#abundance
Fairies tending to their fairy rings, black cats napping in the full moon’s light as they sing; pumpkin pie wax melts filling the crisp autumn air; and nag champa ringlets of smoke bless houses sitting atop hills basking in the night sky.
Unconditional Love vs The Ego - What’s The Difference?
We have all heard of the term ‘unconditional love’ but what does it mean exactly? It is defined as the type of love that has no limitations or restrictive boundaries between two people. It is the complete acceptance of one another, their past hurts and traumas, their quirks and their imperfections. When you love someone unconditionally, you are still affectionate, compassionate and forgiving towards them; even when they annoy or upset you. This is the kind of relationship that many of us crave throughout life at any age; young or old. The reason is because unconditional love is the purest and highest vibration that a human being can experience. For some, it is the ultimate goal in their life.
However, one needs to go on a journey of introspection and self love to be able to experience real unconditional love. I always believe that to really know someone on a deeper level, one has to know themselves as well. By doing this you will begin to understand yourself much more; your emotions, your insecurities, your fears and your thoughts, which will help you become more open with your partner. This helps with building vulnerability, intimacy and trust between two people, which are essential for developing healthy, long-term and stable relationships. However, when we love someone conditionally or by our ego, this is where problems start to arise to the surface.
Unhealthy attachments, obessions, shame, guilt, fear, clinginess, narcissism and codependency all stem from our ego. You will know when you are in a conditional love based relationship because you will feel constantly empty inside when they are away from you or even when you are in their presence, but yet you still stay with them because you don’t want to feel lonely and disconnected. This is why many relationships breakdown, as many people mistake this kind of behaviour and love as normal, when it completely isn’t. Looking for love shouldn’t come from a place of searching to fill an empty part of you, as it isn’t a romantic partner’s responsibility. They can guide you along the way, but only to a certain point. Everyone has their own insecurites and imperfections and that’s okay. What is important here - is acceptance not aiming to be complete or free from flaws and emotional scars.
You will find that ego based love is always focused on the outside, never from within. These kind of relationships can spark up feelings of self-doubt and denial as well. Many people live in a delusion of being in a happy relationship, but inside they feel totally dissatisfied, leading to anxiety and depression. This is very common with people who are in codependent and dysfunctional relationships. Superficial relationships like this often show incompatibility between two people, hence why many partnerships break up very quickly and have very short timelines. Feelings of lust are one of the strongest components for developing superficial love, as you need to be magnetically drawn to them on a sexual level.
This is the common type of relationship which many people fall into when they feel like there is something empty inside themselves, so they look for someone who will have the responsibility to fill up that hole. Sometimes this can be a wound that has been inflicted upon us since we we children; such as a craving for love, validation and affection that we didn’t receive from our parents. This kind of trauma is possibly the biggest causes for love addiction. When we are children we are dependent on our parents to keep us warm, safe, loved and appreciated. This is why neglect and loneliness can be incredibly damaging to us as we grow into adults.
To overcome this, you can practice unconditional love to yourself to help you understand that you are not perfect and it is totally okay to feel any emotion - whether that is positive or negative. I find the more you judge and criticise yourself, the more you will criticise others. Completely let go of resistance and judgement of yourself - as doing this serves you no purpose at all. All it does is make you live in a bubble of negativity and negative energy. Allow yourself to surrender and release the urge to always be in control. You deserve to be happy and experience healthy and fulfilling relationships.
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Detail:Danaë, 1623, by Orazio Gentileschi.
weekly self-affirmation:
“I mentally identify with success, abundance & wealth.”
you deserve all the pretty and delicate things in the world.
listening to uplifting confident songs made me so amazing. i am literally a master manifester now and it’s all down to affirming and listening to music. simple right ? right. so stop taking ‘no’ for an answer when it comes to loa, stop making things harder for urself and over complicating it. it isn’t a test and it’s not a chore, so why treat it like that ?
I recommend songs by Megan Thee Stallion,Rico Nasty,Nicki Minaj,Doja Cat,Ariana Grande, etc. These artists are all empoweredstrong women and they emphasise it in their songs
what did i get from working on this ? i became so hot i am literally unrecognisable. my eyes are so different and so are my lips. my body is how i want it. my life is going my way (duh), and most importantly; i love myself. i know my worth. ✨
affirmationxmascountdown
rip up 24/25 pieces of paper and then write an affirmation for whatever on each. different affirmations each day, preferably.
after this take these bits of paper and place them in a hat/cup/bucket whatever. each day in december until christmas, pick out a surprise affirmation and repeat it in your head when you come to think about it throughout the day.
personally, i am doing mainly blanket affirmations and self concept (i am divine, i am beautiful, i have an extremely powerful mind, etc…) but it’s up to you. i also included specific affirmations (angel skull, full lips, etc…)
REMINDER
everyone is you pushed out so treat yourself with kindness, care, and respect <3
‘the countdown’ challenge
who doesn’t love an advert calendar right ? whether it’s chocolate or makeup, they’re so fun every year !
so for this challenge you are gonna write 25affirmations on little bits of paper, then put them into a hat. starting on december1st you will pull out oneaffirmation per day and repeat it throughout the day.
that’s it
otherworldly…
dear diary,
today i woke up and stared in the mirror. i looked so beautiful, somehow more beautiful than the day before. i could see my freckles dotted around my face so beautifully, they’re very dark now. i have always had freckles but today there’s more. many more. my lips have also grown… a lot. they are like 2 times the width of my little nose, and extremely puffy. between my huge lips and tiny nose is my philtrum, of course. my philtrum is very short though but that a great thing ! i love it. and my top lip faces upwards… anyways so then my jaw is also sm more defined now and pulled forward. i literally look angelic… it’s insanely amazing how powerful and great i am, i am literally god.
diary entry one.
25 november 2021.
dear diary, i have realised my abilities. my abilities to manifest whatever i want and desire. i am going to write today about how perfect my self concept is.
i am such a powerful creator of my own reality that whatever i want i get faster than you can snap your fingers. i get what i want when i want because i of course know that the 3d has to and already has conformed to my desired state of course. i constantly get what i want over and over again, whether it’s my appearance, partner, or just life. diary, why am i so perfect ? inside and out i am blessed, and so angelically perfect. i have the best self concept and confidence while staying humble. i am so pretty and perfect, i look so doll like and pretty. oh diary, why am i so perfect in every way ?