demi-orientations-culture-is:

an unfortunate announcement

I’m sorry, but I cannot be running this blog anymore for a number of reasons.

1) It’s not been that great for my mental health. There’s only been a couple of stressful things about it, all of which have passed. But between everything else in my life and the couple experiences I had, I haven’t had an amazing experience with this blog since. Not bad, but not good.

2) I’ll be going on a religious mission in less than a year and will be unable to be on tumblr during that time.

3) It’s a lot harder to do this while living with five people that I’m not out to and having a considerable less amount of privacy I had compared to before (sharing a room with a roommate, people being home often in the living room, etc).

So because of those reasons, I don’t think I’ll really be on here any longer. That said, I don’t want to delete this blog. A lot of cool stuff is up here. I’d be more interested in adding someone to here to run things.

I might start things up later when I’m done with my mission and have a better living situation, but that’ll be in a while, but I still refrain from deleting because of that as well.

DM me if you’re interested in being the mod here.

Sorry and thanks for understanding.

I guess “demi culture is… LITERALLY BEING A XIAN NLOG!!!”

This is fucking sick.

What, the LDS wasn’t “persecuted” enough for Sister Demi Culture, she’s got to pretend to be a “queer” Mormon, as well??

Yeah, fuck this shit. My gay arse has been with enough ex-Mormon gays to know that the LDS cult LITERALLY has tweaked their Anti-LGBT “conversion” to induce sex-repulsion and repress people to believing that they’re “asexual” —literally one of the MOST OPPRESSIVE Xian sects in existence LITERALLY PREFERS ASEXUALS TO LGBTQ PEOPLE, and yet you dumbfucks still like to pretend y'all are oppressed! Fuck you all.

The fence #fyp

I love this video. It’s clever. It’s well-done. It’s an apt metaphor and the parallels are incredibly clear.

Watch it then share it with everyone you know. (Please.)

thatdiabolicalfeminist:

I always see so many social-justice type things that are like, reassuring people in the oppressor group that no, we’re not trying to take anything away from you! Your life will be pretty much the same but better if we achieve our goals!

Which, in a sense I guess that’s true, because a fairer world is better for us all – but honestly, yes, we are trying to take things away from you, and achieving our goals will mean your life is different. Because people in oppressor groups have not been pulling your/our own weight this entire time.

Men, abled people, cis people, white people, straight people, rich people, non-intersex people, etc., all benefit from oppression. As in, there are things we/you have that we/you literally only recieve as a direct result of oppression, and in a world without that oppression, we/you will not receive those benefits!

Privileged people will have to give up being centred more, trusted more and deemed more competent than anyone else; having emotional work performed for us/you quietly and without recipricocity; having our/your interests prioritized over everyone else’s; being treated as the default from which everyone else is a variation; and a million more unfair advantages.

Ending oppression will require people in oppressor groups to actively give up all kinds of benefits that stem directly from oppression. There will often be things that oppressors didn’t even notice was a benefit of oppression that will now have to be relinquished. It’s difficult work, and it absolutely will affect your life. But it’s necessary and important work.

If you’re only interested in ending oppression with the caveat that it not affect your life whatsoever and you’ll never be inconvenienced by people gaining back rights they should always have had – you’re not interested in ending oppression, and you should make an effort to cultivate that interest.

ginnydi:

Okay, here’s the problem with the idea that oppressed groups can “alienate allies” by not being nice enough:

You shouldn’t be an ally because oppressed groups are nice to you. You should be an ally because you believe they deserve basic human rights. Hearing “I hate men” shouldn’t make men stop being feminist. Hearing “fuck white people” shouldn’t make white people stop opposing racism.

Your opposition to oppression should be moral, and immovable. Your belief that all humans should be treated with equal respect shouldn’t be conditional based on whether or not individual people are nice to you.

autisticliving:

autisticliving:

I wish that anti-bullying campaigns would stop arguing that “anyone can be bullied”/that “it’s completely random who the bullying victim is” cause it’s usually not just “anyone” who’s being bullied - it’s the disabled kids, the neurodivergent kids, the kids of color, the fat kids, the mentally ill kids, the poor kids, the transgender kids, the gender nonconforming kids, the non-straight kids. We won’t get anywhere with stopping bullying if we don’t confront the underlying reasons causes it’s no accident that it’s the kids belonging to marginalized groups who ends up being bullying victims. Bullying is not just a “random” evil it’s an expression of the ableism, racism, classism, sexism, homophobia, fatphobia and transhobia in our society and it’s about time that we confront that in our anti-bullying campaigns. 

Edited version. Please reblog this version instead if you’ve reblogged the unedited version. 

Does society enforce it as the given cultural norm?
Are and/or were there laws regarding it?
Is it supported in business practices and policies?
Is it enforced in employment practices (hiring, firing, conditions for employment, etc)?
Is it in housing policies and practices?
Is it in education policies, practices and application?
It is in local/state/federal law enforcement practices and/or policies?
Is it resplendent throughout advertising and entertainment industries?
Is it possible to rectify employment, housing, law enforcement, etc. grievances through the government–judicial, executive, legislative, etc.?
Does its practice affect people in any aspect of their life: personal, financial, housing, employment, health and medical care, etc.?
Is it specific to a single group or several groups of people?

This is what I mean when I say systemic.

iamnotlanuk:

iamnotlanuk:

what really fucking bothers me in conversations about racism and saying that some work has racist elements people always counter with “I don’t think the author had deliberate racist ideology in mind” cause it’s like that doesn’t fucking matter. it doesn’t have to be deliberate to be racist. most people don’t go hee hee hoo hoo I’m gonna put racist things in this. everyone was raised in a racist society and covert racism exists and yes needs to be examined in ourselves and everywhere and yes even in works you like author “deliberate” intent or no

this applies to other forms of bigotry too. listen to the voices of those who have to live under systemic oppression

I’ve had multiple reasons recently to think about how there are many kinds of oppression, and they’re all terrible, but people will claim that one is worse than the others – with the strong implication that the Worst Oppression is the only one we should talk about or try to fix.

One kind of oppression involves people immediately looking at you and hating you and seeing you as less than human.

Another kind of oppression involves knowing that anyone around you, any person who has treated you humanely so far, might one day reveal that they hate you and see you as less than human.

Both kinds of oppression cause harm. Both result in trauma and misery. Both have led to segregation, dehumanization, systemic persecution, and genocide.

I’ve had enough of people trying to tell me that one is worse than the other. They both need to be acknowledged, talked about, and stopped.

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: claiming that someone else does not experience oppression is not useful. Claiming that one kind of oppression is uniquely terrible or uniquely ignored is not useful. The goal should be ending all oppression, together, forever.

thatdiabolicalfeminist:

I feel like a lot of well-intentioned people make a lot of very grave mistakes because of the fundamental misconception that violence is always only discrete acts between individuals – and the related misconception that every interaction starts out with a clear slate and remains nonviolent until one individual personally physically attacks another.

Without an understanding of systemic violence, someone resisting violence is going to look like they’re initiating it.

It scales up and down. If you don’t see the environment of terror an abuser fosters, a victim resisting control looks like they’re starting fights. If you don’t understand that someone is hoarding tonnes of food they can’t possibly eat while their neighbours starve, it looks like the starving person is initiating injustice when they steal a little back to survive. 

If we want to successfully survive and resist fascism, we need to educate people about the very concept of systemic violence.

We need to talk about it over and over again, until every single person has been introduced to the idea that violence can be in the background working away, that it can happen bureaucratically, that exploitation is violence and hoarding resources is violence and that championing a violent cause is already violence even before the first physical strike.

We need to educate people about what violence is, so that they have the context necessary to even see huge injustice occurring, let alone resist it in the name of reducing violence - instead of holding back out of the fear that to resist is to initiate violence.

Violence is already happening, and inaction supports it. On the understanding of that fundamental fact hinges all hope of ending it.