#comparison
Y’know, even when I only knew the show by reputation, a lot about Dominique (and DomiJeanne) has always made me think of revolutionary girl utena, but now that I’ve actually started watching it, hooboy
It’s the girl seeking to become a prince while she pines for her own princely love interest, and the girl trapped in a societal role that demands subservience and denies her any agency
[Tweet from @/fozmeadows: “human gender and sexuality are very much like animal taxonomy, in that both look structured and simple on the surface, but once you start investigating, it turns out there’s actually no such thing as a fish despite the fact that we all know what a fish is, and that’s okay”]
As a biologist, that is a fantasticcomparison.
We talk about “fish” (which, cladistically, do not exist, there is no monophyletic group of “fish” that simultaneously includes all organisms we understand to be “fish”-like while also excluding, say, humans) because, despite the utter fiction that is fish, it’s still a useful label when we talk about certain features that “fish” tend to have in common.
Gender is absolutely the same way.
distorted reality.
we create our own reality thru pretty shit biases.
… we compare our worst of days to others’ highlight reels.
… we jump to the conclusion that everyone knows everything we do plus so much more.
… we down play our pain&hurting because that one person out in the world must be worse off.
… we assume everyone is happier, prettier, smarter, more successful than us because that’s logical, right?
the way we see the world is distorted. we only let ourselves see the good bits&pieces of people’s lives, &we reject all the rest, all the negative. we then take those pieces, pile them all together &create one perfect human. &lastly we then force ourselves into comparison with these imaginary perfect creatures.
//example//. I could see a girl walking down the street. She’s fit. so naturally, I zoom in on her body. it is the most perfect body. she is the most perfect girl. & has the most perfect life. //I’m spiraling//. I must be like her. &because I am not her, well I suck.
but wait a second diva, zoom out. her body is only one thing going on in her life. &she also is only one girl on this street. you see how quickly I jumped to very dark, very scary conclusions about myself all because one person had one good thing going for them. //how shit is that//? buuuuut we all do it, like all the time.
we create our own reality. &we’ve got to start creating one we deserve, a pretty damn good one.
snape:[to hermione] perhaps you take pride in being an insufferable know-it-all?
book!ron:you dare insult my wi- I mean, friend? how dare you? you asked us a question, and she, being her brilliant self, knows the answer. why ask if you don’t want to be f*cking told? huh? tell me, you greasy motherf*cker.
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movie!ron:dur dur he’s got a point dur dur hermione insufferable dur dur
Freshman year was good to him