I’m going to say this once, and only once:

If someone is not out publicly, you dead name them by default, and you do not breathe a word where their abusers might hear it—especially not their new name.

I’ll be fine—I’m not in immediate danger or anything—and I’ll figure shit out. Just remember that you keep your mouth shut until you have permission; the best gift you can give a loved one is them never having to worry about you being a threat to their sense of safety.

Edit: reblogs are encouraged, just don’t add anything. I seriously don’t wanna hear it, even if it’s well meaning.

just got told i’m transphobic and make a mockery of the trans community since i use neos

all from a cis girl

not sure how to feel

Having a support system as a transperson is nice, but people underestimate the need for actual friends as a transperson.

Sometimes, you need people to talk to about transition stuff. For example, sometimes I really wanna talk about titties and stuff and hopes for my transition through discussing what they would look like and examples of body types that I could be. I can’t talk about that with family.

This is no offense to you, my mutuals, but physically talking about it rather than messaging is just something that’s needed.

i was wondering if anyone knew how to navigate a friend who has a transphobic “opinion”

this is all serious, not hypothetical, but i will be using different names because i love my friend dearly

my friend Vicky is a cis woman (detrans’d from male if that matters???? i dont think it does) who thinks that not wanting to date trans people because they are trans is valid and okay

this is an opinion that to me is transphobic, so we dont see eye to eye. but Vicky is very trans positive, and very supportive of mine and my parters transitions and trans rights and everything. but that one opinion really sticks out to me

i dont know how to navigate this with her at all. i dont want to give up on our friendship over just that, but i dont know if maybe it is worth losing a friend over. any advice would be helpful right now

GF: Why does my voice crack so much?
Me: I don’t know.
GF: Maybe my balls are receding
Me: *Hysterical laughter* Why can’t I share this for other people to enjoy?
GF: You can. Put it on your blog as ‘Shit my Trans* Girlfriend Says’.

Here it is! 

My mom seems to think it is and I want to prove her wrong.

My voice wasn’t considered
“You’re too young to know”
I can fly away too just like my trust for you
The “help” you provide isn’t helping at all
It’s only a touchy subject because you’re not adult enough
Don’t tell me how much you know me
You don’t know a thing
I don’t tell you shit
But I’ll start tell you shit
“You haven’t found yourself yet”
“God made you the way you are for a reason”
Cut the crap
No more words will slip from my tongue
I’m done

I’m a few inches taller, have T, an accepting family, and ripped abs

We were doomed from the start

Born into a life of tragedy

No one ever hears about that part 

It’s not cool, it’s not pageantry 

It’s hating the reflection in the mirror 

And questions you can’t answer yourself

Wishing they would see you clearer

Setting your feelings on the shelf

Not getting the help you need

People saying you won’t be loved

Their warnings you should heed

Being pushed and shoved

All this takes a toll on your health

After all, you can’t transition without wealth

No one takes your seriously as a transman because you’re “not masculine enough”

whats-a-trans:

whats-a-trans:

READ ALL INSTRUCTIONS BEFORE ENTERING!

Hello everyone. As a trans man I know the struggle of not having enough money to buy a proper binder. Currently I have enough money to buy one for myself and someone else so I’m giving one away. To be entered into the giveaway, you have to meet the following conditions:

• Only one entry per household
• You must enter a valid name, email address, and reason
• Must be 12 or over to enter
• YOU MUST BE TRANS*(no cosplayers or anything of the sort allowed)
• US only (sorry International folks)

If you enter and win you get to pick your choice of binder from GC2B or Underworks as long as it’s $40 or under including shipping costs.

The contest starts on May 10, 2016 at 12am EST and ends on June 1, 2016 at 11:59pm EST.
A winner will be chooses at random after the contest ends.

You can ENTER HERE: http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/3c668e821/?

If you have any questions or concerns contact me: [email protected]

***RETWEET TO SPREAD THE WORD***

Hey everyone my funds have changed and while I’m not canceling the giveaway I’m going to have to either push back the winning date or have a delay on when the winner receives their prize. I’m so sorry about this but unexpected expenses always come at the worst times. Thank you for understanding!

Only one week left to enter!!!

I’ve noticed that one of the main reasons that people are putting for why they need a binder is that they can’t pay for one themselves. While putting this doesn’t effects your chances of winning. There can still only be one so not everyone’s going to win.

For those that don’t, I wanted to make this post informing you of a wonderful website called Swagbucks. It’s a paid survey website and before you stop reading it actually works. In fact that’s where I got the money to even run the giveaway. I’ve only been seriously using it for about 3 months and have made over $185(I used it here and there and made $18 in about 5 months)

Now I have to warn you that you won’t be making that much automatically but if you stick with it and use it everyday even for a month you can have enough to buy a new binder and much more. It’s one of the best ways I’ve found out there to make money especially if you don’t have a job or are too young to get one.

All you have to do is sign up with this link:

http://www.swagbucks.com/refer/whatsaphan

and you’ll get an extra 300SB = $3 after you make your first 300 (which doesn’t take long at all) and you’ll have $6 right there.

It’s one of the best things that you can do for yourself. Just stick with it. I’d recommend trying to get to level 3 on CrowdFlower(under the task section in answers) as I’ve managed to make at least $60 from there alone in 2 months time.

If you have any questions don’t hesitate to ask me. Just send me a message and I’ll get back to you. Now go, go buy yourself that new binder or packer or pack of boxers!

P.S. It will ask you for your gender. As will most of the surveys you take (some have an “other” option) I put the one I identify as aka male. (Sorry to all my NB folks, it makes you choose.)

P.S.S. To all my younglings(under 18) I don’t think I’m supposed to say this but you may want to “update” your birth date. And keep it consistent across all the surveys you take. You might want to write down your information that may not be 100% authentic so you don’t forget. But you didn’t hear it from me.

Think before you speak

Just say what you’re thinking about saying out loud to yourself once. Is it questionable? If you’re not sure, maybe keep it to your damn self. It is not my job to educate or correct you. I refuse to be your fetish or your experiment. I am a sexual person, I love sex. I post pictures and videos and speak openly about my cock and my body. That does not mean that I am wanting or inviting of your obsession with trans peoples bodies and parts. I will not allow myself to be objectified.FUCK.YOU.

Applying for a passport… Am I going to get turned down if my license says “male” but my birth certificate says “female”?

After I came out as trans I just don’t drink anymore, because I really prefer to be treated like the 14 y.o. boy that I’m read as than getting a drink and be read as a 19 y.o. girl that my I.D. tells them I am.