from there.
Any other approach is not sustainable, because every other approach will be dependent on how others treat us, before we will be able to show up as our best selves in that moment.
Own Your Life. If not, someone else will.
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There’s a difference between being a victim in the moment, versus holding onto the victim mindset long after the moment has passed.
We hold on to the victim mindset when we need others to recognise our struggle, or to acknowledge what we’re having to overcome or deal with.
The only reason this becomes necessary is because we feel unappreciated for the most part.
More than this, we also believe that if we don’t have the victim card to play, we will have no excuse when we fall short of the expectations of others.
The victim mindset is therefore a result of us believing that we’re not worthy in our own right, that’s why we need to give others something to appreciate about who we are and why we are that way.
This is a classic example of a self-defeating behaviour.
In addition to all this, when we’re in victim mode, we place demands on others to compensate for our shortcomings, resulting in strained relationships because they become responsible for how we feel about ourselves, while also having to take up the slack that we leave behind because of how exhausting the victim mindset can be.
You owe it to yourself to rise above the impact of your last experience. Waiting for justice or retribution, or even an apology only results in you placing your life on hold, and most often has zero impact on the one who treated you badly.
Don’t give them power beyond the event. If you do, you’re feeding the very cycle of abuse or bad behaviour that you feel victim to.
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While there may be truth in the saying that money doesn’t buy happiness but at least you can choose your misery, we need to consider if we really want to be choosing our misery or experiencing happiness?
It all starts out with good intent.
Earn some money to improve your quality of life, or create a home environment that is welcoming and comfortable for those you love, and hopefully in the process, feel appreciated for your efforts.
But what happens when that appreciation is not as forthcoming as you need it to be?
Sometimes, we look for that appreciation in a specific shape and form, and if it doesn’t appear in exactly that way, we assume that we’re not appreciated.
That’s when our relationships become transactional as we start comparing who does how much to maintain the standard of living that we’ve grown accustomed to, while dismissing the efforts and intentions of the one doing all that.
Valuing yourself comes before any expectation or need to be valued by others. If you don’t value yourself, you’ll look for that validation or appreciation to be served up in a specific way by others, thereby holding them accountable for how you feel about yourself.
That’s how you end up having a life full of things, but a heart that lacks contentment.
It always starts with you. You teach others what is important to you by how you treat them.
And when you value yourself, you’ll realise that when others don’t value you, it’s because they’re struggling with their own self-worth and not because they don’t appreciate you or your efforts in their life.
Own your life, and your emotional wellbeing will take care of itself.
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Arrogance is the belief that we’re better…humility visits us when we realise that we’re not.
The root of arrogance is insecurity, but that’s a discussion for another day.
If we’re sincere about wanting to benefit others or wanting to create good for those around us, when we get it wrong and we’re corrected, we’ll appreciate it.
In such cases, we’ll eat gratitude pie, not humble pie, right?
So, when it feels like we’ve been made to eat humble pie, we need to consider what our intention was behind what we did before we got things wrong.
On the surface, our intentions always appear noble.
But it’s that appearance of nobility that distracts is from sincerity.
When connecting with or checking your intention, be sure to dig deeper than what you experienced in that moment.
It’s only when we connect with our intention, our true intention, that we’ll be able to recognise how others are not deliberately malicious or selfish in their actions.
Instead, it will allow us to connect with empathy to the emotional needs that they have.
That’s how we break cycles of unhealthy behaviours.
Perhaps if we eat more humble pie we’ll discover gratitude?
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Sometimes, we’re so focused on reacting to the disrespect that we receive from others that we don’t realise how we give up our self-respect in the process.
If we continue in reaction mode for long enough, we’ll find ourselves not only returning the favour by treating them the way that they treat us, but we’ll also find ourselves blaming them for our response.
That’s when we go beyond losing our self-respect and we begin losing ourselves completely.
Strangely though, we’re unlikely to do this with everyone.
We’ll often encounter total strangers or mere acquaintances who will treat us badly, but we’ll ignore them and continue focusing on what is important to us.
Therefore, the answer lies in how much significance we place in those relationships to which we lose ourselves.
The more significant that we want to be in their lives, the more we’ll convince ourselves about their significance in ours. That’s how we become emotionally invested in being treated with respect by them.
The less respect we receive, the more intense our emotional experience, resulting in us fighting fire with fire. In other words, giving them a taste of their own medicine.
That’s when respect becomes optional. When we convince ourselves that treating others the way that they treat us is in fact justice, when the truth is that it is returning their bitterness with our bitterness towards them.
That’s how we give up the good of who we are.
The greatest tragedy in all of this is that when we lose ourselves, we also lose sight of the struggles, or the low self-esteem that they’re experiencing which causes them to treat us badly.
Instead of breaking that cycle, we feed it, and in the process, harm ourselves as much as we believed they were harming us.
When respect becomes optional based on how we’re treated by others, we give them the power to define how we feel about ourselves.
To whom are you giving your power today?
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