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Here’s a story: I grew up wanting to get pregnant. Didn’t know how. Didn’t know it usually involved another person. Just knew, as young as 5, that I loved how pregnant people looked and the result was a baby. I love babies.
Problem 1: I learned as a teenager what sex actually was (and I’m talking LATE teens. I missed some classes in Sex Ed, and my mom didn’t tell me a damn thing about why I had my period every month). I didn’t start feeling arousal until maybe 19? “Late bloomer.”
Problem 2: I don’t like 95% of the kids roaming the earth. Even as a kid, I didn’t like many other kids, especially the ones on TV. Precocious twits.
Anyway, fast forward. My older sister has a baby, and after an endless night of her crying while babysitting, that was the first time I said, “I’M NEVER HAVING KIDS!”
I meant it, but I still wanted a baby. In fact, my cousin and I had a pact that in the future I would raise her baby and she could raise my toddler (that’s how much I don’t like children).
Fast forward again, and I go through high school and college with a few casual boyfriends, only one of which I even kissed, and that was enough for me ☂️(Pretend this is the ace version of a red flag).
Fast forward one more time to me hitting my 30s having missed my childhood goal to get married and have 3 kids before 30. It was in my 30s I discovered demisexuality and about 37 (the age I am now) when I resigned myself to never even finding anyone I want to have a child with. After chemotherapy, I don’t even know what my eggs are looking like.
But last week, I spoke with a doctor about getting fibroids removed, and though one of the options was getting a hysterectomy, I realized…I want my uterus. I never know who I can meet in the next few years.
So to wrap this up, I surprised myself that a part of me still wants to try to have a child I might like.
we need 2 normalize characters who dgaf about romance
sorry im literally so tired of everyone being shipped with someone can a guy not just chill
i want 2 say this isnt just about aro characters. im aro i love aro characters i love ace characters but this also is about allo characters. its normal and healthy and fine for alloromantic people to not be in romantic relationships and i wish media reflected that
Stop treating a disinterest in marriage, romance, or relationships like a character flaw that needs to be fixed.
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We need one model for each identity: abrosexual, agender, ally, aromantic, asexual, bigender, bisexual, demiboy, demigirl, demisexual, gay, gender fluid, intersex, lesbian, non-binary, omnisexual, pansexual, polyamorous, polysexual, questioning, transgender
Head to our Instagram and Comment with your your identity, and your country! ‘I am _____ from _____, and I’m proud to wear my community”.
a question for my fellow demiromantics and demisexuals!
when you’ve developed an emotional bond with someone and the famous ✨attractions✨ are experienced: which comes first for you? romantic or sexual? both at the same time? Or has it happened that you only feel one and not the other with different people? Tell me all about your demirose experiences!!
Alloros and alloces can also reply too! As a demiromantic, do you experience sexual attraction first? And as a demisexual do you experience romantic attraction first? Tell me about it too!
I’m a demirose (both demiromantic and demisexual). The couple of times I’ve experienced romantic and/or sexual attraction it has happened like this:
friendship -> emotional bond -> romantic attraction -> physical/sensual attraction -> sexual attraction.
If you don’t want such technical terms , in conclusion: after developing that emotional bond towards someone, I experience romantic feelings for them first and sexual ones later on. They’re not immediate tho… sexual feelings take longer to develop (probs the whole sex-indifferent thing I’ve got going on too ).
a question for my fellow demiromantics and demisexuals!
when you’ve developed an emotional bond with someone and the famous ✨attractions✨ are experienced: which comes first for you? romantic or sexual? both at the same time? Or has it happened that you only feel one and not the other with different people? Tell me all about your demirose experiences!!
Alloros and alloces can also reply too! As a demiromantic, do you experience sexual attraction first? And as a demisexual do you experience romantic attraction first? Tell me about it too!
