#so relevant
psa;Don’t make other people feel like crap for how they roleplay ever. For some roleplayers, this stopped being fun because they’re always getting crap. People have real lives. People make mistakes. It’s why we are human. Every single roleplayer I have come in contact with have been the sweetest people in the world so don’t ever make them feel like crap for how they chose to roleplay. They don’t tag their verses? That’s fine. They don’t answer your reply right away? That’s also fine. They use gifs instead of icons or vise versa? That’s just as fine. They don’t like fancy formatting? That’s cool. Just don’t ever make someone else feel like they don’t belong or shouldn’t be on simply because of how they chose to run their blog. It’s not your blog. It’s theirs. They can use it however they can. So do not ever make them feel like complete and utter crap for the way they’re running their blog. We’re supposed to be a community and sometimes, others can make people feel like they don’t belong. Please, just stop making people feel bad for what they chose to do. We’re all human, and we all do this because we want to have fun.
hey so protip if you have abusive parents and need to get around the house as quietly as possible, stay close to furniture and other heavy stuff because the floor is settled there and it’s less likely to creak
- socks are quieter than bare feet on tile/wood and for the love of god don’t wear slippers/shoes if you can help it
- climbing ON the furniture will disrupt the pattern of your footsteps and make it harder to hear where you are in the house
- crawling will do the same and if you get caught crawling you can pretend you fell
- the floor near the wall can be really loud if the floorboards/carpet is old and not completely flush to the wall
- do NOT attempt to use a rolling chair to travel without footsteps. they are extremely loud and hard to steer
test around ur house to see what places make more noises than others when people are gone if you can
-stepping using the outside line of your foot as first contact minimizes the sound of ur step significantly,
-tippy toes are a thing for a reason, but putting all ur weight on one spot tends to get loud quickly. Using the above method in conjunction with keeping the majority of ur weight on the balls of ur feet (vs just ur toes) can make u silent on all but the creakiest of floors.
-test ur socks before hand. Some slide or make more noise than others, and falling could be catastrophic.
-wear close fitting, soft cotton clothing. Denim and silk like clothes will make noise whatever you do, and limiting excess folds limits the sounds they make
-note where the shadows fall naturally at night, and all the small places you can hide on short notice. Ambient light is inevitable in urban areas, and keeping still in a small dark space will decrease the risk of being seen. Remember, the eyes is attracted to motion. Stay still, and with appropriate camouflage (i.e. couch arm rest covers, throw pillows, blankets) their eyes will pass right over you
-use ambient sounds to cover any sounds you might make. The sounds of the fan, air conditioner, heater, or radiator will go a long way to cover any flubs
-if you need to escape more permanently, prep squeaky doors before hand by unlocking and opening them to the point the don’t squeak or with a can of wd40, and double check that no doors are latched before you try to escape. These sounds, more than anything else, will wake people up.
-make your escape path beforehand, and stash what you need to take as close to ur exit as possible. This way, you’ll make less sound and not be red handed if u end up being caught
I used a lot of these to get food from the kitchen when my mom rehoused to let me eat. This is so important. Share this, it could be the difference between whether someone eats today
Flashlights on your phone can be great. If your abuser isn’t around you and the kitchen is away from there, you can shine a light to make sure you aren’t stepping on an animal or something that will make noise at night.
If you really need to escape, plan from every room. For example- If my mom starts doing bad shit to me I have a plan to climb out one of my windows that faces the side of the house and scootch along the side of the house to the one roof ish area and from there I will lower myself down.
Don’t risk jumping out windows. This almost never ends good.
Learn which windows have screens. Learn how to take the screens off.
If you really need a place to hide, hide in a big old pile of stuffed animals all the way at the bottom. I have done this in the past while playing hide and seek, and multiple times my siblings only walked past as they called for me.
establish a common word with your friends, not text wise because your abuser may read your messages, so if you text them like “ Hey, did you see that rainbow today while you walked home?” So they know to call the police, or you can set it up where it’s an alert that you’re on your way to their house.
If you’re afraid of an attack in your room, keep a blunt object near your bed. May it be something not to obvious like a waterbottle full of water or maybe you have a dining table leg like my parents have downstairs next to the door. Just remember any weapon you can use against them, they can use against you.
•Regarding apartment settings and apartment complexes and other tips if running away from abusers•
•Walls tend to be extremely thin and sounds will pass easily through them so be careful if you are passing by them.•
•If your parents/guardians start abusing you in the hallways, parking lots, near the entrance of your apartment, be LOUD. Sound echoes in areas like that because of how close the structures are and someone will alert to police or come to assist you.•
•Ground floor victims, see if you have a basement. Chances are, if you go down, there will be a small escape on a wall which leads to a small sewer-like tunnel leading to level ground. This is typically used for fires but you can use it if you need to escape. Make sure to watch out for squeaky windows because these exits rarely get used.•
•Locate your “safe areas” once you’re out. Safe areas are public places where you are guaranteed to have care. Many single moms leave their unwanted/unable to care children in places because officials must take them. Safe places are police stations and fire houses. CHURCHES ARE NOT SAFE AREAS. They may seem like a cozy area but they are not safe areas.•
•If you are in an emergency situation where you need to cause panic to escape inside your home, see if you can locate sprinklers inside your home. Sprinklers will spray water if they detect smoke and high temperatures so if you can trigger them, they’ll start spraying water, giving you a perfect chance to escape through the chaos.•
•If you are planning on running away, prepare a crap ton of water if you plan to be moving by foot. You can last a month living on nothing but water but once you run out of water, you will not survive a week.•
•Be wary if you plan to run away to relatives. If you suddenly disappear, your abusers may suspect a kidnapping and the first place police check are relatives.•
•Scissors are a great weapon if you can’t fight. Scissors are pretty useless weapons, but the human mind sees the blades and recognizes as a sharp and dangerous object, even if it can’t cut anything. It might get your abuser to stop and listen to what you say if you’re wielding scissors. And they’re not suspicious objects to be carrying around at home or outside, if put inside a pencil case.•
•DO NOT EVER DROP ANY HINTS OR NOTES IF YOU ARE RUNNING AWAY.•
•Put your phone on airplane mode once you are out and moving. People can easily track your phone down if your wi-fi and other uses are on. It’s much difficult to locate you and your phone if airplane mode is on.•
•If you are trapped in a building and your abusers have hidden food from you, use nature. Do you have ants in your house? Follow them. Mice? Listen to where they seem to frolic the most at night. Cockroaches and fruit flies? Likewise.•
•Use nature as well to find out times and such if you are stranded once you have run away. Certain birds mean certain times. Dandelions are useful as fuck. The flowers shrivel up when sunlight starts to disappear so you have an idea of when night fall is.•
•When nightfall hits, find WARM GROUND. You are much more likely to catch hypothermia and such from sleeping on cold ground than cold air.•
•If you play an instrument regularly inside an apartment complex, it might play to your advantage. If neighbors realize that they can’t hear you practice for several days- or weeks- on end, they might become suspicious and report it. Especially if they have been suspecting abuse beforehand.•
•I typically don’t post things like this, but this can save a life.•
This is SO IMPORTANT
this bird imitating r2d2 is the cutest thing ive ever seen
What a nerd
He’s even the right colors.
do you realize this bird is a fan of R2D2. this bird heard R2D2′s sounds & decided it sounded like something that should be imitated. this bird is a star wars fan and made the choice to do a bird equivalent of cosplay
@fishwrites omg omg omg
This is important.
You must watch this video. Please don’t scroll past. This is important af.
This doggo has the chubbiest cheeks you will ever see! not even fazed…15/10
- boys being the little spoon am i RIGHT, ladies and gents
Just because someone isn’t currently in a poly relationship doesn’t mean they’re not poly.
Just like sexual orientation or gender identity, being poly is an /identity/. That doesn’t ever turn off. That’s like saying someone isn’t gay because they’re not actively in a gay relationship.
Just thought I’d put that out there, a lot of people seem to have problems with this.
when you go from a bad situation into a better one you may collapse exhausted and unsure what to do and full of grief, you may need time to regain the ability to do things as yourself or motivated by anything other than terror, you may need time to process or mourn or fall apart in ways you could not before,
and people may use this as proof that the old situation was better for you, proof that you need to go back, and it is not proof that it was better for you or proof that you need to go back
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It’s so incredibly common to “fall apart” when you’re finally safe. You no longer need to stay so tightly coiled in on yourself, you can finally leave survival mode and process your trauma. You’re not holding yourself up by sheer terror anymore and suddenly the damage that terror has done to you becomes immediate and obvious.
This is so important. Don’t go back. Things are already getting better, even if it doesn’t feel that way.
