#stress management
Ok so I rly fucking need to clean my house. Do any other People With Depression™ have any tips or ways you motivate urself to clean? Because this feels like the hardest goddamn thing in the world even tho I know it’s not and I’m just continually frustrated with myself and have been for the past two weeks.
HOO BOY DO I HAVE DEPRESSION/EXECUTIVE DYSFUNCTION CLEANING TIPS
in no particular order (because I have depression and executive dysfunction):
1. If something sensory about cleaning bothers you, eliminate that before you start. For example, I wear gloves to do the dishes. If the sound of the vacuum bothers you, wear headphones and turn up the music. etc.
2. If you can, make a list of everything that needs to be done. Then acknowledge that you probably can’t do it all, and circle all the things that absolutely, no matter what, have to be done. Pick one (ONE! ONLY ONE! START WITH ONE!) of those things and break it down into smaller steps. Then even smaller steps. Seriously, if step one is “stand up” and step two is “walk to closet” and step 3 is “get mop”, that’s fine. It can be that small.
3. Take a break. “But I literally only started five minutes ago!” Don’t care. If you want a break, take a break. “At this point I’ve spent more time on breaks than I’ve spent on cleaning.” Ok, but you’ve spent more than zero time on cleaning, so you’ve accomplished more than you had at the beginning. “If I take a break it won’t get done!” If you burn out it won’t get done either. Take a break.
4. If nothing is working, try what I call bin cleaning/box cleaning. Take a big trash bag and a box. Pick up the first object you see. Step 1: Is it trash? Put it in the trash bag. Step 2: Will you use it in the next 2 days? No? Put it in the box. It’s a problem for Future You. If you’ll use it in the next 2 days, take time to put it away. Rinse and repeat.
5. Did you get distracted and forget what you were doing? Don’t worry about it. Just clean a thing. It doesn’t matter if it’s the thing you were cleaning before. You have to clean lots of things, so just pick a thing and clean it. Eventually you’ll get around to the thing you forgot.
6. If you have to do a thing you really hate, do a thing you like afterwards. I hate doing dishes, but folding laundry soothes me, so that’s a nice one to do afterwards. YMMV. If there are no cleaning things you like that you can do afterwards, see number 3.
7. Make it fun. Play loud music and dance while you’re cleaning. Wear something that makes you feel cute, or if you prefer, something comfy. Light your favorite candle. Whatever.
8. If it’s nice out, open a window. Seriously, it helps.
How to get better sleep.
I have lots of difficulty sleeping so I like to do a lil bit of self care during my various restless nights.
- Make some warm milk or soothing tea. (I prefer to heat up milk on the stove and add in lavender, honey, and vanilla)
- Listen to ambient noise. (Rain, piano, lofi, or whatever else you find relaxing)
- Find bedding that is the comfiest to you. (Silk bed sheets/pillow case and a huge puffy blanket is my preference)
- Light a calming candle if you have one available. Incense works too. (My favorite scents are of the floral variety, rose in particular)
- Manage whatever you’re stressing over, otherwise it will definitely keep you up. (My schoolwork stresses me out so I make a to-do list to feel like I have my shit together)
- Read something in bed! While I generally prefer to watch tv instead of read, it can actually cause you to stay awake. (I’m currently reading “The Bell Jar” but anything works, including comics and manga)
- Find little things that relieve pain or make your sleeping experience more pleasant! (I have an electric heating pad I sleep on top of)
That’s all for now! I have more ideas but these are the ones that came to mind first. Hope this helps fix ya fucked up sleep schedule!
Everyone reading this presumably spends at least a moderate amount of time on the Internet, so it is probably not news to anyone that adult coloring books have become a thing. What may be considerably more surprising, at least for people who know something about my disability, is the fact that I have been able to color without excruciating pain. And that is a bit of a feat, so let me tell you about it.
It is hard for even me to predict exactly which activities will be painful and which will be tolerable. The best I can say, at least in this context, is that reducing the physical force required is helpful.
This journey started a couple years ago when I realized that I could paint. Using a foam grip on a paintbrush and a small tabletop easel, I can make art with acrylic paint (and I have even posted some of it: here,here,here,here, and here)
I have been able to use the same basic principles to find a way to participate in adult coloring. I use two main tools:
1. Brush tip markers (I use Tombow because they are nice quality without being super expensive. And they’re blendable, which is fun, too.)
2. A tilting table. This allows me to set the angle that is best for me and reduce the strain on my arm and shoulder.