#first dates
Date idea: you go over to their place, to cut their hair since they asked you to. You get them in a chair, put a garbage bag on them so no hair goes down their back, and you start cutting. At first no talking, as you’re focused. But you loosen up as you go along, since you’re getting the hang of it. They then ask you “what will the payment be for this?” They smirk towards you and you get a little weak in the knees. Once you finish they pick you up and start kissing you saying they couldn’t wait to.
Date idea: staying in bed cuddling all day with the rain in the background while you chat all day.
Just had a very good first date with someone I met on tumblr. He commented on and/or liked one of my posts, and I liked his username, so I went to his page. He indicates the general location, and his about me mentioned that he was a feminist. I was in a particularly social mood, so I went ahead and sent him an ask.
He responded and we talked for a bit. He sent me a link to his okcupid profile. I liked it, we’re a 99% match, and he’d already sent me a message (that mentioned Tamora Pierce!) I had on my list of messages I wanted to respond to, but just hadn’t yet. We messaged back and forth and decided to meet tonight.
We had a fun first date with delicious food, excellent (and comfortable/easy to have) conversation, walking while holding hands, and making out/hair pulling/light choking in front of a local tourist attraction. We’re getting together for more fun sometime soon. And none of this would be possible without you, tumblr. So, thank you!
PS. I’m still workshopping nicknames for him. I’m thinking “Good Guy Tumblr Dom”, since he’s a d-type from tumblr, but he’s not a “tumblr dom” in the usual sense. Also possible: a variation on that, like “Not-A-Tumblr Dom” (actually I like this one a lot).Or “The Programmer” (I used that for someone already, but that didn’t go anywhere, so I could reappropriate it). Thoughts?
When Reaction Junkie and I reached the party, he suggested we go up to a private room. I was a little unsure, but I decided to go along with it. We went upstairs and picked a room. Reaction Junkie unzipped his bag and began showing off his handcuffs. He’s a bit of a fan. (That’s an understatement. He almost always has like 5 or more sets of cuffs in his kink bag, even if he’s just going to happy hour. And of course, I have to carry the damn thing.) He showed me how to use a couple sets and I set to work putting them on him.
I secured his hands behind his back and cuffed his ankles together. Then I started hitting him a bit. Not very hard, but hard enough. As we played, we chatted. I don’t remember much of what was said, although I’m sure the regular conversation was intermixed with me saying condescending and/or insulting things to Reaction Junkie. I told him I wasn’t sure about having sex, but noted that, I really should since he is a man, after all. At the time, MLAM and I were playing with a fairly intense and all-encompassing context of fucking with my feminism/consensual misogyny, which meant I was supposed to offer myself to any and all men for their pleasure and entertainment.
I also informed Reaction Junkie that he couldn’t give me permission to get off, though, since he was choosing to let me dominate him, thus forfeiting the control over my orgasms he would otherwise have as a man. I enjoyed saying that to him, even if it meant I wasn’t going to get off. At his request, I uncuffed his hands and recuffed them in front of him. I straddled Reaction Junkie and started grinding against him. I continued messing with him, and I was really getting into it.
I told Reaction Junkie to say nice things about me, and he immediately started complimenting me. He said wonderful things about parts of my body, my personality, my intellect, etc. I loved it. I should make him do that sort of thing more often. I uncuffed his hands and he started using them on me. He’s got game in the “hand stuff” department, but I wasn’t quite getting there. I knew what I needed. I needed degradation, consensual misogyny, name-calling, and to feel subby. I felt a bit bad, but decided that it was best to just ask for what I wanted. I asked Reaction Junkie, “Would it ruin it for you if I asked you to say terrible things to me?” Without missing a beat, he slapped me across the face and said, “Shut up, whore.”*
I swooned. Reaction Junkie saw how positively I responded to his words and the slap. He took over and continued this treatment, degrading me and hurting me. I clearly remember thinking “What a clever boy” as he got a handle on the consensual misogyny quite quickly, calling me names, insulting women as a class, saying the kinds of terrible things that get me soaking wet. He hit me, hurt me, and choked me, treating me the way I crave being treated. His words and actions combined to put me in a lovely little subby headspace. When he started playing with my cunt again, I got into it, gasping and moaning. Reaction Junkie said, “Oh? Can I give you permission now?”, calling back to when I told him he couldn’t give me permission to orgasm because he hadn’t been taking his rightful place over me. He continued using his hands on me as I whimpered that of course he could give me permission. He continued rubbing my clit and fucking my cunt with his fingers, gave me permission, and managed to get me close to orgasm.**
By this point, I was both super turned on and super into Reaction Junkie. I said*** that we could have piv sex (whether by saying “Fuck me!” or asking more demurely, I can’t recall), and he took me up on that offer. I grabbed one of the condoms supplied by the space, gave it to Reaction Junkie, and he fucked me. Now, I had mentioned to him earlier that I was into forced impregnation/nonconsensual unprotected sex fantasies. Not one to let a chance to press someone’s buttons pass him by, after he came, Reaction Junkie leaned close and whispered into my ear, “Our baby is going to be beautiful.”
We chatted while we cleaned up the room, and then sat on a nearby couch for a while to cuddle and talk more. Eventually, we went off to do our own thing with other people at the party. Whenever we ran into each other, Reaction Junkie took a dominant attitude with the way he spoke and acted towards me. I had already been hoping to see more of him because of the fun we’d had the previous night, but seeing him in that new light made me even more eager to spend time with him. At one point, he even threatened to choke me out. Then, as I was leaving, I went over to him and was delighted when he grabbed my hair firmly to say goodbye. I smiled to myself as I walked to my car and drove home.
The next day, I texted him, “I had a great time last night! It hurts when I press on my sternum, which is the best. We should definitely hang out again sometime soon.” He responded, “I had a fantastic time too. Glad you enjoyed yourself. Let me know when you want to get together again soon.” “Soon” turned out to be the following Wednesday. And then again the very day I got back from my San Francisco/Colorado trip. We started to see each other most days out of the week. That became spending most nights together. Before I knew it, I had fallen for him, and he had fallen for me.
*Reaction Junkie likes to say this is when I fell in love with him. That’s not actually true. But it did flip a switch in the way I thought about him. I decided, “I need to spend a lot more time with this guy.”
**Reaction Junkie thinks I did get off, although my notes on the night say I got close. Either way, I know I was impressed with his hand stuff game.
***To be honest, I actually can’t remember who offered/suggested the piv sex. Either way, the important point is that I was more than ready to have him fuck me.
So, Friday was rough (thank you for the kind messages, by the way. They really helped, and I’m going to respond wh N I get a chance to sit down with my laptop), but today should be lots of fun!
Tonight is Reaction Junkie’s birthday dinner, which might be a little difficult because of who is supposed to be there, but it also should be fun because i like pretty much everyone who will be there, and because it’s at a Brazilian steakhouse type place, so I’m getting to go I one of my favorite vegan places beforehand with other veg*ns kinksters!
But before that, I have a date(?) with someone I met off okcupid. I call him Tamora Pierce Guy because he messaged me because of our shared love for Tamora Pierce. I say in my profile that she’s be of my favorite authors, and that if someone likes her, they should send me a message because we’re almost certainly going to get along.
I met him in person for the first time a couple weeks, and it was great! He’s easy to talk to, and we seem to have a fair amount in common. He has an interesting job that means he k own a lot about ears going on in international news. Plus, I dig his style. I don’t know if he’s kinky or not, although I do know he isn’t anti-kink, and that he is ethically nonmonogamous.
I’m super excited about hanging out with today! We’re going to pick up delicious vegan baked goods and then go back to his place to eat a sandwich (a la HIMYM). We’re going to eat the baked goods, and cuddle, and talk, and I don’t know what else. I’m a bit nervous because I think he’s super cool and I don’t want to mess up, but hey, I’m also super cool, too!
I’m on the train on the way in to the city. 20 minutes to delicious vegan food!