noblepeasant:

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enbycourse:

Everyone who uses that “well 90% of rape is committed by men,” bullshit is forgetting that female rapists are rarely reported because male rape victims aren’t taken seriously and are made fun of and when they actually are reported it’s RARELY taken seriously and goes through court.

Women rape plenty. You’re not pure. You’re not the victim. Anyone, ANYONE, can be a victim, regardless of gender.

Women also rape other women, but a lot of people either outright ignore it, thinking that it’s “not real rape,” or they try to silence survivors because they think that reporting on female-on-female sexual abuse is homophobic.

Study after study has shown that lesbian relationships have the highest levels of abuse per capita. This can’t be ignored any longer.

I had no idea. That’s awful.

Lgbt people aren’t innocent and incapable of being abusive or rapists. f/f and m/m relationships aren’t inherently more pure and wholesome than m/f couples.

Rape isn’t a female issue caused by men and it’s FAR from exclusive to heterosexual couples.

Yo- so- I’ve been doing some thinking recently. Specifically about what ways in TTRPGs geography would/should/does effect the prevalence and manifestation of magic. 

Like we all get druids hang out in the woods- clerics are around temples- wizards have towers and schools and all that jazz in some classic fantasy. That just sorta scratches the surface of what I’m thinking about though. And to a certain extent this idea has been considered by the Circle of the Land Druids but id like to explore it further.

For example- let’s us, you and I- look at the Tempest Cleric. It makes sense to me that the storm gods are prayed to more heavily in costal regions and so it tracks to me that in port towns or seaside villages the most common/largest/best kept temples would be staffed by Tempest Clerics. And that when a ship goes out to sea they either get blessed by a stormy priest or even bring one along both to keep wind up and in the sails and to prevent shipwrecking storms from arising. 

I think this train of though kinda continues to track with other classes too. I would posit that rural or more isolated communities would be more likely to have a sorcerer or warlock as arcane casters than a wizard just based on access to fancy magical education. It’s way easier to make a deal with a hag for some good good magic then it is to move your ass a thousand miles just to be the man who went to wizard school. AAAAND think through this with me- I would argue it is more beneficial for a village to have an in with a hag than one good wizard- help protect your crops in the fall, maybe get a milder winter, maybe your village livestock never really seems to have issues with predators. No good ol’ wizard is really gonna be able to do that.

On the subject of arcane nerds however I think some schools of magic would be more popular foci of study in different areas. A rural wizard might practice divination to find the ideal time for planting and how late you can leave crops in before the seasons change. An urban wizard might be more inclined towards abjuration or evocation- two schools where they city they live in might be more interested in employing them for defense or what not.

I dunno if all this makes sense to anyone else but I’ve really been thinking about it a lot recently and wanted to throw it on out there.

“Put it right back in just like a pussy.”

“That’s where it belongs!”

I LOVE when @thedeepfillernyc talk his shit while he hit it from the back!

So… this is going to be hard for me to write, I don’t really know how to express how I’m feeling. I can’t tell people in person, for the fear they might not understand, for the fear that they will believe I’m just being silly or stupid.

Recently I just got out of a relationship, and to be honest I’m glad I got out now. Abuse comes in, many forms I suppose emotional and verbal isn’t heard of that much since it wasn’t physical. Don’t get me wrong things were amazing to start of with but as we got to know each other it became sour. I’m a person who had worked so hard to build up my confidence in speaking to people and now I feel like my hard work has been completely shattered. 

He didn’t like the way I breathed, the weight I carried, comments were always being made about it. In a conversation my opinion didn’t matter and if I wanted to speak about my day he would act bored until we went back to his subject. He called me selfish, all because I wanted to go home after a long day of hard work and that it was my fault this certain person was now left on her own on a night out. It was my fault if anything would happen to her. This is Penzance…not the hardcore streets. I had to learn how to get over things and not be so sensitive, I had to learn from my mistakes when I didn’t make any mistakes at all. I was lectured every time we met, he made me feel stupid, unwanted and not worthy of his time.  

I’m in a pretty decent job, which yet again I’ve worked hard for, we’d pass a shop which would be advertising jobs for sales assistant and he’d point that out…maybe he didn’t like me having a better job than him. 

He wouldn’t introduce me to his family which of course made me feel like he was ashamed of our relationship. It was my fault that he lost his wallet when I hadn’t even seen it in the first place, I was 50 miles away. Everything was always my fault. He was going to be late and assumed I’d be mad even though I was with my best friend, my fault that I didn’t get mad. My fault that I booked a hotel without his consent to make sure we’d actually have a place to stay for the holiday….yup that’s cancelled now.

I refuse to be some brain dead female that would bow at his feet, that is not me. Right now I’m slowly working things out, trying to let go of what has been said, but it’s hard, people say “Just forget about it.” But when you’ve had it drummed into you that you’re practically pointless…it becomes very hard. Riddled with anxiety I’m finding it hard to cope in day to day situations, sure it’s having a small effect on work, even maybe with friendships I’ve neglected. Opening up to people has become that much harder. But it’ll get better. :)

My advice if you’re going through a similar situation?…Get out before it gets worse, they’re not worth it, not worth the pain and tears that you’ve spent. Working it out will just lead you back to square one a few weeks down the line, for months I wasn’t allowed an opinion, it didn’t feel like it anyway. Be strong enough to end it because later on in life you’ll be proud of yourself for it. It will take time to get better, those words and feelings will soon disappear, that’s what I keep being told and one day you’ll be back to your normal self. Plus…loads of icecream and Disney films normally help! ;)

This post won’t get a lot of views but it was a platform for me to vent on, to release my pain and upset and if it helps one person then it’s better than none at all. 

<3 M x 

nonbinary-adhd:

What Is Stimming?

Stimming is self-stimulatory behavior. Stimming is usually a repetitive sensory action and it’s used to help level out the amount of sensory input you’re getting, whether it’s too much or too little input!

What Counts As Stimming?

There’s so many ways to stim that it’s impossible to list them all, but the most basic criteria is that it’s a repetition of a sensory activity.

I don’t have ADHD and I’m not autistic. Am I allowed to use this term?

Everyone stims! Stimming is not exclusive to just ADHD and autism, and even neurotypical people stim whether they realize it or not! I personally think that it’s perfectly okay to use the word “stim” for your experiences regardless of if you’re autistic/have ADHD or not.

What Are Some Examples Of Stimming?

• Tactile (Touching things)

Running hands over a blanket, petting an animal, tracing your fingers along the seams of something, squishing something, picking at things, touching cold/warm things, patting something, pressing buttons, flipping switches.

• Auditory (Listening to things)

Listening to the same song over and over, listening to ASMR/things popular in ASMR (like clay cracking, soap crunching, fingernail tapping, etc), listening to a rhythm, listening to a favorite voice, shaking an object around for the noise.

• Verbal (Making noises with your mouth)

Singing, repeating words/phrases, speaking in accents repetitively, whistling, beatboxing, mimicking animals/sounds, toungue clicking, making random noises like beeps or pops.

• Visual (Watching/Staring at things)

Watching paint mixing videos, watching repetitive color/shape patterns, staring at ceiling fans, blinking repetitively, watching things spin, watching bubbles/water, watching people mix glitter, watching lights.

• Smell (Smelling things)

Smelling a candle, smelling a favorite item (like a blanket or toy), smelling pets, etc. Pretty much smelling anything repeatedly!

• Taste/Oral (Tasting/Chewing things)

Chewing on things, eating specific foods for the texture, eating specific foods for the flavor, eating spicy/minty foods for the sensory effects, licking certain objects.

• Body Stims (Moving body parts)

Hand flapping, cracking knuckles, rocking, leg swinging, pacing, tapping fingers, doing little stomps, general fidgeting, jumping/bouncing, moving certain body parts in specific ways, shifting around in your seat.

This does not encompass every single stim! These are just some examples to help provide a better idea of what they are, and there’s still tons and tons of unique ways to stim that weren’t listed here, like how I tap my fingertips together, or how I clear my throat repetitively!