#trans masc
Every time I think I have my sexuality all figured out, beautiful/handsome folks like this have the audacity to exist
Got called sir for the first time at today by someone who wasn’t just an old lady with cataracts. ADDITIONALLY the customer after them called me sir TOO. Funken serotonin.
i haven’t done a serious self portrait in at least a decade and boy am i feeling it rn mr. krabs.
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Asking for a friend but uh if I ask them to record my I mean my friends top surgery will they do it?? Need answers ASAP I have 12 days
Out of curiosity, how many transmeds here actually believe that you need debilitating gender dysphoria in order to be a valid transgender person. Tucutes always explain transmedicalism to me (a transmed) by saying we think that you need to absolutely hate yourself to be seen as valid. I know I don’t believe that and I don’t think any of you (minus possible radicals, but radicals are always shit) actually think that.
My Queer Identity in Songs
Asexuality: I Miss Having Sex But At Least I Don’t Want to Die-Waterparks (x)
Aegosexuality: Sex in My Head—Moth Wings (x)
Aromanticism: D&D + Asexuality—Skull Puppies (x)
Agender: Cryptid (Mothman)—Ratwyfe (x)
Trans-Masc: IDK If I’m a Boy—Blue Foster (x)
(x) links are to the songs themselves while links on the identities are to pages explaining their definition.
@ all my Binder Wearing pals!
Pleaseremember:
- Take your binder off at a decent time!
- Don’t sleep in your binder!
- WASH IT!!
- Have a day off every now and again for your physical health!
- Take a moment to stretch and breathe!
(People who don’t wear binders canandshouldreblog)
BOOSTING
Today is the transgender day of remembrance
375 gender diverse people were killed this year. 25 more than the last. 93 of them in their own homes. Lets hope 2022 will be a better year.
I’ve noticed a “trend” of transphobia from black cishet male celebrities, and I wanted to take some time to discus it. Specifically the kind i’ve noticed directed at trans men. Kendrick’s “Auntie Diaries” came out and detailed his understanding and progression in accepting his uncles transition.
I haven’t listened to it in full, but I’ve read articles detailing it, as well as the constant misgendering of his uncle throughout the song. I’ve seen a lot of attempts to explain that what he’s doing is okay, and that by using slurs and misgendering it’s him “coming to terms with it”.
In “DNA” he also had a line that’s always stuck out to me, the “You a bitch your hormones switched inside your DNA” and understanding his journey into understanding and accepting his uncle as a trans man, that puts things into context.
But still…I don’t think that necessarily excuses anything?
Congrats that he accepted his uncle, but the title is absolutely misgendering. The references to pronouns are misgendering. It’s still disrespectful.
Like we don’t give J Cole a pass when he talks about how he used to call women bitches because he still does. We still hold black male celebrities who’ve seemingly become “more progressive” accountable for their perfomativeness or their lack of actually addressing their past actions. I think people hailing Kendrick as a revolutionary artist should still consider the harmful implications of what he did.
Don’t even get me started on Dave Chappelles joke about being attacked by a trans guy.
Black media and rap also still has a history of equating pussy to weakness, and women–which also excludes trans women from being women.
I think black hip-hop is a great example of how misogyny and transphobia do impact trans men, and how transmisogyny impacts trans women.
It also contributes to the invisibility of trans men in conversations of misdirected misogyny as well as sexual harassment/assault.
On the opposite end of the coin, it contributes to hypervisibility and risk of physical harm and homicide for trans women.
And non-binary people just don’t exist to them lmao
So like…he tried I guess lmao. But he could’ve done better.
I really love to hear opinions for other black trans folks, especially black trans men.
All in all we talk about the impact that white cis men have in terms of transphobia, but i think we need to also begin to address black cishet men, and black cishet patriarchy’s role in this. As well as black cishet toxic masculinity.
Non-black people can share, but please don’t clown.
Also hoteps, DNI.
Adfeminine Transmasculine Pride Flag
Adfeminine (adfem.): moving towards a feminine identity.
Transmasculine (transmasc.): transitioning to a masculine identity.
Adfeminine Transmasculine Pride Flag
Adfeminine (adfem.): moving towards a feminine identity.
Transmasculine (transmasc.): transitioning to a masculine identity.
Some days I’m chill with my bottom bits and other days I’m like WHERE THE FUCK IS MY COCK?!
REMINDER #1:
YOU DO NOT NEED TO MEDICALLY TRANSITION TO BE A “REAL” TRANS/NON-BINARY PERSON! HECK, NOT EVERYONE CAN TRANSITION MEDICALLY FOR VARIOUS REASONS, SUCH HAS FINANCIAL ISSUES, OTHER MEDICAL ISSUES, OR CAUSE THE ENVIRONMENT THEY LIVE IN ISN’T SUPPORTIVE, BUT NO MATTER THE REASON, ITS NO ONE’s BUSINESS BUT THEIR OWN.
THE ONLY THING YOU NEED TO BE A REAL TRANS PERSON…IS BY BEING A TRANS PERSON. It’s that simple.
AND REMINDER #2:
TRANS WOMEN DON’T OWE YOU FEMININITY! THEY ARE WOMEN NO MATTER WHAT THEY WEAR OR DO! THEY CAN BE MASCULINE!
TRANS MEN DON’T OWE YOU MASCULINITY! THEY ARE MEN NO MATTER WHAT THEY WEAR OR DO! THEY CAN BE FEMININE!
NON-BINARY PEOPLE DON’T OWE YOU ANDROGYNY! THEY ARE NON-BINARY NO MATTER WHAT THEY WEAR OR DO!
If a cisgender person can express (by clothes, etc) a gender opposite from their own, than trans people should be allowed to do the same WITHOUT being judged. Also, there is no “one way” to being and looking trans+non-binary, remember that.
(Sorry if any of this was phrased weird or wrong)
Adonis
Trans bettamaid
can we talk about women? like all women? black women asian women white women latin women
please add more to my simple list. i must appreaciate all of them <3
Trans women
T RAN SW OM E N !!!!!!
Guest Blog: “Being Trans is Brilliant”
New Guest Blog Dropped!
Mac Allen shares his story of how things got better - from comparing himself to others, to getting a life-changing haircut, to knowing just how much love he and all other trans people DESERVE. ️⚧️
Read it now on the blog.
I want a love that falls as fast as a body from the balcony.
I want a kiss like my heart is hitting the ground.
Lee says:
We’ve gathered up all you need to know about the basics of packing and standing to pee! (Standing to pee is abbreviated as STP)
General packing info:
- Lee’s post on packing 101 and STP devices
- Packing and Packers 101
- Can packing cause any negative effects?
- The pros and cons of strap ons (sex tw)
- Note: you should use a condom on your strap-on if it isn’t 100% silicone or if you’re not washing it before using it with another person!
- A non-lubricated condom that you put water-based lube on is the best if you have a packer that you aren’t sure is silicone or not. More info at @dangerouslilly
- How to pick your prosthetic
- A guide to packers
- Packing basics
- r/ftm packing info
Buying a packer:
- How to buy a binder without parents knowing (applies to packers also)
- List of packers and STP devices
- Packing harness
- Asking parents for a packer
- Buying used packers
- Finding reviews
- Smaller packers/Smaller STP packers
- Colorful packers
- Packing as a wheelchair user
Making a packer:
Standing to pee:
Once you have a packer:
- Packing during your period
- Can I pack at night?
- How to position a packer
- Recoloring a cyberskin packer
- Recoloring a silicone packer
Warnings:
- Don’t shop at packer locker (It’s a scam and Lee lost $15 dollars from them that they never got back and others have lost more)
- Don’t shop at The Ultimate Prosthetic (This is also a scam and people have lost hundreds of dollars and never recieved products)
- Don’t shop at FtmConnect (the owner is racist and his customer service is bad)
- Don’t shop at STP Ninja (it’s the same guy from FTM connect using a different name)
- A heads up about Reelmagik flaccid prosthetics
Topping with a strap-on as a trans guy
To start, please note that these might also be relevant to cis women who use strap-ons and I don’t intend for this advice to be exclusionary and anybody can take it and use it. But due to this being a trans guy sex advice blog I will be using language to direct it at trans guys and trans masculine people.
A few bits of advice for people starting out with strap-ons (particularly those with no t-growth)
- If using a harness, keep it tight. You’ll lose control if it loosens so don’t be afraid to check the straps as you go. Your partner probably won’t even notice.
- Depending on your body shape, try different angles for the strap-on itself. Try out the strap-on solo to see how it fits you and get used to it to gain confidence before introducing it to a partner.
- Some guys need more mental stimulation to compliment the physical sensations. It’s a good idea to communicate with your partner before and during sex.
- If you are finding a lack of sensation (i.e. rubbing), consider using a tingling/cooling/warming lube on your clit/t-dick/growth to increase what you can feel.
- If you’re a larger guy or have a bit of fat on your pelvic area sometimes this can get pushed down over your clit/t-dick/growth and reduce sensation, it can be a good idea to pull it up and tighten your harness if this happens.
- Remember that regardless of the dildo size your own dick will be smaller so don’t stick with big movements that work best for a big dick. Often smaller movements have more affect for a smaller dick. Find out what works for your body.
- Also try to keep movements smaller (and harder if you both like), because it’s easy to slip out.
- If using a strap-on for anal - go crazy with lube! Most toys are made of silicone or other materials that are smoother and easier to insert than flesh penises but they still need a lot of lubrication to ensure a good fun time.
- Discuss areas of dysphoria with your partner. Do you want them to talk about the strap-on as though it is your penis? Do you want them to touch/avoid other parts of your body when you are topping? What affirming language would you like them to use?
- Be clear on hygiene. Wash your penis every time you have sex. It’s a good idea to keep wipes handy to give it a quick wash before after-sex cuddles, but give it a proper wash according to instructions later (or email the supplier for advice). Especially if using toys for anal use and doubly so if you are using the same toy for anal and vaginal sex.
- Consider condoms to ease cleaning or, again, if using a toy for both anal and vaginal sex consider using condoms for one of them because you don’t want them butt germs getting in a vagina it’s not fun. Condoms with special traits such as ribs/dots or warming/tingling lube are also great.
- ABOVE ALL - always try to be as open with your partner as you can about your desires and your needs. If they aren’t willing to listen then I’m willing to bet that it’s not worth having sex with them.
- ALSO - sexual interest change. Just because you liked/didn’t like something at some point doesn’t mean it will always be that way. Keeping communication open with your partner means you can try and retry things as you both feel comfortable.
- And AS ALWAYS - don’t let anybody tell you how you “should” have sex. Some trans guys top, some bottom, some are verse. Some receive anal or give anal, some don’t like it. Don’t feel as though just because you’re transgender that you have to fulfill any role sexually that you are not comfortable with. Don’t let anybody tell you you are any less trans/gay/straight because of how you have sex. You do you folks.
Look after yourselves!!
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