#aromantic spectrum awareness week
Yo, for the start of ASAW tomorrow (2/15/22) I’m going to be streaming the demo for I Just Want to be Single, the upcoming indie anti-dating sim. I’ll be streaming it on my Twitch at 7 EST, if anyone wants to watch: https://www.twitch.tv/aurora_valentina
OF COURSE this includes:
Asexual Aros
Allosexual Aros
Trans Aros
Nonbinary Aros
Lesbian Aros
Gay Aros
Bisexual Aros
Pansexual Aros
Autistic Aros
Disabled Aros
Aros of Color
Closeted Aros
Out and Proud Aros
Romance-Repulsed Aros
Romance-Indifferent Aros
Romance-Favorable Aros
Younger Aros
Older Aros
Christian Aros
Muslim Aros
Jewish Aros
Aros of All Faiths
Aros across the Ace-Spectrum
Aros Across the Aro-Spectrum
All yall are valid and beloved <3
Happy Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week Everyone!
Learn more about aromanticism and upcoming community events on the ASAW website and the AUREA ASAW page.
[Image description: A light green graphic decorated with lime green six-point stars. The upper left-hand corner has clip art of a tan hand holding an aromantic pride flag. In the lower right-hand corner, there is a vertical aromantic flag. At the bottom of the graphic are the AUREA and ASAW website logos. In the center, there is text that reads “Feb 20th -26th, Happy Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week! We are proud to promote the acceptance and inclusion of aromantic identities! Learn more about ASAW at arospecweek.org]
The first-ever aromantic conference will be live on February 19th and 20th, hosted by spAce Malmo!
All times are in CET. You can learn more about the event on InstagramandFacebook!
Schedule for Saturday The 19th:
10 am - Welcome
10:15 am - 12:00 - Deconstructing Amatonormativity
12:00 - 2 pm - Aromanticity in South-East Asia
2pm - 3pm - lunch break
3pm - 4pm - hangout / networking session
4pm - 5pm - 50 Shades of Aro panel discussion - about the aromatic spectrum
5pm - 6pm - Adventures in Aromanticism
6pm - 6:30pm - Aromantic Census
6:30 - 7pm - break
7pm - 8pm - Aromantic Diary and Aromantic Representation
Schedule for Sunday the 20th:
10am - 11am – Romance Aversion
11 am - 11:30 am - On Being Aro and Autistic
11:30am - 12:00 - Aro UQ research
12 pm - 2 pm - Dealing with Amatonormativity
2 pm - 3 pm - Aro Creatives Hangout and Networking
3 pm - 4pm - lunch break
4 pm - 5 pm - Aros of Colour panel discussion
5 pm - 6 pm - Aros of Colour Arospecs hangout
6 pm – 7.00 pm - break
7 pm - 8 pm - Aro + Trans panel discussion
8 pm - 9pm - Relationship Options for Aros
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Join AUREA for our annual fundraiser on February 26th!
[Image Description: A white rectangle with curved corners overlaid on a graphic of an aromatic flag with wavy lines demarking each color of the flag. On the upper left corner of the rectangle, there is a large quotation mark. On the lower right of the rectangle, there is the AUREA logo. In the middle of the rectangle, there is text that says “Feb 26, 2pm (ET). Fundraiser Livestream, ASAW 2022. https://youtu.be/tT1GDtwfpvw. Featured guests: TeseThePoet, AUREA Team Q&A, Derelict.Specter"]
is it just me or is it super hard to accept and come to terms with aromanticism? like im aware that im aro, but there’s so many doubts and it was way easier for me to accept im ace
happy aromatic awareness week everyone!! this community is my favorite ever <33
valentines day was rough this year, my best friend, who i happen to love queerplatonically, left my school and now i won’t see him as much and i was just so alone and sad on feb 14, but then i had a bit of an aro reawakening (im aroflux) and im just so grateful for you all for making me feel like i have somewhere where i belong. hope everyone has a great week!!
TL;DR: The word greyromantic exists, and we should use it more.
There’s been a post going around talking about some aro terms that were lost over the course of the past few years during the latest iteration of online hate directed at ace and aro folks. Some of them *cough*zucchini*cough* I think may have disappeared because aros themselves didn’t like them and they naturally fell out of use, but otherwise I do think there is some truth to the idea that they disappeared because we were more focused on combating hate than building community.
I was very active in the aro community online in the year before the discourse started. Somewhere along the way I became less active. I got involved in my local ace community, graduated college, and started working during that time I was inactive. I also had and have a healthy relationship with the block button on tumblr, so I don’t think it was really the discourse that caused my inactivity, but perhaps the lack of other content to interact with was a part of it as well.
Anyway. The word greyromantic (with its many many alternate spellings — this is just my favorite) was used a lot back then. When we wanted to abbreviate it became “greyro” or the appropriate alternate spelling. As the aro community has come back to life, however, I hardly ever see it being used. In fact, I have been seeing people use the word “arospec” instead to mean the exact same thing, which I think is really tragic. Those two words aren’t synonyms. Hear me out:
Back in the day (four years ago), greyromantic was used as an umbrella word for anyone who didn’t fit the strict definition of aromantic but still felt close to it — so most microlabels would fit under it. Greyromantic was also a specific identity, either for people who just experienced attraction rarely, or for people who wanted to embrace the ambiguity of their identity rather than find a specific label.
In this post, I am talking less about the specific identity, and more about the umbrella usage. Recently, I have noticed that people are using the word arospec to refer to the greyromantic umbrella. As in, using arospec in a way that implied aromantic people aren’t arospec. I don’t know how long it’s been happening but I noticed it for the first time this week and now I have been seeing it everywhere.
The phrase “aromantic spectrum” has always been a unifying term. It’s for everybody, aromantic and greyromantic alike. Yes, it is specifically inclusive of greyros, but it is also inclusive of aromantic folks who experience absolutely no romantic attraction. If you have any doubts, that’s why Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week was named that, because it covers all of us.
Arospec is the word that unites our community. If we keep using to fill greyro’s void, then it will start to divide us, and I don’t want that to happen.
So let’s bring greyromantic back!
Edit: I want to add that using arospec as a self-identifier is not what I am talking about here. That can totally be used in a very similar way to the way greyromantic can be used in a vague way as a self-identifier. Like, “I know I am on the aromantic spectrum, but don’t feel like specifying where. I could be aromantic, I could be demiromantic, but I don’t feel like exploring that or disclosing that to others.” They are very similar and nearly interchangeable as a self identifier, though I think arospec can take it a step further towards “I could never experience romantic attraction, I’m just not positive that I don’t.”
Edit 1/28/20: It has come to my attention that people have been sending this post to people as a way of telling them that they can’t identify as aro. This post is NEVER to be used in that fashion. Grayromantic people are aro. People are only grayromantic if they identify that way. Stop policing people’s labels.
(Image description: a light green background with black text, large text in the center says “Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week” with smaller text above that says “February 21st - 27th” and below that says “Celebrating aromantic spectrum identities”; in the lower left corner is an illustration of a brown-skinned hand holding an aromantic pride flag.)
Some sceneries inspired by aro flag palettes!
Feel free to use, credit appreciated ;)
Something a bit more heavy, about amatonormativity…
Image transcription:
Image 1: Amatonormativity (The assumption that everyone needs to be in a lifelong monogamous romantic (and sexual) relationship, and the social expectations and pressure to live up to it) Fucking SUCKS!!
(for literally everyone — so let’s all kill that fucker) said by cartoons (one has a knife and is ready to kill)
and here’s some of my experience with it:
Image 2: Children….
(annoyed cartoon character talking to small shadow)
- Do you have a girlfriend?
- No.
- Then do you have any crushes?
- No.
- What? I don’t believe you. You’re lying.
- Why would I??
Image 3: Adults….
(uneasy cartoon character talking to tall shadow)
- So have you found someone yet?
- No, I’m not looking either.
- Don’t worry, you still have time.
- I’m not worried, I’m fine like that.
- You’ll see in a couple years.
Image 4: ….or even myself…
(cartoon character is overwhelmed by various amatonormative thoughts and is in distress)
Image 5:
(cartoon character is sitting in the middle, making a peace sign)
I wish I could say something uplifting and inspirational on how to fight it…
But I’m still figuring that part out for myself…
Just don’t act like being single is the worst thing you could imagine
(Don’t be a douche)
End of transcription.
Here we go again! It’s AroSpec Awareness Week!
You can go check out my blog for more info! I made many posts last year, and will probably do the same this year.
Image ID under the cut
[Image ID: Five digitally drawn pictures. They all have a green gradient background that fade into each other.
Image 1: A simple cartoon character with short brown hair, white skin and green cheeks. They’re dressed in the colors of the aro flag (green, light green, white, grey, black). They’re gesturing towards a central text in capital handrawn white letter that reads “It’s time for Aro-Spec Awareness Week 2022”. Another text typed in black says “From Feb 20th Until Feb 26th”. Two white arrows are at the bottom of the image as decorations.
Image 2: The text is divided into three blocks and reads: “What does aro-spec mean ? It’s short for "aromantic spectrum”. Arospec people don’t experience romantic attraction, or experience it differently.“ aromantic spectrum is written in green, romantic attraction is written in a dark red, and the rest is black. The same character previously described is standing on the right of the text as if they were saying the words. They’re drawn a second time underneath the text, holding a green umbrella while saying "It’s an umbrella term!”. The same two white arrows are at the bottom of the image as decorations.
Image 3: The text reads: “However, arospec and acepec are two different experiences. Not every aro is ace, not every ace is aro. That distinction between romantic and sexual attraction is based on the SAM! (Split Attraction Model)”. The words are typed in black except for the word aro which is green, and the word ace which is purple. A handwritten note on the side reads: “It can be used by anyone too!”. The character is at the bottom of the screen and says in parenthesis: “Tho there are non SAM aro out there”. The same two white arrows are at the bottom of the image as decorations.
Image 4: The image is filled with text with the exception of the character’s head poking out of the bottom. It says in a handwritten white text: “Transcript at the end”. At the top of the image is written “Some Vocabulary for the road:”. Underneath is a list of terms in bold capital letters and their definition. “Allo: Being non-aro (alloromantic) or non-ace (allosexual)” ; “Amatonormativity: The assumption that everyone must want a lifelong monogamous romantic and sexual relationship.” ; “Romance Repulsed/Favorable: How someone feels about romance! Some aro do like romance, others want nothing to do with it, and some are neutral.” ; “QPR: Queer Platonic Relationship! An unique kind of commitment, determined by the people in it.”
Image 5: The character is sitting on the decorative arrows at the bottom of the panel. White text above and next to them read: “This has been a brief introduction! There’s a lot more to learn… so follow ASAW and be aware of your local aros! Thanks for reading!”
End ID]
Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week is happening in less than 60 days! We have a guide for applying for a local or state proclamation up on our website: https://taaap.org/2021/12/25/asaw-proclamation-2022/
In 2021, there were a total of 6 states and cities that recognized Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week. While government recognition is not required for any community or their events, it helps to lay the groundwork for inclusive policy, and brings greater awareness to the public of the identity and community.
[ID: Two infographics with the heading “ASAW Official Recognition”. The first one reads “Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week is coming up on February 20 - February 26, 2022! Official government recognition of ASAW can do several things: Raise awareness of aromantic identities among the public. Provide a building block to request future legislation cover aromantic people. Make aromantic people feel seen and accepted in their home!”
The second reads “If you want to apply for official recognition from your local government, just follow these simple steps: 1. Have an address in the relevant location. 2. Check the deadline for proclamation requests. 3. Contact any organization you would like to sponsor the proclamation. 4. Copy and paste our template into the request form. 5. Wait for a response, and follow up!” End ID.]