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The Pain of Saying Goodbye

I have to confess that being able to write this post requires a lot of strength and courage - not just for me personally, but many others who have experienced some kind of loss in their lifetime. This can be from the ending of a friendship or romantic relationship or even the sudden death of a loved one or pet. In my own life, I have experienced several deaths in my family when I was growing up as a child and as a teenager. Experiencing these events at such a young age has caused me to have a crippling fear of loss and abandonment, which is no fault of my own. It found me down my path, unfortunately. Difficult situations like this happen throughout our lives whether we want them or not, which is a hard bullet to take and can often feel very painful.

Losing someone you care about in any shape or form can have detrimental effects on our overall wellbeing. Take heartbreak for instance, when someone we love and care about tells us that they don’t want us anymore; it can cause insomnia, anxiety, desperation, obsession, poor appetite, hopelessness, sadness and despair. All of these things can really eat away at our health and that’s just not on an emotional level either. I have experienced this a couple of times and it isn’t pretty. It hurts you to the core. However, in this kind of situation, although I know how difficult it is to see it in a positive light. Ask yourself whether that relationship was really for you or not. Often times when we cannot get over someone, there is a presence of an unhealthy attachment or codependency which isn’t a good thing.

As someone who has a fear of abandonment, losing someone I cared about and had fun with is what hurts me the most. I thrive when I feel accepted in a group of people such as friends or loved ones. So going through something like this causes a lot of hurt and emotional pain inside of me. However, I do pick up the pieces and move forward towards a place that serves me a lot better. Always remember that these experiences are here to make you grow wiser as a person and as a soul too. Without them being in life, we wouldn’t learn something new about ourselves whether that is good or bad.

Grief can be a very challenging emotion to deal with, but you should never suffer with this alone. Talk to a friend you can console with and trust, a therapist or loved one to help you process your difficult emotions. Remember you are not alone, even though it may feel like it. If your body and soul require you to cry, allow it to happen without any resistance. Do not feel ashamed about it. Your body is an amazing machine, do not abuse it in any shape or form. With grief and pain, never bottle it up as doing this will damage you in the long run and may even cause you to develop conditions such as separation anxiety, attachment disorder, depression or in severe cases PTSD and suicidal tendancies. So if you need help, reach out to someone who will listen to you.

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After first 37 pages being done, the comic finally has its cover AND its name is corrected from “Seclusion” to “Separation”. I started the comic many years ago when i barely knew any english words and google translator helped me with everything and for some reason it thought that “seclusion” was the correct word. Now, 8 years later this comic deserves some main revamp in some details, including its title uvu

I admit that i was kinda lazy with coloring tho but i like how darvon came out the most but im weirdly happiest mostly about the title for some reason. I just like making logotypes and stuff tho uvu 

But anyway, the comic will get renamed even here on tumblr later when i have time. For now, enjoy the late cover!