In honor of the Superbowl once again taking place in New Orleans, I have here transcribed a poem written in January 1997 (from the MS pictured above, dated to the last quarter of the 20th century), the day I became a football fan and, coincidentally, started writing in proto-Anglo-Saxon meter:
Packing is when a person without a large biological penis wears something in their pants in order to mimic the appearance or function of having a penis or a larger penis.
Usually, trans-masculine people pack but anyone is allowed to and able to if they are interested in doing so (despite the language in the links which is geared towards trans guys). Some people just aren’t interested in any of this; that’s totally ok and vald.
To be quite honest, packing usually doesn’t make or break passing, if passing is something you care about. You don’t have to pack to pass as a guy in most circumstances! In general, if you aren’t swimming in a speedo, peeing at a urinal, changing in front of others, or getting groped/felt up, people won’t notice if you don’t have a penis. Packing doesn’t help everyone’s dysphoria either; some people find that it can make them feel worse, because they’re more aware of the part that they’re “missing”.
What do I want?
Soft packer: Used for packing to get a bit of a bulge and alleviate dysphoria, typically looks like a penis and is sometimes worn in a harness. Often needs to have cornstarch put on it so it isn’t tacky
(Read the links! They go way more in depth than this post.)
Before rushing into a purchase, it’s important to consider what you’re looking for. You may be able to make a basic packer or STP yourself. That can save you money, and help you decide if you want to purchase a product.
Single-function items that are either just for packing, just for peeing, or just for sex are often less expensive than multiple function ones. If only one aspect bothers you, like if you only want to be able to pee standing up, then looking at only STP devices would be a good place to start, for example.
If you’re looking for something that can be used to pack and have sex with, or pack and pee with, or pack, pee, and have sex with, the price starts to rise (if you aren’t making something yourself and you’re buying something).
Choosing the size of your packer
I’m making this a whole section because I have very strong feelings on this issue, and I think that younger trans folk don’t always have realistic size expectations. Let’s say you’ve decided you’re going to buy a soft packer. You’re looking at the different models online. You’ve chosen one, and now you need to pick a size.
If you are packing without the intention of having sex with your packer, you want it to look like a flaccid penis, not an erection. There’s a lot of pressure to have a big ol’ dick, but I want you to know that it is not what most cis men with penises have in their pants. Yes, 3.5 inches is the average flaccid penis size- this means that about half of all men have a flaccid penis that’s a bit bigger, and half have a flaccid penis that’s a bit smaller.
Everyone’s got a different penis, and it’s okay if you’re bigger or smaller than average, but I think it’s extremely important to be aware of what the average is so you are making a conscientious choice to go bigger or smaller.
Penises get larger when they’re erect, so if you’re getting a dildo or a hard packer, you should consider if you want to go larger or not, but if you’re just soft packing, I want you to take a moment and think about it; I know your instinct is to go for a medium or large sized packer, but the labeling is deceiving. What packer companies label as “small” is usually the average size flaccid penis; “medium” is usually bigger than average. It’s harder to pack with a larger packer than it is with a smaller packer, larger packers are often more expensive than smaller ones, and large packers are often not realistically flaccid lengths and look like hard-ons. I’m writing this to help out my fellow young trans people who may not have seen a penis IRL and automatically assume that the “medium” packer size is the same thing as the average/medium penis size.
I’m not saying that no cis men have large flaccid penises; that isn’t true. I am saying that the media makes it seem like men on average have larger penises than they do. Men in porn usually have larger than average size penises, and they’re usually erect, which means they’re sometimes double the length of the flaccid penis. Because society makes having a larger penis seem enviable, men sometimes overstate the size of their penis if you ask them because they’re worried that their penis is small. Small penis jokes made to emasculate men continue to perpetrate the myth of the Ubiquitous Large Dick because nobody wants to admit that their penis is small. Let’s have some radical body acceptance up in here and say that it’s okay to have whatever size penis or packer you have, and it doesn’t make you unmanly to have a small one, or extra-masculine to have a large one.
If you’re still a bit confused, I want you to look at a ruler. Stop reading this post, get up, get a ruler, and come back. Okay? Now measure out the length of the average flaccid penis. Three and a half inches. Look at it. Now look at the length of the packer you were considering buying. How different is it? This is an activity to make you more mindful of what size is average.
Pay attention to the the junk of the guys you see in the street and who you interact with on the daily. Chances are you can hardly notice a dick print, especially if you’re at work or at school. Even checking out the the Nude standing men gallery on Wikipedia, or pictures on jeans websites of men wearing jeans is somewhere to start getting an idea of what you’re aiming for.
Below is a paragraph from Hudson’s FTM guide saying the same thing:
“In order to see what male anatomy tends to look like in underwear, in swim trunks, or jeans or slacks, it can be helpful to look at men’s clothing catalogs or internet retailers of menswear or men’s underwear– this way, you can stare as much as you want at guys’ crotches without having to worry about offending or upsetting anyone. The web site www.erectionphotos.com has a “soft/hard” section, showing penises in both flaccid and erect states. It shows variation in the size and shape of men’s penises, and shows men of varying body types and ages. Searching the web for “flaccid penis photos” will yield other results as well. Just keep in mind while you are looking that the average length for a flaccid penis tends to be just over 3 inches, and that the men you see in most porn sites and movies will tend to be very well-endowed, and will usually be shown while erect.”
I’m trying to save you from falling into the trap of buying a big dick for the hell of buying a big dick without considering it. Packer companies will try to lure you into buying a bigger packer because they make more money that way. But don’t buy into toxic masculinity! There’s nothing wrong with having a small penis. There’s nothing wrong with having an average penis.
The below graph shows the frequency of certain size penises in centimeters (Again, note- this is cm and not inches). (X)
One study showed the mean flaccid penis length to be 3.5 inches (8.9 cm)
A review of several studies found the average flaccid length to be 3.5–3.9 inches (9–10 cm)
Alright, I think you get the point. Flaccid penises aren’t as big as you might think they are. Now, I’m going to admit something: I currently have 5 packers, and they range in size from 3″ to 7.5″. I am not telling you that you can’t buy a big packer if you want a big packer; I have a large packer myself, and bigger can sometimes be better if you’re prioritizing using it for sex instead of daily packing. Yes, getting a smaller packer is usually better to start out with if you’re new to packing. But if you’re experienced with packing, if you just really want a big dick, or you plan on using it for sex, go ahead and get a bigger one!
And even though 3.5″ is the average flaccid penis size, there are people with larger penises! Penis size doesn’t correlate to your height, race, foot size, as some myths suggest. A smaller person could have a larger penis and a tall person could have a smaller one, the two variables aren’t dependant!
The point of this paragraph is just to make sure that you’re making a conscious decision if you choose to get a packer that’s larger than usual knowing that it may be a bit unwieldy, not to police your packer buying. Some people have larger packers and they can pack easily with them and love them, and that’s a-okay.
Spend time researching packers!
Look through different websites to see the packers available for purchase. Read reviews of the packers on forums and on Tumblr. Watch YouTube reviews of packers. Contact people about their packers and ask them questions if they’re open to it! This post is just a very cursory and topical overview of packers, it’s not all there is to know. Now you are aware of what packing is, but not fully informed on the pros and cons of individual different packers. There is so much out there on different blogs! Trawl the net, ask Dark Google what the best dick is (that’s a joke because different packers are good for different people depending on what they’re looking for so there is no one best packer but yeah, google ftm packers and stp packers and pack and play packers or whatever you want!) Make sure you know how much money you’re willing to spend buying a packer. Start to save up money if you’re broke.
Sidenote: Genitals can be a shade or two darker than the rest of your skin, so you might want to choose a packer one tone darker than your thigh. However, I urge you to be cautious with this- you don’t want a packer that’s way too dark for you! If you’re white, you shouldn’t be getting a black penis, that’s Too Far.
Some of the packers you could buy:
This is an incomplete list, and there are more options for packers/STPs/etc out there!! If the link doesn’t work, just google the product name because most of these are sold in multiple stores/websites (and send me an ask so I can fix the link).
Also remember to look for reviews if you can find any, and comparison shop to see if the product is being sold anywhere else for cheaper or in different colors or something.
If you’re a teen trying to get a packer without your parents knowing, see this link.
As always, comparison shop to see if the product comes in different colors elsewhere or is being sold for cheaper on another site- remember to calculate shipping!
Make sure you read multiple reviews before you buy a packer, because some companies are scams or just shitty. Three companies to avoid are below:
Don’t shop at Freetom- the company used to be legit, but right now they’re going through issues and manypeople have reported being scammed and paying for products they never received. Hardline Prosthetics is somehow related to them- I’d just hold off on ordering from either right now.
Don’t shop at packer locker- it’s a scam and I personally lost $15 dollars from them that I never got back and others have lost more.
Don’t shop at The Ultimate Prosthetic- This is also a scam and people have lost hundreds of dollars and never received products.
Don’t shop at FtmConnect- the owner is racist and the packers aren’t even that great anyway.
Don’t shop at STP Ninja (it’s the same guy from FTM connect using a different name). Other of his company names are Ftm Connect Llc, FTMSTP, STPninja, and his aliases are Benson Davis, Ben Davis, Dick Benson, and Ben Johnson
Yup! The Hot Rod will finally be available October 14th.
As the pimped up big brother of the Rod, the Hot Rod is a super fun toy for solo and partner play. It attaches directly to your natural anatomy without the need for adhesives or a harness. Like the Joystick, it features a lubrication/ejaculation reservoir and can also be used in conjunction with either a rechargeable remote control bullet vibe, or a more basic battery bullet vibe inserted into the shaft. The unique internal design allows you to feel the entire shaft, and the internal ridges, stimulate the wearer through both a squeeze and pull action. Check out this product video for the full low down
i took a walk and found a bike baby trailer w/ a #Packers flag. #GoPackers /notice the super sweet girl looking back at me in the lower right corner. #Portland #PDX
Gotta admit, severely tempted to get an 8-inch packer and, the next time I have to deal with a transphobic dude, say “Shut up, my dick is bigger than yours.”
http://www.tboy.com.br The prices are in Reais (more or less US$ 1,00 = R$3,6) He also sells binders so he is a good choice to south americans trans brothers, i’ll keep you updated about it
