#intersex
Gentle reminder that memes and inside jokes relating to human identity, such as race, gender, sexuality, ableness, neurodivergency, etc. don’t always apply to everyone in that ingroup, and if you don’t relate to all the fun jokes in a community, your identity is still valid. People are complex and one person with that identity may not share the same experiences and feelings as another. I think that makes every person so special and a point to be celebrated.
I know that a lot of issues surrounding intersex healthcare involve a lack of information about our bodies (on both our parts and on the part of doctors) and concerns about forced “treatments” that traumatize and harm us. It’s so obvious why over-medicalization of intersex people and forced procedures are harmful.
But like … I’ve been thinking about how I was raised recently. I was raised by Appalachian-descended folks, direct survivors of the Great Depression and their kids, in a rural place. I went undiagnosed with a lot of obvious stuff from childhood because nobody in my family trusted doctors or medicine, or would even have known what was going on with me, and if they did they never would have admitted it. They’d never listen to doctors or teachers who suggested there might be anything “wrong” with me, because they didn’t trust those authorities. And in all honesty, the doctors we had around weren’t very good at all.
As a result, I went undiagnosed and untreated for a lot. Looking back, in all honesty, I could have been put on puberty blockers if we’d known I was going through it way too early. I knew something was “wrong” with me, that I was different, and other people pointed it out and it was horrible and humiliating and I had dysphoria from being in the middle of a very visible puberty at 9 years old. I WISH I could have been put on puberty blockers! I wish anyone around me had the knowledge or resources to have done that for me! Precocious puberty caused me to have more severe scoliosis, a height-related disability, and a lot of emotional trauma. But I didn’t have options for a different reason than people normally talk about.
Usually we’re forced into treatments, coerced into them, have them hidden from us. Agency is denied to intersex people through forcing our decisions. But for me, I was denied agency because the treatment options weren’t there at all when I would have actually wanted some of them. I didn’t have anything forced on me so much as I didn’t even know I had the option to stop what was going on in the first place, and nobody told me it wasn’t normal or took me to the doctor or anything. And even if they *had* taken me to the doctor, I wasn’t in a place where we had great healthcare and I doubt anyone would have been well-educated enough to handle it. If I had been given the chance, I absolutely would have wanted to use puberty blockers so I didn’t start getting body hair at age 8. Nobody even said anything when I asked about my body, so I felt like an alien among every not-yet-pubescent kid in my elementary school. I knew I was different, and at the same time I didn’t have any clear idea how or why, and nobody else did either.
I think class is something that factors into the ways intersexism plays out, and I just don’t think I’ve ever heard anyone talk about this before? Idk. Throwing it out there.
intersex dysphoria is your estrogen and testosterone battling for dominance and shifting the distribution of your body fat constantly so every other month or so you realize your clothes don’t fit the same and you can just never quite feel comfortable in anything
it’s also considering if maybe you should just “pick one” and go on some kind of HRT one way or the other, but feeling dysphoria at even the thought because you want your hormones just how they are despite it being an increasing pain in the ass
it’s also realizing you walk a hormonal tightrope and it’s scary to think of what problems might get worse if you decide to fall to one side or another, and deciding that walking the middle and not disturbing things is probably just safer
like probably
but also like hell am i messing with my hormones, im too schizo/bipolar for that shit, i’ll just learn to navigate them doing whatever they want
It’s OK to want enby/intersex on your ID!
There’s differing opinions on the benefit of having the option to choose non-binary or intersex identifiers on your identification documents (driver license, birth certificate, etc).
But this is a reminder that it’s totally fine if you are excited to change your documents! You do not contribute to your own oppression by seeking an avenue that is validating your identity.
rb to have a very gay 2022