You win the most when the cards you hold are worth folding but you take the risk

I turned myself into someone I absolutely love. I light candles when I’m alone, I cook what I want for myself, I listen to music other people hate, and sometimes I even dance like a complete psychopath. I used to not cook with mushrooms because my ex hated them, I used to base my cleaning around when other people were coming over, I used to save the good wine for friends houses. But now I save the best for myself. I do what I want for me because I’m the most important one in my own life. Because what do we have if we can’t enjoy our own company?

i-wrotethisforme:

“I want to pretend it was never good and we were just young and I was blind. But the truth is I’ve never seen another pair of eyes like yours and my mom still loves you.”

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It’s not about him, I genuinely don’t even want him anymore. It’s about me- like why I wasn’t good enough and what I did wrong. Why is she worth showing off and posting pictures of and changing for but I wasn’t? Why was I hidden and why does she get to meet his mom? Why wouldn’t he do the things I begged him for but now he does them for her voluntarily?

I’ve thought about it for months and the best I can come up with besides the fact that I simply wasn’t worth it is that he knew he would be wasting his efforts on someone he couldn’t keep forever. Because we’re often better than the men who leave us, and maybe we don’t give them enough credit for being able to see that.

i-wrotethisforme:

I wish there was a different ending because this isn’t one I’ve ever wanted to read. And it’s both our faults and I’m partly sorry. But I don’t want you to miss me and I don’t want you to have regrets and I don’t want you to get your heart broken the way I did. I just hope she teaches you to love yourself more. And I hope she makes you realize how much potential you have to change the world.

True happiness is when you can’t think of anything else you want in life and you’re scared to death of losing something you already have

This isn’t easy but it’s something you need to hear. He’s not the only one for you, and he’s not even the best one for you. And it doesn’t matter that you share an apartment or that you have a child together because no inconvenience is worth staying unhappy. And no environment where you’re unhappy is going to be good for that child. I know it’s scary and it seems impossible but you’re going to meet someone else who will give you a life you’re never bored of and a future you can’t wait for and some of the best fathers aren’t biological and some of the greatest loves aren’t the first.

If I stayed with my ex, I would be married with kids right now and honestly I would be really happy, I know that. But I wouldn’t have met you or your sister or my neighbors or any of the guys I’ve dated in the past 5 years or any of the people I consider my best friends right now. And there are thousands of pictures I wouldn’t have taken and memories I wouldn’t have made and trips I wouldn’t have gone on and favorite outfits I wouldn’t have bought. And I wouldn’t live in this apartment and I wouldn’t have taken this job. I was so close to my entire life being completely different. My life that I’m in love with almost didn’t exist. That’s why I’m thankful for that breakup and all the worst moments of my life. Because I wouldn’t have what I have right now without every decision I’ve made leading up to today, even the bad ones.

Some people take up a lot of our pages but aren’t in the last chapter. Some people make an appearance for two weeks in our lives and fuck everything up. It’s not about them, it’s about the ones walking off the screen holding your hand in the series finale.

There’s “obvious, meant to be love” and then there’s “holy shit how did I not see this” love. And I’m not going to say that one’s better than the other but one is built on years of all different kinds of feelings and it’s not the obvious one.

i-wrotethisforme:

For anyone trying to get over someone right now:

• It’s possible for you to be happy without him because you were happy before him
• Think about all the people you’ve felt this way about in the past and how little you care about them now
• People make time for what they want to make time for and you don’t deserve anything less than first place
• Remember when you had to convince yourself he was good enough for you?
• Think about all the things you loved doing with him and ask yourself if you could be just as happy doing those same things with someone else (someone better)
• Shift your energy to something else- everytime you start thinking about him open a book or start a yoga class or cook
• Just because it was comfortable doesn’t mean it was meant to be
• Write down all the things you hated about him- literally every little thing that annoyed you. Then burn it along with any pictures of him you have
• Write down all the things you think he’s going to miss about you. Keep that list somewhere you’ll see it everyday
• Finally- If he wanted to, he would have. And there’s someone out there who will.

“I told him I was too me to be a part of his world. He smiled and caressed my cheek, his lips hovering over mine as he whispered, “and that’s why I love you so much baby, you’re everything I’ve ever dreamed of.””

- g.d (love me for me)

You know what it all comes down to?

The day you finally see that everything you are outweighs everything you aren’t.

The world has shifted when we decided to do that one thing, step out and be courageous.

To the past life lover

I don’t remember you but I have not forgotten you . ♥️

Oh, how wonderful it is to be changed by something, or someone. And oh, how more wonderful for that change to be acknowledged. Just remember to change not for something, or for someone, but for yourself.

I think it’s one thing to be born a pessimist and have heartbreaking experiences that confirm your doubts.

I think it’s a second thing to be born a realist and have heartbreaking experiences that hurt, but not in ways that aren’t foreseen.

I think the it’s a much different thing to be born an optimist and to have heartbreaking experiences that tear down your hope and alter your expectations.

I think the pessimist comes out, not much different, but with better understanding of the world and its cruel sentences.

I think the realist comes out a little different, with cosmic changes in strength and compassion.

I think the optimist, most of the time, is broken into an entirely new human being.

I am free, And god damn it feels good.

-whatisitgoodforabsolutelynothing