the longer I’m parenting-aged the more I realize how disciplinary oriented parenting styles are significantly more deranged than initially assumed
me as a teen watching a parent storm across a room to scream at a child for accidentally spilling paint: hm. This is not good.
me as an adult watching another adult storm across a room to scream at a vulnerable and still developing child for accidentally spilling paint: This is my villain origin story
as a parent now, it blows my fucking mind how terrifying, abusive, and straight up ineffective that parenting is. I’ve got a 2 year old. she’s a smart little fucker. when she does something wrong, I tell her, “baby, that wasn’t okay. here’s the reason it wasn’t okay - (hurt feelings, hurt other people’s stuff, etc). I know you don’t want to (hurt feeling, hurt stuff, etc), so next time, let’s (insert appropriate behavior) and that way, we won’t hurt people accidentally.” and you know what happens?
90% of the time, that behavior stops.
when the behavior continues, it’s when she’s extremely frustrated that she’s not getting a communication across. while she’s incredibly smart, there’s going to be some lapse in understanding between the two of us, and she lashes out by doing the things that she knows creates frustration in me, almost like she’s trying to make me understand she’s frustrated just like that.
so, I sit back down on her level. “baby, I can see that you’re mad/frustrated/upset/sad. let’s work this out together. I really want to understand what is bothering you.” if it’s something that can’t be done (stay awake from nap, eat sugary things before bedtime), then we find a compromise: you want to stay awake from nap to play with toys? let’s dig out an old toy you haven’t played with in a while after your nap! we’ll do it together and have lots of fun. you want something sugary right now? that will keep us awake for too long, but here’s some *really tasty favorite fruit* for now, and tomorrow, let’s bake cookies together when you wake up.
she’s two fucking years old. and she understands that shit. and now, often times, when she climbs into bed and she still wants to play, she’ll tell me, “tomorrow can we play with these toys, Mommy?”. she already understands compromise, and her behavior is fucking phenomenal.
I totally understand that it can be frustrating to parent. sometimes it feels like you’re hitting your head against a brick wall. BUT KIDS DON’T HAVE THE FUCKING ABILITY TO TURN ON THEIR LOGIC BRAIN WHEN THEY’RE HURTING EMOTIONALLY. WE, AS ADULTS, DO. and it is our fucking RESPONSIBILITY to help them turn their logic brain back on, and help them work thru that strong emotion, instead of punishing them by letting out our anger on them.
you know what would happen if I were to yell at my kid? she’d yell back, louder, and now know that this is an acceptable way to react now, and I’d effectively have made it hypocritical to tell her not to yell at me. bam.
you want to express extreme anger at a child for not having the emotional control that you aren’t capable of even showing right now? not gonna help. at all. my kid comes to me to find compromises now. she’s amazing. and she’s not even 3 years old. if you, as a grown ass adult, are not fucking able to see your children as developing humans that need GUIDANCE, not BRUTAL, AGGRESSIVE ANGER, then you prob shouldn’t have a goddamn kid.
my main on this account is nfsw. I’ve long since abandoned it, and made a new sfw account but can’t get admin status switched on this side blog since tumblr simply isn’t Doing The Thing. :’) so this blog will be deleted too
I am very pissed but can’t do anything unfortunately
What if mean girls but with a trans woman character n they all viciously defend her
Like someones like “ur not a real lady” and fucking the plastics are just like “you can think what you want but at leAST HER MAKEUP IS EVEN YOU CROOKED EYELINER BITCH”
when Pema said “you used to spend days in the temple meditating” you know she was thinking “you mean you spent DAYS meditating while I was taking care of our Airbender children and our home and you weren’t even in the Spirit World????? DUDE.”
gotta say the best post-pornban tumblr development has got to be the rise of wizard blogs. we aint the biggest or shiniest social media out there but hey, what other platform has this many people earnestly doing wizard shit online
JUST BECAUSE I HAVEN’T SLEPT IN 36 HOURS THAT DOESN’T MEAN I HAVE INSOMNIA I MIGHT BE AWAKE FOR COOL WIZARD REASONS. YOU DONT KNOW ME. IVE FORGOTTEN HOW TO READ.
no wait wAIT NOT RIGHT NOW THIS IS A REALLY DELICATE TIME I ACCIDENTALLY CAUSED MASSIVE STRUCTURAL DAMAGE TO MY WIZARD TOWER BY OPENING A PORTAL TO THE DEEP VOID OF SPACE
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so i did some digging and found out there’s a really shitty young justice spinoff game made for the ps3 and later ported to pc. it got taken down from steam in 2017 but i found somehwere to download it so if i dotn get a computer virus mayb a fun stream idea?
WHY WOUDL THEY DO THAT. i watched 5 seconds of gameplay it looks so fucking janky im literally only goign to play this game for klarion and the riddler
I’m literally about to start crying/laughing in my class bc my friend who has already written two (2) stories of Morris x Pierre and now last night we discussed what a stardew anime would be AND SHE JUST SHARED A GOOGLE DOC OF A PLANNING SHEET FOR IT I CANT
please know that u r welcome to add transcriptions to my posts where i have not been able to because of my spoons
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caps: gay / djarn
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Guys, please, for yours and others safety, go block @/youra-c-u-t-iepie-y-o-u-r-s-e-lf , they’re extremely ableist and have been following random neurodivergent people just to harass them and to tell them to “ký$”. Please stay safe, and if they message you, delete the message andBLOCK THEM.
Earlier today we announced to the press that we are running a beta test program for Post+, Tumblr’s newest add-on subscription tool. Post+ is a completely optional tool that will allow creators to make some of their posts exclusive to their paid subscribers. You can read more about it right over here on our @postplus Tumblr. This feature is being tested by a small group of incredible creators on Tumblr.
We want to hear about what you like, what you love, and what concerns you. Even if it’s not very nice. Tell us. We can take it. We WANT that feedback. It helps us make Tumblr better.
What we won’teveraccept is the targeted harassment and threats these creators have endured since this afternoon. These creators are some of the most talented people around, and all they’re doing is testing out a feature. These are the people who graciously agreed to pilot a program to help us discover bugs before we open it up to all creators. These are the humans who are testing a feature that we hope will soon help thousands of Tumblr creators feel empowered, get rewarded for their efforts, and find support within their community.
OurCommunity Guidelines are clear: Don’t engage in targeted abuse, bullying, or harassment.
Anyone in violation of these guidelines will be dealt with swiftly and will be forced to contend with the appropriate consequences. It’s okay to tell us how you feel. It’s not okay to bully someone because you disagree with their choices.
@staff it’s great to hear that you “won’t everaccept targeted harassment and threats”!
now: can you tell me what that looks like? genuinely, please, can you tell me what the fuck you’re going to do to put a stop to it?
because let’s be clear: the creators beta testing this (extremelypoorly-thought-out) feature, which is *going* to result in enough lawsuits to possibly actually shut tumblr down for good, are not fair game for criticism here. like: the whole point, the whole appeal of tumblr is that everyone here is in the same boat. we’re all poor as dirt, probably mentally ill, neurodivergent, queer, and/or disabled; the preferred term for a tumblr user is “dumpster-diving shrieking opossum.”
the people who were targeted for beta testing are not jeff bezos. they’re your local cashier and sales clerk just trying to survive. the backlash they’ve received is unwarranted, inappropriate, misdirected and cruel. @kaijuno has received hundreds of death threats in one fucking day, and that’s not okay.
so,@staff, what are you going to do to stop it?
because it doesn’t seem like you’ve done a thing to protect kaijuno, or any of your “post+” beta testers. users who’ve been suckered into this crapshoot are taking the fall for your tone-deaf decision making, so what are you going to do to compensate them? you want to talk about emotional damages, maybe there’s a place to have that conversation when the reason they’re being targeted,onyour platform, is because of you.
and while we’re here, let’s talk about one other section of the community guidelines you’ve mentioned:
let’s talk about how one of the common tags on tumblr, common enough that it pops up when i type “terf” in the tag bar, is “terfs do interact”. let’s talk about how tumblr, the place where pretty much all the most recent LGBT+ pride flags have originated, the so-called queerest place on the internet, isactively fostering the growth of a transphobic subculture. let’s talk about how your inaction has allowed ace exclusionists to gain a foothold in the young queer community, how your unwillingnessto enforce the ban on actual hate speech has led to a generation unfamiliar with the legitimate history of the word “queer.”
(side note for general readers: a good rule of thumb is, if a term has entered the lexicon of academia, it is more or less universally accepted as the Appropriate Name For The Thing. that’s your number one tipoff for the revisionist history behind this “queer is a slur” discourse, which was kicked off and is carried on primarily by TERFs).
so yeah: let’s talk about the community guidelines. let’s talk about selectively enforcing them.
because i’m happy to hear you’re not going to stand for targeted harassment and hate speech anymore. genuinely, i am. what i want to know is whether you mean it.
do you care about the health and safety of your userbase, and respect your so-called community guidelines? or are they just a convenient excuse for you to distance yourself from the latest shitstorm you’ve kicked off, defend the honour of your financial assets, and wash your hands entirely of the fallout?
I also want to add to this to say please take the survey! I know people who don’t want a feature usually just don’t take whatever survey but this is extremely important. We need @staff to know that we do not want this feature and to do that we actually have to tell them. Please take the survey and pleasewritehow much you do not want this feature.
Tumblr is not the place for paid content, it’s a social media website/app. There are far better websites for paid content that people already use and are comfortable with, not only is this a bad idea for website content in general, it’s also a bad business idea. You will never be able to compete with OnlyFans, Patreon, KoFi, Twitch, or even just someone’s independent website shop. This website is not set up to house paid content and if this truly gets implemented, it will only be a disorganized mess.
This is a bad idea.
Previously when this idea has been tested, it’s had a horrible backlash as well. Sixpenceee, Striders, Egberts, and other bloggers have tried to monetize their blogs only to face horrible repercussions. One of the main philosophies present in this website is anti-capitalism!!
So anyone reading this I’m begging you to take this survey and tell @staff how awful of an idea this is and how you will not support it. Don’t just ignore the survey.
BE LOUD
hey people this stuff is going to ruin tumblr. please take the servey, its really short and feedback is crucial to prevent this from existing in the first place. we need to snip this in the roots asap.
please take this survey. it really doesn’t take up a lot of your time and we can shut this down if we make sure we all tell them we don’t want it.
also, i know we’ve all been making a lot of jokes abt it but for real if any of you (as in ppl who follow me who’ll see this) have sent death threats or general hate to those who are using this feature rn? i don’t want anything to do with you, what the fuck is wrong with you?? like actually what the fuck is wrong with you????
anyway take the survey y'all
Y’all… I- *long sigh* just take the goddamn survey please
One of the best parts of having a toddler in your life that can navigate YouTube is they find some wild shit
So were just gonna sit and pretend this doesnt SLAP??
Oh i would never claim this wasn’t the bop of the century. I have taste
Oh yeah. This goes off honey
EAR YOUR HEART OUT JOJO SIWA
Important information from @little-parade
WHAT
okay but this is not only a bop but also so much more kid friendly than I expected?? the animation is clean and cute, the song is dope with no double entendres or anything, the dancing looks fun without any sexualised moves. Like, this is made for kids, but with EFFORT and KIDS IN MIND. I love this. Also, penguin boys who support their sister and show kids that gender roles are bullshit
Sad update everyone, Tama recently passed away… An estimated 3,000 people, including railway officials, attended Tama the cat’s funeral on Sunday, days after she died of heart failure aged 16. [x]
For those who haven’t read articles about it, the local shrine elevated her to a god. She’s now the Eternal Stationmaster and patron god of the station.
Beautiful.
Now I’m crying thanks
and a new cat was hired right?
yep! her name is Nitama (essentially ”second tama” or “tama II”) and she served under Tama as an apprentice before being appointed her deputy
she works very hard
Everytime this crosses my dash, I reblog. It is the law.
Law
I’m crying at 11pm over train cats
Nitama, already now a mature cat (born 2010), has a protege named Yontama (fourth Tama, b. 2016). There is no information available for either the physical befellment or tragic self-disgrace which has removed Santama from contention.
^Nitama majestic, and below with Yontama
Yontama.
a legacy
okay but actually what happened to santama (or sun-tama-tama, which is her name because it’s a pun on santama) was that she was basically sent to train for the position in okayama and they liked her so much they refused to send her back
“Sun-tama-tama” (a pun off of “Santama”, lit. “third Tama”) was a calico cat sent for training in Okayama. Sun-tama-tama was considered as a candidate for Tama’s successor, but the Okayama Public Relations representative who had been caring for Sun-tama-tama refused to give the cat up writing, “I will not let go of this child, she will stay in Okayama.” [25]
As of September 2018, Sun-tama-tama is working as the stationmaster in Naka-ku, Okayama and appears occasionally on Tama’s Twitter account.
Every time I see this post there’s new info and it gets better
You are only allowed to scroll pass this after you pay tribute to the great Tama Station masters.
The shrine of Tama Daimyōjin (Great gracious deity Tama), next to the Kishi station where she worked.
Nitama presenting her yearly offerings to Tama Daimyōjin on the anniversary of Tama’s Death, June 23 (The offerings are presented by the company president, as Nitama is a cat and thus can’t hold the offerings herself) (Not pictured, but also present, Yontama)
you cannot pass without reblogging guys. i’m sorry, i don’t make the rules.
You can’t not reblog a goddess. It’s just what’s so. :)
So, fun fact- the manga Noragami has an arc where the main character, Yato (a minor kami/God that is down on his luck but trying to make it big time) goes to a council/conference for all the Gods in Japan.
And they are announcing the winner of the “up and coming god” award, and of course, Yato thinks it’s him.
Petition to refer to TERFs as FARTs, which stands for Feminist Appropiating Reactionary Tranaphobe
“Trans-Exclusionary-Radical-Feminist,” when you think about it, is a VERY kind term. To be called a TERF is for the person to admit that they still consider you a feminist.
But what kind of feminist excludes so many women from their movement? If you hate so many women for what they are, you really don’t deserve to be called anykind of feminist, radical or otherwise.
Anti-trans people: Stop calling us terfs it’s insulting
fattyatomicmutant, about to coin a new term: ‘K
Feminist Appropiating Reactionary Transphobe is far far more accurate too.
ima just spread this
I’m legitimately going to use this, everyone hop on board, we have to do this
FARTs, unfollow me!!
I like this new term better. It accurately captures the implicit bigotry of excluding trans people while also not dignifying hateful people with the epithet “feminist”, which they do not deserve.
