That was never my goal. It currently isn’t my goal. I am a fat woman, and I am working on suppressing own internalized fatphobia, overcoming it, and becoming someone with more of a capacity for self love over all.
The goals of this blog are:
work on self love, body love, destroying my own fatphobia and loving myself, as myself, without implementing weight loss as a goal.
feel better physically. have more energy and combat my GERD/IBS symptoms at the start as opposed to finding solutions to work through them once they’ve already started.
Eat better = Feel better.
share food pics, put more work into my meals, and be proud of the progress I’ve made.
become the girl Pete Steele sang songs about.
Men keep telling me I “look good” because I’ve lost weight. I keep telling men I don’t feel good, but that isn’t as important to society as looking slimmer.
The only woman to pay me this compliment was my grandmother, who is in her late 80’s and still has extremely disordered eating (60+ years of anorexia and conditioning from my grandfather will do that to someone) - so hearing that from her, I know she meant well, but it still bothers me that telling someone they’ve lost weight is seemingly the highest compliment someone can recieve.
What are your opinions on self love? body love? fat acceptance?
I have several issues about body positivity, but the biggest one I have, is that they equate beauty and value. They need to feel beautiful to be valuable or worthy.
Society values beauty as a trait to aspire, but body positivity values beauty in a sick way, their entire movement got reduced to “we are all beautiful, so call ME beautiful”, instead of shifting to a paradigm of beauty is not the end of all.
*Your body is important, valuable and should be respected, even if it’s not beautiful, and you should love and care for it.* That’s what I think body positivity should be focusing on.
But the ego and insecurities of their first fat precursors damaged the entire point of it. They wanted to feel beautiful so bad, they morphed into a group of insecure selfish people looking for attention and praise, without being willing to work for it.
People on the fat acceptance movement say “They want me to be smaller” suggesting their identity and presence is intrinsically linked to the size of their physical body.
We want you to live in a smaller body than you are currently in in the hope that you’ll live a longer, happier, healthier life - meaning your PRESENCE is in fact bigger.
This is not hard to understand. You are not your fat, your fat is taking space from the person you could be.
Isn’t fat acceptance begging/demanding allies all the time?
So skinny people have to help, but can’t because they can’t understand, but are assholes if they don’t do anything, but full of bullshit if they do… What?
Also, Tess can eat an entire cake, which is inspiring, yet “fat people stuff their faces” is just a stereo type… PICK ONE!
Telling a dangerously overweight person not to lose weight because they’re beautiful, is like telling an alcoholic not to stop drinking because they’re fun.
