I was going through a chain of thoughts the other day and I came to the conclusion that if I’m ever letting someone in about my sexuality I’ll say I’m demisexual (in this case demisexual also encompasses me being demiromantic). Period.
I understood that even if I’ve had a preference for women in the past and most likely in the future too… I really do not feel attracted to women in general, you know? Like it’s literally been 2 women I’ve felt attracted to and I don’t relate to many lesbian experiences (some maybe, as well as desiring a relationship w one) but when it comes to attraction… nope . So I’m literally demisexual. I have never felt more seen and understood with a label then how it’s been with this one.
And calling myself a lesbian… it has been helpful to understand my orientation but it isn’t my sexuality. It may come in handy when I don’t want to give a 30 minute class on the asexual spectrum and why I do have a partner if I ever do , but I am demisexual. That’s the core of it.
I think about it as if I were a fictional character I wouldn’t want people to overlook my canon demisexuality just bc I’m dating a girl; I wouldn’t suddenly be a lesbian… I am still demisexual. So yeah this has been a psa
aro tumblr is the best place like you click on the aromantic tag and suddenly you’re transported to this magical realm where ppl know the word amatonormativity
yes, you can call yourself aroace if you’re demiromantic and asexual. or aromantic and freysexual. or aromantic asexual. as long as you’re in both the aro and ace spectrums! this has been a psa
you know what? fuck you. i think its cool to have no labels, or cool to have more labels then you have fingers, and cool to just say queer, or cool to say “queer but theres more i can explain if youd like”, and cool to say sapphic because you cant figure out if you id as a lesbian or bisexual, and cool to say youre asexual even if youd “fit into demisexual” more, and cool to introduce yourself as a trans guy even if youre also complicatedly nonbinary. its amazing no matter. youre all cool. im cool. yeah.
People be like “everyone’s demiromantic” and then blind dates, dating apps, set ups with random people and asking out someone you just met; are all a thing. The point is that the romantic attraction, romantic interest, in that person is there since the beginning. If not you wouldn’t have agreed to all of those romantic gestures and events.
Someone that’s demiromantic does not get that initial attraction, romantic interest in a person. It usually takes weeks, months if not years! for a demiromantic person to feel romantic attraction towards someone and they only do so BECAUSE they’ve formed a close, emotional bond with the person beforehand. The “oh, shit. what’s this feeling?” moment, that comes after a long time of knowing one person.
Good morning! And Happy Pride, my lovelies! ❤️ Whether or not you’re out in personal lives I am so so proud of you as a person for being who you are ️❤
