#hadith
Imām Karmani رحمه الله in his masaa'il ( Kitab Sunnah) :
175 Abū ‘Awn narrated to us and said: Wahb ibn Jarīr narrated to us and said: My father narrated to us and said: Al-Fudayl ibn Hassān narrated to us and said: They mentioned in front of Abū Ja’far Muhammad ibn ‘Alī the saying of the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم): “The fornicator does not fornicate while he is a believer when he fornicates, nor does the thief steal while he is a believer when he steals.”
So he said: Muhammad ibn ‘Alī and he drew a big circle like this – and said: “This is Islām.” and he drew another smaller circle inside of it and said: “This is īmān which is confined within Islām. So if he fornicates or steals, he exits from īmān (but remains in Islām). Then if he repents he returns to īmān. And nothing (from the sins) makes him exit Islām except shirk. And the circle is like this.
¹ Imām Ahmad رحمه الله said in the risālah “Musaddad”: “And a man exits from īmān to Islām, but nothing makes him exit from Islām except committing shirk with Allāh the All-Mighty.”
(Tabaqāt Al-Hanābilah 2/428)
Do not underestimate the Jumu'ah prayer:
‘Abdullah ibn Imam Ahmad - rahimahumullah - narrated in As-Sunnah:
476 - حَدَّثَنَا مَحْمُودُ بْنُ الْعَبَّاسِ الْخُرَاسَانِيُّ، نا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ الْمُبَارَكِ، أَخْبَرَنِي عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ الْمَسْعُودِيُّ، عَنِ الْمِنْهَالِ بْنِ عَمْرٍو، عَنْ أَبِي عُبَيْدَةَ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ مَسْعُودٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ: “ تَسَارَعُوا إِلَى الْجُمُعَةِ فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ يَبْرُزُ لِأَهْلِ الْجَنَّةِ فِي كُلِّ جُمُعَةٍ فِي كَثِيبٍ مِنْ كَافُورٍ أَبْيَضَ فَيَكُونُونَ مِنْهُ فِي الْقُرْبِ عَلَى قَدْرِ تَسَارُعِهِمْ إِلَى الْجُمُعَةِ فِي الدُّنْيَا، فَيُحْدِثُ اللَّهُ لَهُمْ مِنَ الْكَرَامَةِ شَيْئًا لَمْ يَكُونُوا رَأَوْهُ قَبْلَ ذَلِكَ، ثُمَّ يَرْجِعُونَ إِلَى أَزْوَاجِهِمْ فَتُحَدِّثُهُمْ بِمَا قَدْ أُحْدِثَ لَهُمْ، ثُمَّ دَخَلَ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ مَسْعُودٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ الْمَسْجِدَ فَرَأَى رَجُلَيْنِ، فَقَالَ: رَجُلَانِ وَأَنَا الثَّالِثُ وَإِنْ شَاءَ اللَّهُ أَنْ يُبَارِكَ فِي الثَّالِثِ بَارَكَ ”
476. Mahmud ibn Al-‘Abbās Al-Khurasani narrated to us (and said): ‘Abdullāh ibn Al-Mubārak narrated to us (and said): ‘Abdur-Rahmān Al-Mas’udi informed me, from Al-Minhal ibn ‘Amr, from Abū ‘Ubaydah, from ‘Abdullāh ibn Mas’ud (radiAllāhu ‘anhu) who said:
“Hasten to the Jumu’ah, for verily Allāh – ‘azza wa jalla – will appear to the people of Paradise on every Jumu’ah, in dunes of white camphor. And they will be close to Him in accordance to their amount of hasting to the Jumu’ah in dunyā. Then Allāh will show them some of the Generosity which they have never seen before this. Then they return to their wives and they will inform them of what was shown to them.”
Then ‘Abdullāh ibn Mas’ud (radiAllāhu ‘anhu) entered the masjid and saw two men. Then he said:
“Two men (before me) and I am the third. And if Allāh wills He will bless the third (as well) with blessings.”
Knowledge is power
In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
️ Question: If your husband had four wives, what kind of co-wife would you be?
Answer: Allah the Almighty knows best.
If my husband, with Allah’s Will and Qadr/Decree, was legally married to four women, with me being one of his wives, I would:
1] Try my best to frequently remind him to take care of all his wives as fairly and lovingly as he can for Allah’s sake, avoiding intentional injustice and unjustified negligence towards any of the women whom he is lawfully married to.
2] Advise the other wives to have patience with our husband whenever he is financially struggling or emotionally unwell.
3] Occasionally visit the residence of each co-wife, if we’ve learned to become close friends, and similarly welcome them to the place where I stay whenever I’m in the mood to receive visitors.
4] Consistently make effort to develop the friendship and sisterly love for Allah’s sake with the wives of our husband, while staying away from favoritism and insecurely teaming up against one wife or two wives.
5] Treat the children of my husband’s other wives as if they were my own kids - with patient empathy and understanding. If one wife is infertile, I’d do what I can to avoid mentioning topics which I sense could upset her.
6] Invite all co-wives or one co-wife on different timings for shopping, attending Islamic lectures together, or dining outdoors to strengthen our sisterhood for Allah’s sake, while reminding one another to stay steadfast regarding showing respect to our dear husband.
7] Act as an unbiased referee whenever two or three co-wives are quarreling, and calmly attempt to resolve the dispute, instead of coaxing them to aggravate avoidable drama.
8] Inspire each co-wife to diligently educate their loved ones and other individuals about the virtues and wisdom of why Allah the Most Wise legalized capable and willing Muslim males to be wed to up to four loving wives.
9] Coach my husband to always forgive his wives, including myself, if ever any of them behaves in a way that he finds disappointing. Motivate him to never quit trying to keep the family strong and united for Allah’s sake, reminding him as well as the co-wives that our foe shaytan is the only one who truly gets satisfied upon witnessing the number of broken Muslim families increasing due to pride/kibr, selfishness, impatience, unjust suspicion, and irrational attachment to this fleeting dunya.
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Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu ‘anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes.”
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife.”
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-my-answer-to-what-made-you-accept.html
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In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
️ Nine things which you’re not afraid to do when Allah the Almighty blesses you with a strong personality (true confidence):
1] When you have a strong personality, you’re not afraid of standing out from a crowd or behaving differently from the majority of people, as long as you firmly believe that whatever you’re doing is something which Allah the Most Wise and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu ‘alaihi wa sallam love.
2] When you have a strong personality, you’re not afraid of speaking up and correcting a person’s misinformation or misinterpretation which could mislead others.
3] When you have a strong personality, you’re not afraid to disappoint people and decline requests which you’re incapable of doing, whether you refuse to comply because you’ve got other tasks to prioritize or doing that favor would conflict with your values.
4] When you have a strong personality, you’re not afraid to verbally defend a Muslim who’s the subject of some lousy gossip and rumors, or if you can’t say anything in their defense, without hesitation you are not afraid to walk away from the toxic discussion.
5] When you have a strong personality, you’re not afraid of saying sorry and sincerely apologizing to individuals whom you have knowingly or unintentionally mistreated.
6] When you have a strong personality, you’re not afraid of looking weird, seeming strange to others and getting laughed at for doing something which not everybody can readily approve of.
7] When you have a strong personality, you’re not afraid of making mistakes and encountering failures, as you always trust Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala Who knows what’s best for you, and you’re willing to learn from any mistake you commit.
8] When you have a strong personality, you’re not afraid of giving something a second and third try after failing in the first attempt. If it doesn’t work out again, you’re not afraid of canceling it or conducting different plans to reach the same goal.
9] When you have a strong personality, you’re not afraid of solitude and appearing “lonely” if you decide to quit trying to be close friends with individuals who are untrustworthy or whose vibes are not good for you.
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Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Help your brother, whether he is an oppressor or is being oppressed.” It was said, “O Messenger of Allah, we help the oppressed, but how do we help an oppressor?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “By seizing his hand (by preventing the oppressor from oppressing).”
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2312
Sahih Muslim 2584
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills.” Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan.“
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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