#demiro
I actually struggled to think of ‘sexy’ men ¬-¬, provin’ my own point. I googled so many top tens.
Yet again, I got carried away with an idea that mAYBE didn’t merit quite so much effort. Next time I’ll plan this kinda thing O-O. I figured out that I could ink with my normal painting brush and BOY my life has been turned upside down. Decent looking sketches? Not a full painting but still presentable? Good god.
[edit- They’re my OC’s, Julien, Marnie and Roman (Julien- long hair, marnie- bob, Roman-fluffy short hair) I’m gonna try and do more comic- style things with these guys, maybe even a proper plot *gasp*]
Very nice! Thank you for making it and sharing it.
See, from personal experience and reading other people’s experiences, the whole ‘not getting celebrity crushes or sexy celebs but trying to go along to get along’ esp in school, is pretty much the norm for people on the ace/aro spectrum, especially if they don’t know ace/aro is even a thing. It’s always nice to see it being talked about or illustrated.
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Questions to demiromantics:
When having a crush or being in a relationship, does it feel like it’s different from how alloromantic people experience it? Do you ever experience romance repulsion, even when experiencing romantic attraction? Does being arospec influence your romantic relationships with others?
(I’m trying to write a demiro character and I feel like it’s only right to ask these kind of things before going into detail with it)
Aromantic transmascs are:
- Great
- Phenomenal
- Amazing
Aromantic transfems are:
- Amazing
- Fantastic
- Absolutely 10/10
I’m demiromantic which means I’m attracted to no one and can’t see myself in a romantic situation at all, EXCEPT if it’s with this one person I’m really close to. I trust them with my life, they know me inside out and would absolutely let my romantic desires become true with them . Yes, I’m still part of the aromantic spectrums! To anyone else who has ever felt like they don’t belong or been told that they don’t belong in the aro spec bc they experience romantic feelings and desire: you are part of the aromantic community too . That’s literally why there’s a spectrum! You’re welcome ️
“Demisexual/romantic is how normal people experience attraction, you’re not special”
That’s our bad, I guess there’s been a misunderstanding
I didn’t realize:
- “love at first sight” is just a joke
- celebrity crushes are a joke
- characters from shows and movies being one’s sexual awakening aren’t actually a thing
- people don’t actually ask their friends to set them up on dates
- everyone had formed a friendship with their current partner months/years before ever viewing them in a romantic light
- the idea of dating someone you’ve been friends for years with is normalized and not viewed as potentially ruining the friendship
- that whole “I’m in love with X, but they don’t even know I exist” thing is made up
- the whole “X changed their look and I find them hot now” is also made up
- flirting with strangers isn’t a thing
- asking out someone you just meant isn’t a thing
- blind dates aren’t a thing
- one night stands are complete fiction
- no one has ever been turned on by a stranger
- “sex sells” is a complete lie, no one really knows why those women are washing those cars in bikinis, it’s a weird choice of clothes
THIS OMG EXACTLY. DEMIROMANTICS AND DEMISEXUALS DON’T EXPERIENCE ROMANTIC/SEXUAL ATTRACTION LIKE THE MAJORITY
People be like “everyone’s demiromantic” and then blind dates, dating apps, set ups with random people and asking out someone you just met; are all a thing. The point is that the romantic attraction, romantic interest, in that person is there since the beginning. If not you wouldn’t have agreed to all of those romantic gestures and events.
Someone that’s demiromantic does not get that initial attraction, romantic interest in a person. It usually takes weeks, months if not years! for a demiromantic person to feel romantic attraction towards someone and they only do so BECAUSE they’ve formed a close, emotional bond with the person beforehand. The “oh, shit. what’s this feeling?” moment, that comes after a long time of knowing one person.
Demiromantics are luminous, and our existence makes the world a brighter place
As a demiromantic lesbian I’d like to claim Ellie Chu as one of us
Movie:The Half of It (2020), Netflix
YESYES OMG I ADORED THIS MOVIE AND ELLIE GAVE ME BIG DEMIRO VIBES . NEW DEMIROMANTIC LESBIAN ICON
aromantics can like romance.
aromantics can date.
aromantics can have meaningful relationships full of love.
aromantics don’t owe you the stereotype of being cold and disgusted by the idea of romance.
at the same time, aromantics who don’t like romance or dating shouldn’t be shunned or villainized.
there is no right or wrong way to be aromantic, stop pushing us into boxes.
all my homies love demiromantics <33
