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It’s Agender Pride Day!

Featuring the tallest Cat tower in the colours of Agender flag.

Not sure how these kitties got up there but they sure are good at it, lol!

On a different note :

I’m here to remind you to JUST KEEP BEING YOU, don’t be too hard on yourself :)

Being born aro/ace is like being born to defy society’s heteronormative ideals and that’s kinda like being born to be punk and I think that’s very cool of us.

So allos all say “I can’t describe what romance feels like! You just know it when you feel it!”

But then aphobes are like “Why can’t you describe the difference between romance and queer platonic attraction!??? How do you know it’s not romantic!?!???”

I just know, hon.

Full offense but all y'all saying aroaces are “"sTrAiGhT pAsSiNg” don’t know what the fuck you’re talking about.

Do you know how often I gotta get grilled about how I don’t have a boyfriend yet? You really think no one’s ever gonna clock that I don’t swing that way?

Hell, if anything I’m *gay-passing* because my boomer relatives are convinced that any woman who’s still single after 20 must be a lesbian. I can guarantee you, not one person I know thinks I’m even a little bit straight so you can sell your “straight-passing” bullshit somewhere else because I ain’t buying.

Aros/aces: “This character, who has no confirmed sexuality, could potentially be aro and/or ace.”

Not All Allos: “Actually I convinced myself that this character is gay and also I don’t understand aromanticism or asexuality so you’re actually homophobic and straightwashing.”

CW: Exclusionism

Excluding people for “straight passing” is inherently aphobic/biphobic/etc here’s why

So you lot love to tell me that you’re not doing anything wrong because all you’re doing is pointing out the fact that technicallywe don’t need to be supported by the community because we have the option of being safe and “accepted” (but not really) if we just stay in the closet and pretend to be straight.

But when you say we shouldn’t have the option of being out but still accepted and supported by the LGBT+ community then you’re saying you think we all should have to stay in the closet or else live with the biphobia/aphobia/etc

Now,call me crazy but when someone says to me “I think everybody under this identity should never use it again and I don’t care if the ones who get outed have to suffer for it” I might just think that that someone just hates the identity and supports its erasure and the acts committed against the people who use it. 

The split attraction model is not harmful. It is helpful.

The “harm” the above is referring to is not the result of the SAM but actually a result of allos who do not understand the SAM using it entirely incorrectly. This surge of hate for the SAM is a bit like saying disinfectant is harmful because kids have swallowed it; it would have some merit, if disinfectant was for drinking. But it’s not, it’s for disinfecting, and it being used wrong doesn’t change that, and doesn’t make it any less important and helpful. The SAM is not for allos to split two allo labels, its for aros/aces to accurately label themselves, and it being used wrong does not make it any less important or helpful.

People’s failure to acknowledge this and their decision to demonise the SAM – even correct uses of it – actually harms the aro/ace community by stigmatising their ability to accurately label themselves and their insistence that the SAM is nothing more than a social construct that we can just forget about is invalidating to aros and aces. And if they got their way and the SAM was done for, some day young aros and aces could just grow up wondering what was wrong with them, thinking they were broken, not understanding why they can only feel one kind of attraction.

But I’m pretty sure most of the folks tweeting this knew all of that already. Because to me it’s fairly obvious that the SAM isn’t a harm to the community and it’s extremely obvious that aros and aces need it. I’m pretty sure that this is another round of aphobia, because if we think about it, what would happen if we all decided that the SAM was evil? Aspecs would suffer for it, as I’ve already said but also they wouldn’t be able to be aro/ace and L, G or B anymore and to an aphobe who wants to exclude aspecs from the LGBT+ community, that probably sounds like a pretty sweet deal, being able to exclude aros/aces regardless of whether they’re gay or not.

But the really suspicious part is THIS IS NOT THE FIRST TIME THEY’VE TRIED THIS, aphobes have tried every way they can think of to make the aspec community out to be problematic, they said we stole “aspec” from autistics when we didn’t, they said we hated lesbians when we didn’t, they said we thought gay sex was sinful when we didn’t, aphobes have always been in search of ways to demonise the aspec community, to nitpick any issue, or to even make up issues entirely, anything to make us look like a problem, they’ve always tried it, they’ll always keep on trying it but we – the entire LGBT+ community – are smarter than this, we’re not going to buy into this, this time we’re gonna show them that it doesn’t work anymore.

visibilityofcolor:

I think people, women and girls especially, need to know that if you have a good thing going with another female friend, roomate, a cousin, a siblings, etc–then you don’t have to feel like marriage is like and endgame or something (if that makes sense). Ya know, lemme just make this girl centric. 

Let me clarify. I see a lot of girls having happy relationships with their sisters, cousins,best friends, roommates to the point where they’ve been living together for years and are comfortable with it. And becuase of that comfort with the girls they’re living with, a lot of women just end up wanting to live/stay with their roommates, best friends, sisters/cousins, etc., for the foreseeable future. 

And when a lot of girls bring this up, they’re met with “well one of you is gonna get married” or “no boy friend in the picture” or “well you can’t stay together forever/you can’t plan your lives around each other” or “what about if one of you gets a husband”

and like–seriously, just stop. when girls mention wanting to spend their lives with their boyfriends and shit, people don’t give them this much flack. girls are expected to pack up their lives to move with their boy friends/husbands.

but god forbid, two girls are just happy with each other, are in a place of comfort with the other that they wanna live together and spend their lives together (either romantic, familial or platonic), then people start to criticize them. So my point is, girls if you’re living with another girl and have been for years and you two are comfortable staying with each other and have basically spoken about just wanting to stay with each other, then do that. if this person makes you comfortable, makes you feel safe and happy, and supports you (whether romantic or not!) then do not let people ruin that bond or shame you for not getting married or being with a man or anything like that. like if you  have something good going, then keep the good going.

and this doesn’t have to be romantic (if it is that’s fine too!!).

Remember, kids, society’s insistence on everyone living the same cookie-cutter life with the same kind of relationships and same milestones is ridiculous, its all arbitrary nonsense and you can just let go of it, refuse to take input from society on what you should be doing and ask only yourself what will work for you. What will make you happy?

Trans women are women

Not all lesbians are TERFs

JK Rowling is human garbage.

If exclusionists who constantly say the catchphrase “asexuals are valid but not LGBT” actually thought asexuals are valid, they would say it when other exclusionists are being aphobic to remind them that asexuals are valid. But it is exclusively used against asexuals to remind them that they are not LGBT because that’s all it really means. The “asexuals are valid” part is just empty words tacked on save face because they think that if they just say those three magic words no one can call them out on their aphobia.

Asexual species are not ace representation.

There is a big difference between someone who is asexual as a sexuality and someone who is asexual because their species is.

When you represent the former you’re saying “some people are asexual and that’s okay.” You teach new people that asexuals exist and you challenge aphobia.

When you represent the latter you’re saying “some species are asexual and that’s just a known fact.” You’re teaching nothing and you’re challenging nothing and your audience will still walk away having no idea that asexual humans exist.

If you make an entire species asexual, you’re not representing me, you’re representing amoebas.

theroguefeminist:

Just a reminder because apparently people don’t realize this, but the rainbow gay pride flag isn’t like…a gay male pride flag? it was literally meant as a pride flag for everyone in the community. not that there’s anything wrong with specific identities having their own flag, but i keep seeing ppl post flag sets as if the rainbow ride flag only represents gay men and saying that not including every single other flag known in existence means you’re excluding people when no it’s not the rainbow flag is for everyone

A quick lesson in aro/ace terminology to share with your allo followers:

•Asexual:

Sexually attracted to no genders (not the same thing as aromatic)

•Aromantic:

Romantically attracted to no genders

•Ace:

Short for asexual (not short for aromantic or aroace)

•Aro:

Short for aromatic

•Aroace:

Both aromantic and asexual

•Aro/ace:

Used to refer to people who are aro, ace, or aroace

Many allos use “ace” and “asexual” as umbrella terms for ace aro and aroace. This is an incorrect use of the words and we’d prefer you didn’t, thank you.

felt so so pretty in this dress

My makeup looked so good yesterday xxx

Pride mannequins, or Pridequins,

Almost every aspect of my life will tell me I don’t belong, that what I feel is not real and that I’m just making it up. That I must be a girl or a boy. That I’m not valid, and if I am, that I am alone. THAT I’M A DREAMER.
That the world isn’t ready for me.

Even though It would be easier if this was something I could change, I know in my heart that I am valid.

I am NOT a girl
I am NOT a boy
I AM non-binary
and that
I AM a dreamer.

So I better stop hiding, and start acting like one!
The world isn’t ready for me, and it won’t just get better either. I have to make it! We have to change the world! We have to be ourselves, so that others aren’t afraid to! We have to feel like we are alone, so that we are no longer so! We are the ones who will educate people! We are the ones who must destroy hetero and cis normatively!

And sure a lot of people will not believe us and will constantly invalidate us, but aren’t we already doing that to ourselves?

The only way to stop this is to face it and keep going, show them that we are stronger!

Only then, people will be forced to believe us! To know we are valid and that we are strong! It’s a long hard journey but it will be worth it, and we will survive because we are heroes! Each and everyone of you who is apart of the LGBT+ community, not just non-binary people! We are all heroes, just for living in this world!
But we have to do better. Better than just living here, we have to be the ones to change it. To fight society, and the roots of society that have grown in our brains! We have to believe in ourselves! We have to keep dreaming of the impossible, and we have to keep pushing ourselves to achieve it!
We CAN change the world

We MUST change the world

AND WE WILL!

But only if we dare to try