#mlm positivity
Stop sexualizing bisexuality.
Bisexuality is not inherently sexual.
The fact that bisexual and other orientations end in “-sexual” does not mean they’re all about sex or sexual attraction. The suffixes refer to the sex(es) one has the capacity to experience attraction toward, not that the terms are exclusive to sexuality. Bisexuality always includes romantic attraction regardless of gender unless otherwise specified. Biromantic bisexuals aren’t the only bisexual people.
Aromantic bisexual people are bisexual.
Biromantic asexual people are bisexual.
People attracted to all genders are bisexual regardless of their sexual activity or desires. Romantic attraction is as important of a part of bisexuality as sexual attraction. Embrace bisexuality as a whole, not just the parts that are hot.
Your partner’s attraction to all genders does not negate their love for you
Your partner’s love for you does not negate their attraction to all genders
Your attraction to all genders does not negate your love for your partner
Your love for your partner does not negate your attraction to all genders
Uncomfortably Bisexual
In my experience, the best way to confront biphobia, including internalized biphobia, is by being as loudly bisexual as possible. I don’t think enough bisexuals realize how much pride affects how others treat us. The word “pride” is used a lot in LGBT vocabulary, but do we truly understand what it means to have pride?
Even just the word “bisexual” puts a dirty taste in some mouths. But only at first. You see, unfamiliarity is often the root of disgust, which is often the root of hatred.
I used to avoid using “bisexual” in favor of “bi” because something about it made me cringe. Saying it in public made me self-conscious of what others thought. I would anxiously shrink myself and say the word quietly to draw the least attention. I was thinking too much into it giving the biphobes what they wanted: fear. I shouldn’t have to falter at all about saying a word. More than a word, in fact.
An identity. A statement. A weapon.
For every biphobic comment I hear—regardless of from or to whom—I say the word to their face at least twice. I say it loudly. I articulate. I make sure that they hear it and that they get used to hearing it. I say it obnoxiously and uncomfortably often, because that’s the only way to make the word normal and comforting. Eventually, the word does not bring out such strong reactions or feelings from biphobes, or myself.
❝As bisexuals, we experience pressure from both sides to make up our minds, to make a final choice. If we don’t, we incur a collective contempt.
Bisexuals deal with homophobia, biphobia and even heterophobia. The desire to identify with a community often forces bisexuals to repress one side of themselves.
It is a key element in the overall strength and wisdom of the lesbian/gay community that it include and validate bisexual people, and the bisexual movement as an ally in fighting the common enemy, heterosexism.
It is clear that homophobia is at the root of biphobia. Bisexuals have no intention of undermining the gains made by lesbians and gay men in the struggle to be a free people. Coming out as a bisexual is not something that is done to acquire or flaunt heterosexual privilege.
I am bisexual because I am drawn to particular people regardless of gender. It doesn’t make me wishy-washy, confused, untrustworthy, or more sexually liberated. It makes me a bisexual.❞
— Lani Ka'ahumani. “The Bisexual Community: Are We Visible Yet?” Out & Outraged: Non-Violent Civil Disobedience at the U.S. Supreme Court, 13 Oct. 1987, pp. 47–48.
Let Me Join You, Fellow Bisexual {Poem}
Let me join you, for there is no comfort in walking alone.
Far behind is an alley made of stolen stones.
We built this path of our own and refused to pick a side,
But ridicule follows and strips us of our pride.
We are not gay or straight enough for either community.
The home we had has become an oppression pageantry.
Let me join you, for there is no support in fighting alone.
We weep and scream for the sooth to be known.
Call it panphobia but I am not afraid of all things,
Nor of their deception, though it may sting.
For the sake of the activists who paved this road,
We must march on and demand truth be told.
Let me join you, for there is no pressure in resisting alone.
Only in unity is this community able to grow.
Those at Stonewall did not submit to the police,
So we will not yield in the name of silencing peace.
Nor will we make war with those of us led astray,
For this road has too many bricks to all be carried away.
Let me join you, for there is no comfort in walking alone.
These well-traveled bricks will found a home,
So we never need be on our own.
— Riley Idalia Lord
Hey hey hey
Red hair ❤️
Hiiii
Can some lesbians and bi women stop saying that they don’t understand how women are straight when girls are so pretty? They would never say such a thing about gay men because they know that would be homophobic. And god forbid gay/bi men and straight/bi women wondered how people aren’t attracted to men, that would be seen as extremely misogynistic. No one can control who they’re attracted to, isn’t that what gay/bi people have worked so hard to get homophobes to understand? There are plenty of gorgeous men, just like there are plenty of gorgeous women. Someone being attracted to men alone doesn’t mean that they’re missing out. Just love who you love and let other people love who they love.
A whole new world ✨
i love being gay and i love being aro i love loving and not loving boys
