#ace pride
Happy asexual awareness week my dudes
jesus christ is canonically asexual
Happy Pride Everyone! ️️⚧️
The idea that we all have a fixed sexual identity has created a toxic environment for learning about asexuality and aromanticism, Attraction is far too complex to be constrained within the Western labels created to define (and pathologize) our experiences.
An absence of sexual and/or romantic attraction does not imply that a person has “no attraction” or desires lifelong solitude. Attraction functions on multiple levels and in a multitude of ways.
•Sexual attraction: sexual desire based on attraction to another person
•Romantic attraction: desire to form a romantic relationship based on attraction to another person
An absence of these forms is not an absence of attraction. Relationships also dont have to be sexual/romantic.
The idea of “romance” itself is a social construct relative to how Western society has defined courtship practices. “Love” (an equally complex, yet broader, concept) should not be conflated with “romance.” Romance should not function as an expectation of a “healthy” relationship.
The naturalization of (hetero)sexual and (hetero)romantic expectations (that this form of sexual/romantic attraction and desire are natural and “normal”) came to be as a result of colonialism. What society sees as human “truths” are largely accepted products of violence.
Recognizing how a societal expectation has become naturalized (rather than just accepting it) is important because it’s important to ask why things are the way that they are when what is now understood to be “natural” negatively constricts the complexity of human experience.
Demisexual Problem 72 (sent in)
Having a therapist, someone you trust with all your might with everything else, not know the difference between demisexuality and demiromanticism
Demisexual Problem 71 (sent in)
Finally finding someone who you connect with and being awkward and nervous with physical romance because you’ve never been able to build those skills.
You’ve heard of Pansexuals, Bisexuals, and Aces, now get ready for
Respecting their sexuality
Demisexual Problem 70
Sometimes you want to make sweet love to (almost) all of your most intimate friends
Demisexual Problem 69
You only want romance and cuddles; they also want sex
Demisexual Problem 68
Masturbation can be difficult if you don’t feel sexually attracted to anyone
Demisexual Problems 67
Even if you don’t feel sexual attraction for anyone, you get horny anyway
So, the New York Times took knowledge of us. This is wonderful!
Demisexual Problem 66
Sometimes you fall for friends who aren’t interested, and there is always that weird damage control
Demisexual Problem 65
It is very difficult to explain to people who don’t experience attraction the same way.
Demisexual Problem 64
There’s almost nowhere to meet people in ~adulthood~ that meets our comfort level