Do not come on my posts with “Black Women Are Superhuman Beings Who Can Handle Anything” takes. That’s a dangerous and reductive rhetoric rife with misogynoir. No, black women cannot take more negative and harmful attacks than other women can. Black women are not primed to withstand more attacks and harassment than women of other races. Stop. That is horrifying. Black women deserve grace, compassion, and a soft place to rest, not constant burdens.
End of the Year Reflection/Saying Goodbye To Sugar Dating
I meant to post this before the year ended but dating in med school has been incredibly demanding! I had a fling with a millie (one day I will meet my billie). I actually had to retake my block 2 exam because I was so wrapped up in the money I’ll record a podcast episode about it soon but for now here’s my reflection on last year and what I’m looking forward to in the future!
When I started this blog I was a newbie in the bowl. Had no idea what sugaring really took. Didn’t even realize the difficulties I would face as a brown sugar baby. Thought it would be so easy… I’m so grateful for all the experiences good and bad because they are part of my story. This year I really wanted to take my experiences to the next level. I was able to purchase an investment property with my sugar sis, start med school, elevate my business, had a wonderful sugar daddy, start healing from past traumas & forgive myselffor staying in an abusive relationships for so long (still very much a work in progress). I love counting my blessings because it reminds me of how far I’ve come and excites me about what has yet to come.
I love sharing my experiences and connecting with so many people who enjoy the same lifestyle and mental frequency. That being said, I’m saying goodbye to sugaring. I feel I’m at a point in my life where I am ready for the next chapter. Sugaring has been so helpful in getting me where I need to be but it’s time to transition. I talk about hypergamy often, and it just seems like a more appropriate setting for me now. My experiences in the sugar bowl have really taught me a lot about men and the dynamics between men + women.
I have a few upcoming trips planned where I will have the opportunity to be around affluent people with millions/billions of dollars. I’ll still continue to document my journey because I’m sure it’ll be a wild ride. If you’re interested in hearing more about my decision and the reasons behind it, check put my podcast! The season finale episode is up now.
Unfortunately I have to change the set up of my episodes. The sugar/hypergamy related episodes will be available on my public platform until the start of season 2, and then I will be moving them to a private podcast space. It will still be on Brown Sugar Doc, The Podcast but limited access. This decision was made after a few classmates bombarded me at a party about a sugar date I went on. It was very bizarre but a necessary lesson learned. So to protect my sanity I’ll be continuing to document all things hypergamy related on my private podcast. I’ll still post on my regular pod but for the hypergamy listeners, I’ll continue the journey exclusively for us.
I love everyone who has joined me at any point on this journey. More to come!
Top Luxury Inspiring Accounts You Need On Your Feed!
On this episode of The Top List, we’re going to go through my list of top 10 Luxury Inspiring Accounts to Follow for the level up journey. This week we have supporting visuals, so be sure to check out the video that accompanies today’s episode.
End of the Year Reflection/Saying Goodbye To Sugar Dating
I meant to post this before the year ended but dating in med school has been incredibly demanding! I had a fling with a millie (one day I will meet my billie). I actually had to retake my block 2 exam because I was so wrapped up in the money I’ll record a podcast episode about it soon but for now here’s my reflection on last year and what I’m looking forward to in the future!
When I started this blog I was a newbie in the bowl. Had no idea what sugaring really took. Didn’t even realize the difficulties I would face as a brown sugar baby. Thought it would be so easy… I’m so grateful for all the experiences good and bad because they are part of my story. This year I really wanted to take my experiences to the next level. I was able to purchase an investment property with my sugar sis, start med school, elevate my business, had a wonderful sugar daddy, start healing from past traumas & forgive myselffor staying in an abusive relationships for so long (still very much a work in progress). I love counting my blessings because it reminds me of how far I’ve come and excites me about what has yet to come.
I love sharing my experiences and connecting with so many people who enjoy the same lifestyle and mental frequency. That being said, I’m saying goodbye to sugaring. I feel I’m at a point in my life where I am ready for the next chapter. Sugaring has been so helpful in getting me where I need to be but it’s time to transition. I talk about hypergamy often, and it just seems like a more appropriate setting for me now. My experiences in the sugar bowl have really taught me a lot about men and the dynamics between men + women.
I have a few upcoming trips planned where I will have the opportunity to be around affluent people with millions/billions of dollars. I’ll still continue to document my journey because I’m sure it’ll be a wild ride. If you’re interested in hearing more about my decision and the reasons behind it, check put my podcast! The season finale episode is up now.
Unfortunately I have to change the set up of my episodes. The sugar/hypergamy related episodes will be available on my public platform until the start of season 2, and then I will be moving them to a private podcast space. It will still be on Brown Sugar Doc, The Podcast but limited access. This decision was made after a few classmates bombarded me at a party about a sugar date I went on. It was very bizarre but a necessary lesson learned. So to protect my sanity I’ll be continuing to document all things hypergamy related on my private podcast. I’ll still post on my regular pod but for the hypergamy listeners, I’ll continue the journey exclusively for us.
I love everyone who has joined me at any point on this journey. More to come!
Whether you’re sugar dating or vanilla dating, manipulation tactics are often used by both parties. This week’s episode takes a look into some of the most common manipulation tactics men use in the dating game.From personal experiences, accounts of other women, and even the men themselves I’ve compiled a list of the top male manipulation tactics. See if you can spot any of these tactics that may have been used on you in the past or that you’ve seen happen:
Texting endlessly with no real plans to meet
Asking for pics
Trying to get you to pick something cheap on the menu
Buying nice things to throw it in your face during an argument
Lovebombing
Lowering your expectations
“Leaving” without any real intention to leave
Backhanded compliments
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In the same way, not all colours suit our skin tone. Not all perfumes will marry our natural body smell.I used to buy perfumes based on what was trending at the moment.
Advertising and Marketing had a lot to do with that, but now I have a different approach that I am going to share in this blog post.
1.Don’t fall into the trap of Marketing
Sometimes, the packaging, the bottle, and the colours can seduce you and get you to buy a perfume before even you get to smell it.
But you really should not judge a book by its cover. I tried on perfume that had an incredible presentation but was not that great.
2.Shop for perfumes alone
When you go shopping with other people. It is easy to get distracted and eveninfluenced by their opinion. It is best to go perfume shopping alone. It’ll be easier for you to make the right choice for yourself. Without any noise or distraction around you to influence you.
3.Try the perfume on your Hand…
Wait a few hours to see how the perfume alchemizes with your natural body smell.If you still like the smell on your skin, you can safely purchase the perfume knowing that you will enjoy putting it on every day.
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Your bedroom should be your sanctuary, a quiet retreat for you to escape and feel safe at all times. It should be a place where you unwind after a busy day at the office; a room to be alone and focus on your thoughts.
Your bedroom should aim to be a comfortable, calming place you look forward to resting after a long day. If you want to upgrade the energy in your sleep area, check out these tips on how to turn your bedroom into a sanctuary that you’ll never want to leave.
Indulge Your Senses
Turn your bedroom into a sanctuary is by creating a sensory experience.The easiest way to do this is through your sense of smell. Grab your most delicious candle or diffuse your favourite essential oils to help set the right tone.
Fill up the room with soft, plushy materials, including rugs, pillows, and throw blankets, for some extra warmth and coziness.
Consider including a small area rug around your bed. This way, your toes have something soft and cozy to land on in the morning, just as soon as you wake up. Your feet will thank you!
Nature elements have a calming, meditative feel. perfect for your bedroom sanctuary.
Nature elements have a calming, meditative feel. perfect for your bedroom sanctuary.
And there are many creative ways these elements can be incorporated into your room to create a perfect bedroom sanctuary.
You can add potted plants or vases of fresh flowers, hang imagery of nature on the walls, or incorporate textured elements through bedding, rugs, or throw blankets.
Let the Light In!
Harsh lights can instantly kill the mood you’re trying to set. So avoid using fluorescent bulbs that wash out any semblance of serenity. Instead, opt for soft or natural light to brighten up your bedroom.
Even small actions like opening a window (even for a little bit in winter times) can dramatically change the mood in your room to something calmer and more inviting.
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True happiness starts within you and the projected outwards not the other way around. Happiness starts and ends with you. This leads to the long-lasting type of happiness that everyone should be seeking and actively building. In this post.
Poor Self Image ✨
The way you view yourself sets the tone for how others treat you. It’s important to build your confidence in who you are and own it unapologetically.
See yourself like a star and the most important people in life. Cultivate a healthy self-image and genuinely love yourself. It makes a world of difference when you do.
Comparison✨
Another thief of joy is comparing yourself to another person. This habit is not only unhealthy but also very detrimental to maintaining a healthy mindset about yourself. You can combat this by highlighting your strengths and working on what you consider your weaknesses.
Regrets✨
For me, I have tried my best to live a life with very few regrets. I don’t have regrets about past mistakes that may be seen as character flaws but rather about opportunities I never took. So the best I can do and will recommend for anyone is to take advantage of opportunities as they present themselves in life.
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Our dining habits reveals a lot about ourselves, attitude, and how we are perceived by others. Good table manners, as well as dining etiquette, are required qualities for every elegant feminine woman.
What are dining etiquette & manners?
Dining etiquette and manners are basic rules for behaviour around the table. The way we eat, the way we sit, the way we treat others, and even the type of conversations we hold are all part of table etiquette and manners.
Table etiquette around the world
You should be aware that dining etiquette can vary a great deal around the world. Different cultures have different norms and rules.
When you travel abroad, or as a guest, make an effort to learn and follow the local table manners.
Top 3 Table and Dining Etiquette tips
1.Switch your phone off
When you dine with others, you should always focus on communication and conversation. Constantly checking your phone can imply that you are more interested in your device than in the people around you. Don’t be rude!
If you have an urgent call that you cannot miss, politely excuse yourself from the table and take the call to another room.
2.Wait until everyone is served before you eat
It is important to wait until everyone has been served before eating any of your food. Take time to consider the feelings of those around you and wait before eating. If you are dining with family, friends, or your significant other, this rule applies.
3.Place the napkin on your lap
When you are sitting in a restaurant or any formal event, the first thing you should do after being seated is to put your napkin on your lap. Remember, once the napkin is on your lap it should never be placed on the table again. If you need to excuse yourself and leave the table for a moment, place the napkin on your chair until you get back. Before you leave the table – once the meal is finished – place the napkin delicately to the left of your plate.
Stay tuned for part 2! We’ll be going further in depth on the American, British and Conteniental styles of dinning etticate
Did you know that there are different clothing colours for your skin tone? Just like choosing jewelry, you can complement your complexion with the colours you wear! This process involves looking at your undertone, hair colour, and eye colour.
Typically, most people are placed into four different seasons or colour palettes. Check out this picture below to find colour palettes that can accentuate your skin tone.
Cool Hues
Summer Wardrobe Colors
If you got summer as your season, chances are you have blue veins or light-coloured eyes. It can be a bit confusing because we relate tanned skin to summertime. However, when it comes to wearing a summer colour palette, clothing looks best on those that contain cool undertones! You probably burn easily when out in the sun. Summer wardrobe colour palette that will feel the most vibrant will be muted colours with a cool hue. You will look great in Rosey-pink lipstick and may often wear sky blue.
Winter Wardrobe Colors
On the other hand, if you are a winter, you will have dark hair, dark eyes, and a cool undertone. This undertone must not be mistaken for being fair-skinned, but rather, your skin and hair often contrast harmoniously. Winters look best in sharp, contrasting colours. They will feel the most vibrant when wearing bright colours with a cool hue. You will look good in firecracker red lipstick. Wearing a navy blue will also look great on a winter-toned person.
Warm Hues
Spring Wardrobe Colors
In contrast to the seasons above, if you are a spring, you will have a warm skin undertone and will see your veins as green. Similar to Summer, you will have light hair and light eyes (this does not refer to the colour, but rather the brightness and dimension of your hair and eyes). Spring’s tend to tan easily and have a ‘yellow hue’ or golden look’ to them. True Springs look the most vibrant in bright colours with a warm hue. You will look good in orangey-red lipstick and may often wear aqua blue.
Autumn Wardrobe Colors
Autumns will also have warm skin undertones. Unlike springs, Autumns tend to have darker hair and eyes. Theywill also tan easily. True Autumns look the most vibrant in muted colours with a warm hue. You will look good in cranberry red lipstick and often wear teal blue. After taking the quiz I found out I’m a mix of autumn and spring Colours!
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If you began to notice that you’re keeping regular contact with fewer people than you did prior to your level up, there’s nothing to worry about. Losing friends while growing older is probably a good thing.
Here are some things you might experience as you get older and begin your level-up journey..
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What is low self Esteem..?
Low self-esteem is caused by feelings of unworthiness or the feeling that we are far behind where we are supposed to be in life. How did we come to decide that we are not good enough? How did we come up with the “ideal self” that we do not seem to attain?
4.Practice Gratitude
Be grateful for what you already have, be it your health, your family and friends, your home, the food you eat every day. Don’t take these things for granted.
5.Make time for yourself
Time is the most valuable thing we have because it is the only thing that no money on earth could buy. Do not spend with the wrong people! Time is better spent alone than with people who don’t appreciate and value your company.
6.Do not tolerate mediocrity from anyone!
The main reasons people tolerate mediocrity & bad behaviour. Is either because they view themselves as inferior based on superficialities or because they need validation from that person. People will only treat you the way you allow them to, so the way people treat you is your responsibility.
I think this whole “accept that you’re the problem” movement in feminine spaces is weird because women have always been socialized to take responsibility for things that both are and aren’t their fault. Bad date? It’s never that the man was trash, is that we chose the wrong man. Bad relationship? It’s never that some things don’t work out, it’s that we didn’t specify what we wanted. Didn’t get that promotion? It’s never that we tried our hardest but it went to someone else, it’s that we didn’t work hard enough. Stressed out? It’s never that we’re taking on too much, it’s that we didn’t manage our time well enough. In pain? It’s never that there’s something that might be wrong, it’s that we’re not exercising enough. Gaining weight? It’s never a normal reaction to aging or stress or hormones, it’s that we go out with our friends too often and eat pizza once a week. We even take responsibility for our parts in our own SA. I don’t think telling a bunch of girls all the time “You need to accept responsibility, you’re the reason you’re not where you want to be, you’ll never make it anywhere if you don’t realize this is all your fault, you have no one else to blame but yourself” is helpful at all, because chances are that they are already taking the blame for everything that happens in their lives, even the things that they shouldn’t be taking blame for. I really wish that we as a community would start giving actually helpful advice to people or just not give it at all, because no one is forcing us to write these “advice” posts.
