#breakup advice
For anyone trying to get over someone right now:
- It’s possible for you to be happy without him because you were happy before him
- Think about all the people you’ve felt this way about in the past and how little you care about them now
- People make time for what they want to make time for and you don’t deserve anything less than first place
- Remember when you had to convince yourself he was good enough for you?
- Think about all the things you loved doing with him and ask yourself if you could be just as happy doing those same things with someone else (someone better)
- Shift your energy to something else- everytime you start thinking about him open a book or start a yoga class or cook
- Just because it was comfortable doesn’t mean it was meant to be
- Write down all the things you hated about him- literally every little thing that annoyed you. Then burn it along with any pictures of him you have
- Write down all the things you think he’s going to miss about you. Keep that list somewhere you’ll see it everyday
- Finally- If he wanted to, he would have. And there’s someone out there who will.
im always open about wanting a poly relationship, but recently I realized I cant do mono forever & told my partner. They were a little hurt, but ultimately said they wanted to open the relationship. Since then though, they’ve broken down crying about it twice (haven’t even been with anyone else yet). I dont feel right about this, but they keep insisting its better than losing me. They refused counseling with me, & idk what else to do. Theyre REALLY going through a lot rn, but idk if i can stay
Don’t stay in this relationship. Someone “going through a lot” doesn’t obligate you to stay in a relationship. If you’re at the point of “I don’t know if I can stay” and “they refused counseling with me,” it’s time to get out. When you said you needed to change the terms of the relationship, they may have said that they will abide by those new terms, but their behavior shows that they are not. You don’t need my permission to leave this relationship, but you have my support and encouragement.
