The tickets have been purchased and I am finally going home. I have been waiting for this day for a while now. I have even been dreaming about this day but now that it has come.. I am nervous . I’m nervous the world was spinning too fast while I was gone. I’m nervous people won’t be as excited to see them as I am to see them. I’m nervous I changed to much. In nervous I didn’t change at all. I’m nervous that nothing will feel like home. I’m nervous I won’t be able to answer people’s questions about my experience
Reverse culture shock sucks. I honestly think it is worse than plain old culture shock because it turns the place, that you used to know as home, into this uncomfortable place you now have to get used to. It hits you in the weirdest places. When I returned from my study abroad experience in college I had a moment where I was just casually having a glass of wine with some friends and I started crying! I have no idea what will affect me the most when I get home. Finally having a plethora of people I can communicate with? Being able to read a menu? Will it be hard for me to get used to what I once considered normal?
I can tell you this, I will miss people calling me beautiful every day and students saying hi to me all day every day. And of course I’ll miss my new friends. I am a grateful that for all that Hegang has taught me and given me. I will never forget this place and hope that it has only made me a stronger person.
I finally had the magical experience in China I was waiting for. I was invited to a KTV…
KTV stands for karaoke TV but its not the karaoke that most americans think of which includes singing in front of a random group of people. At these places, which are incredibly popular in China, guest rent a room and you sing your guts out in front of your friends, in a room with a closed door and comfy couches. Most americans are confused about KTV when they first hear about it because karaoke, to many americans,is all about is having the guts to share your talents or completely embarrass yourself in front a group of random people.
The best way I can understand the popularity of KTV is to think of an aspect of Chinese culture that is most obvious to me. Shyness! Overall the Chinese culture is much more shy than the american culture (especially the culture I have grown up around). A huge part of Chinese culture is all about “saving face” and not embarrassing yourself or your family. So that makes sense to why they would rather sing around people they know than random people like Americans do but I really had to think why KTV and singing to others, even in a closed room, is so popular?
Well here is a fun fact… Chinese people have a over all better musical sense than Americans. Yes that is a statement comes with many people that are the exception. But what I am trying to point out is that the Chinese language is a tonal language which helps most of its people have a good musical sense from childhood. So many Chinese people are actually good at singing, or at least not tone def.
It is also a great way to blow off some steam in a culture that is very stressful and doesn’t really have many ways to blow off steam. Clubs and bars are still a western idea and are not very popular in China (except in places like Beijing and Shanghai). But Chinese people, especially northern Chinese people, are not strangers to alcohol. So this gives self-restrained Chinese people a place to leave stresses and social labels at the door and drink in a safe environment with their friends.
End of the Year Reflection/Saying Goodbye To Sugar Dating
I meant to post this before the year ended but dating in med school has been incredibly demanding! I had a fling with a millie (one day I will meet my billie). I actually had to retake my block 2 exam because I was so wrapped up in the money I’ll record a podcast episode about it soon but for now here’s my reflection on last year and what I’m looking forward to in the future!
When I started this blog I was a newbie in the bowl. Had no idea what sugaring really took. Didn’t even realize the difficulties I would face as a brown sugar baby. Thought it would be so easy… I’m so grateful for all the experiences good and bad because they are part of my story. This year I really wanted to take my experiences to the next level. I was able to purchase an investment property with my sugar sis, start med school, elevate my business, had a wonderful sugar daddy, start healing from past traumas & forgive myselffor staying in an abusive relationships for so long (still very much a work in progress). I love counting my blessings because it reminds me of how far I’ve come and excites me about what has yet to come.
I love sharing my experiences and connecting with so many people who enjoy the same lifestyle and mental frequency. That being said, I’m saying goodbye to sugaring. I feel I’m at a point in my life where I am ready for the next chapter. Sugaring has been so helpful in getting me where I need to be but it’s time to transition. I talk about hypergamy often, and it just seems like a more appropriate setting for me now. My experiences in the sugar bowl have really taught me a lot about men and the dynamics between men + women.
I have a few upcoming trips planned where I will have the opportunity to be around affluent people with millions/billions of dollars. I’ll still continue to document my journey because I’m sure it’ll be a wild ride. If you’re interested in hearing more about my decision and the reasons behind it, check put my podcast! The season finale episode is up now.
Unfortunately I have to change the set up of my episodes. The sugar/hypergamy related episodes will be available on my public platform until the start of season 2, and then I will be moving them to a private podcast space. It will still be on Brown Sugar Doc, The Podcast but limited access. This decision was made after a few classmates bombarded me at a party about a sugar date I went on. It was very bizarre but a necessary lesson learned. So to protect my sanity I’ll be continuing to document all things hypergamy related on my private podcast. I’ll still post on my regular pod but for the hypergamy listeners, I’ll continue the journey exclusively for us.
I love everyone who has joined me at any point on this journey. More to come!
You don’t want to miss this week’s episode about mindful communication strategies! We’ll also dive deeper and discuss topics of professionalism, how the term is changing, and where sex work falls in this change. Be open minded and see if any of your held perceptions are challenged.
Impacts when we don’t communicate mindfully
Professionalisms evolution over time
OnlyFans and sex work censorship
New era dating and terms
Reflection questions
It’s great to be posting again! My inbox is flooded with asks that I can’t wait to answer. Still getting settled into the new city but things are going great. Med school is busy af but finally finding a bit of a balance. Thinking of camming again until I build a solid roster here. Probably do an episode in the near future about it
End of the Year Reflection/Saying Goodbye To Sugar Dating
I meant to post this before the year ended but dating in med school has been incredibly demanding! I had a fling with a millie (one day I will meet my billie). I actually had to retake my block 2 exam because I was so wrapped up in the money I’ll record a podcast episode about it soon but for now here’s my reflection on last year and what I’m looking forward to in the future!
When I started this blog I was a newbie in the bowl. Had no idea what sugaring really took. Didn’t even realize the difficulties I would face as a brown sugar baby. Thought it would be so easy… I’m so grateful for all the experiences good and bad because they are part of my story. This year I really wanted to take my experiences to the next level. I was able to purchase an investment property with my sugar sis, start med school, elevate my business, had a wonderful sugar daddy, start healing from past traumas & forgive myselffor staying in an abusive relationships for so long (still very much a work in progress). I love counting my blessings because it reminds me of how far I’ve come and excites me about what has yet to come.
I love sharing my experiences and connecting with so many people who enjoy the same lifestyle and mental frequency. That being said, I’m saying goodbye to sugaring. I feel I’m at a point in my life where I am ready for the next chapter. Sugaring has been so helpful in getting me where I need to be but it’s time to transition. I talk about hypergamy often, and it just seems like a more appropriate setting for me now. My experiences in the sugar bowl have really taught me a lot about men and the dynamics between men + women.
I have a few upcoming trips planned where I will have the opportunity to be around affluent people with millions/billions of dollars. I’ll still continue to document my journey because I’m sure it’ll be a wild ride. If you’re interested in hearing more about my decision and the reasons behind it, check put my podcast! The season finale episode is up now.
Unfortunately I have to change the set up of my episodes. The sugar/hypergamy related episodes will be available on my public platform until the start of season 2, and then I will be moving them to a private podcast space. It will still be on Brown Sugar Doc, The Podcast but limited access. This decision was made after a few classmates bombarded me at a party about a sugar date I went on. It was very bizarre but a necessary lesson learned. So to protect my sanity I’ll be continuing to document all things hypergamy related on my private podcast. I’ll still post on my regular pod but for the hypergamy listeners, I’ll continue the journey exclusively for us.
I love everyone who has joined me at any point on this journey. More to come!
This week we’re discussing labels. How the concept of identity goes hand in hand with creating your own reality. Does identity influence the way that we view and experience the world? Plus, a wellness check in and update about hypergamous dating while in medical school. If you tune in, let me know what you think!
You don’t want to miss this week’s episode about mindful communication strategies! We’ll also dive deeper and discuss topics of professionalism, how the term is changing, and where sex work falls in this change. Be open minded and see if any of your held perceptions are challenged.
Impacts when we don’t communicate mindfully
Professionalisms evolution over time
OnlyFans and sex work censorship
New era dating and terms
Reflection questions
It’s great to be posting again! My inbox is flooded with asks that I can’t wait to answer. Still getting settled into the new city but things are going great. Med school is busy af but finally finding a bit of a balance. Thinking of camming again until I build a solid roster here. Probably do an episode in the near future about it
As many people decide to change with all of the new year excitement, I finally decide this now in my birthday month. I promised myself to try new things and yesterday was the first of my new experiences: riding a motorbike. It was very scary (Im the type of person who is afraid to everything) but also very exciting and the guy who took me on a ride was very patient and handsome. He explain to me the most important rules to ride a motorbike and I had one of the best experiences of my life, I could watch the city with a completely different view.
