Hey! It’s been a while and I have no idea if people still post selfies on here, but I think this is a pretty good one.

smolbean-alex:

REMINDER #1:

YOU DO NOT NEED TO MEDICALLY TRANSITION TO BE A “REAL” TRANS/NON-BINARY PERSON! HECK, NOT EVERYONE CAN TRANSITION MEDICALLY FOR VARIOUS REASONS, SUCH HAS FINANCIAL ISSUES, OTHER MEDICAL ISSUES, OR CAUSE THE ENVIRONMENT THEY LIVE IN ISN’T SUPPORTIVE, BUT NO MATTER THE REASON, ITS NO ONE’s BUSINESS BUT THEIR OWN.

THE ONLY THING YOU NEED TO BE A REAL TRANS PERSON…IS BY BEING A TRANS PERSON. It’s that simple.

AND REMINDER #2:

TRANS WOMEN DON’T OWE YOU FEMININITY! THEY ARE WOMEN NO MATTER WHAT THEY WEAR OR DO! THEY CAN BE MASCULINE!

TRANS MEN DON’T OWE YOU MASCULINITY! THEY ARE MEN NO MATTER WHAT THEY WEAR OR DO! THEY CAN BE FEMININE!

NON-BINARY PEOPLE DON’T OWE YOU ANDROGYNY! THEY ARE NON-BINARY NO MATTER WHAT THEY WEAR OR DO!

If a cisgender person can express (by clothes, etc) a gender opposite from their own, than trans people should be allowed to do the same WITHOUT being judged. Also, there is no “one way” to being and looking trans+non-binary, remember that.

(Sorry if any of this was phrased weird or wrong)

So allos all say “I can’t describe what romance feels like! You just know it when you feel it!”

But then aphobes are like “Why can’t you describe the difference between romance and queer platonic attraction!??? How do you know it’s not romantic!?!???”

I just know, hon.

Full offense but all y'all saying aroaces are “"sTrAiGhT pAsSiNg” don’t know what the fuck you’re talking about.

Do you know how often I gotta get grilled about how I don’t have a boyfriend yet? You really think no one’s ever gonna clock that I don’t swing that way?

Hell, if anything I’m *gay-passing* because my boomer relatives are convinced that any woman who’s still single after 20 must be a lesbian. I can guarantee you, not one person I know thinks I’m even a little bit straight so you can sell your “straight-passing” bullshit somewhere else because I ain’t buying.

Aros/aces: “This character, who has no confirmed sexuality, could potentially be aro and/or ace.”

Not All Allos: “Actually I convinced myself that this character is gay and also I don’t understand aromanticism or asexuality so you’re actually homophobic and straightwashing.”

CW: Exclusionism

Excluding people for “straight passing” is inherently aphobic/biphobic/etc here’s why

So you lot love to tell me that you’re not doing anything wrong because all you’re doing is pointing out the fact that technicallywe don’t need to be supported by the community because we have the option of being safe and “accepted” (but not really) if we just stay in the closet and pretend to be straight.

But when you say we shouldn’t have the option of being out but still accepted and supported by the LGBT+ community then you’re saying you think we all should have to stay in the closet or else live with the biphobia/aphobia/etc

Now,call me crazy but when someone says to me “I think everybody under this identity should never use it again and I don’t care if the ones who get outed have to suffer for it” I might just think that that someone just hates the identity and supports its erasure and the acts committed against the people who use it. 

The split attraction model is not harmful. It is helpful.

The “harm” the above is referring to is not the result of the SAM but actually a result of allos who do not understand the SAM using it entirely incorrectly. This surge of hate for the SAM is a bit like saying disinfectant is harmful because kids have swallowed it; it would have some merit, if disinfectant was for drinking. But it’s not, it’s for disinfecting, and it being used wrong doesn’t change that, and doesn’t make it any less important and helpful. The SAM is not for allos to split two allo labels, its for aros/aces to accurately label themselves, and it being used wrong does not make it any less important or helpful.

People’s failure to acknowledge this and their decision to demonise the SAM – even correct uses of it – actually harms the aro/ace community by stigmatising their ability to accurately label themselves and their insistence that the SAM is nothing more than a social construct that we can just forget about is invalidating to aros and aces. And if they got their way and the SAM was done for, some day young aros and aces could just grow up wondering what was wrong with them, thinking they were broken, not understanding why they can only feel one kind of attraction.

But I’m pretty sure most of the folks tweeting this knew all of that already. Because to me it’s fairly obvious that the SAM isn’t a harm to the community and it’s extremely obvious that aros and aces need it. I’m pretty sure that this is another round of aphobia, because if we think about it, what would happen if we all decided that the SAM was evil? Aspecs would suffer for it, as I’ve already said but also they wouldn’t be able to be aro/ace and L, G or B anymore and to an aphobe who wants to exclude aspecs from the LGBT+ community, that probably sounds like a pretty sweet deal, being able to exclude aros/aces regardless of whether they’re gay or not.

But the really suspicious part is THIS IS NOT THE FIRST TIME THEY’VE TRIED THIS, aphobes have tried every way they can think of to make the aspec community out to be problematic, they said we stole “aspec” from autistics when we didn’t, they said we hated lesbians when we didn’t, they said we thought gay sex was sinful when we didn’t, aphobes have always been in search of ways to demonise the aspec community, to nitpick any issue, or to even make up issues entirely, anything to make us look like a problem, they’ve always tried it, they’ll always keep on trying it but we – the entire LGBT+ community – are smarter than this, we’re not going to buy into this, this time we’re gonna show them that it doesn’t work anymore.

visibilityofcolor:

I think people, women and girls especially, need to know that if you have a good thing going with another female friend, roomate, a cousin, a siblings, etc–then you don’t have to feel like marriage is like and endgame or something (if that makes sense). Ya know, lemme just make this girl centric. 

Let me clarify. I see a lot of girls having happy relationships with their sisters, cousins,best friends, roommates to the point where they’ve been living together for years and are comfortable with it. And becuase of that comfort with the girls they’re living with, a lot of women just end up wanting to live/stay with their roommates, best friends, sisters/cousins, etc., for the foreseeable future. 

And when a lot of girls bring this up, they’re met with “well one of you is gonna get married” or “no boy friend in the picture” or “well you can’t stay together forever/you can’t plan your lives around each other” or “what about if one of you gets a husband”

and like–seriously, just stop. when girls mention wanting to spend their lives with their boyfriends and shit, people don’t give them this much flack. girls are expected to pack up their lives to move with their boy friends/husbands.

but god forbid, two girls are just happy with each other, are in a place of comfort with the other that they wanna live together and spend their lives together (either romantic, familial or platonic), then people start to criticize them. So my point is, girls if you’re living with another girl and have been for years and you two are comfortable staying with each other and have basically spoken about just wanting to stay with each other, then do that. if this person makes you comfortable, makes you feel safe and happy, and supports you (whether romantic or not!) then do not let people ruin that bond or shame you for not getting married or being with a man or anything like that. like if you  have something good going, then keep the good going.

and this doesn’t have to be romantic (if it is that’s fine too!!).

Remember, kids, society’s insistence on everyone living the same cookie-cutter life with the same kind of relationships and same milestones is ridiculous, its all arbitrary nonsense and you can just let go of it, refuse to take input from society on what you should be doing and ask only yourself what will work for you. What will make you happy?

Trans women are women

Not all lesbians are TERFs

JK Rowling is human garbage.

If exclusionists who constantly say the catchphrase “asexuals are valid but not LGBT” actually thought asexuals are valid, they would say it when other exclusionists are being aphobic to remind them that asexuals are valid. But it is exclusively used against asexuals to remind them that they are not LGBT because that’s all it really means. The “asexuals are valid” part is just empty words tacked on save face because they think that if they just say those three magic words no one can call them out on their aphobia.

Asexual species are not ace representation.

There is a big difference between someone who is asexual as a sexuality and someone who is asexual because their species is.

When you represent the former you’re saying “some people are asexual and that’s okay.” You teach new people that asexuals exist and you challenge aphobia.

When you represent the latter you’re saying “some species are asexual and that’s just a known fact.” You’re teaching nothing and you’re challenging nothing and your audience will still walk away having no idea that asexual humans exist.

If you make an entire species asexual, you’re not representing me, you’re representing amoebas.

2 of my friends came out to me within the span of two days and all I can say is that I am incredibly proud of them ✨

Heart Transplant Help

I’ve never made a post like this, but this important to me. A co-worker and friend of mine is in need of a heart transplant, and they’re struggling to work whilst waiting to get on Disability.

They originally had a double heart attack followed by a double stroke, and their condition has been worsening sense. They’re only in their late 20’s. Our job hasn’t been very understanding of this, to say the least. They need to be able to pay for a transplant, as well as the treatments beforehand.

There’s more details and specifics here, or linkedbelow, both of which link to their GoFundMe.

They’re a very kind person with a wife and many pets, they run their own LGBT+ charity, and have endured many hardships all the while trying to help others. I hope we can make some kind of difference back. Thank you for your support.

Even if you can’t give anything, please share.

https://www.gofundme.com/f/Help-Sam-pay-for-heart-transplant

WBB Podcast: In Sickness and in Hell (with guest Dina Del Bucchia)

This week we welcome special guest Dina Del Bucchia to discuss one wild mishmash of an episode, In Sickness and in Hell!

We talk about creepy crawlies, being disappointed by our heroes (and conversely, our positive experiences with Bruce Campbell), our affection for the episode, and fandom. We also rag on TERFs!

Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts,  iHeartRadio,Spotify,Stitcher, and Soundcloud.

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Follow our Instagram for beer choices and Podcat: wbb_podcast Thanks to Grace: https://bigmammallama5.tumblr.com/ for our logo! We have merch!: www.redbubble.com/people/bigmammallama5 or email us!

Dina Del Bucchia is a writer, podcaster, literary event host, editor, creative writing instructor and otter and dress enthusiast living in Vancouver on the unceded territory of the Musqueam, Squamish
and Tsleil-Waututh people. She is the author of the short story collection, Don’t Tell Me What to Do, and four collections of poetry: Coping with Emotions and Otters,Blind Items,Rom Com, written with Daniel Zomparelli, and, It’s a Big Deal! She was a senior editor of Poetry Is Dead magazine, is the Artistic Director of the Real Vancouver Writers’ Series and hosts the podcast, Can’t Lit, with Jen
Sookfong Lee. Her new chapbook, Douche Process, is available online at ryanfitzpatrick.ca/modelpress/.

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WBB Podcast - Sacrifice: Pt. 2

We really cracked ourselves up talking over this very dramatic episode of television!

We wonder: Why DOES Hope look exactly like Gabrielle? Is Xena acting out of character? Sara also proves to be the Master of Segues and we both give you all a glimpse into just how nerdy we are.

Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts,  iHeartRadio,Spotify,Stitcher, and Soundcloud.

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WBB Podcast - Sacrifice: Pt. 1

If the cocoon’s a-rockin’, don’t come a-knockin’!

We finally return to Xena, and discuss an episode that’s got A LOT going on - Sacrifice Pt 1.

We talk about Gabrielle’s fortitude, the rules behind blood sacrifices, and meeting Katee Sackhoff. Chloe also seriously dates herself.

Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts,  iHeartRadio,Spotify,Stitcher, and Soundcloud.

Find us on Twitter: twitter.com/WBB_Podcast
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I’ve identified as pansexual for a few years now (closeted, though) and thought I was a closeted bisexual since I was about 15. If you’d have asked me if I classed myself as part of the LGBT+ community, I’d have said no. I don’t know why. No one had ever really made me feel that way (minus some minor bullying when I tried to coke out in high school and coming out to my mum only to have her push me back in the closet) but I just never felt like I had the right to. It felt disingenuous to even think I was. I wasn’t gay or lesbian, so therefore how could I be LGBT? I’ve been in a long term heterosexual relationship since I was 16, so how could I be LGBT? (Probably the lack of portrayal in the media when I was a kid of anything other than gay or lesbian probably didn’t help either.)

Anywho…I digress. Now, at the ripe old age of 35, I’ve very slowly over the last year felt like I could take ownership of my sexuality for a variety of different reasons. I am a pansexual woman. Yes, I’m now married to said long term boyfriend but that doesn’t change my sexuality. Am I out? Not really. Maybe over time, I’ll get there but I also don’t feel the need to right now; it’ll happen naturally, I’m sure. But for now, this is me coming out to the endless void that is tumblr

It has been done. Behold,  pastel non-binary and genderfluid flags !

Non-binary: Having a gender that isn’t 100% female or 100% male.

Genderfluid: Having a gender fluctuate between at least 2 genders over time or circumstances.