rivermayne:

Just a quick reminder…

If you live in the United States (I don’t know about other countries) you have the right to start a GSA (gay-straight alliance) at your school, as long as your school allows clubs

I gotta be honest, at this point I am practically begging the internet to derive pleasure from anything other than schadenfreude.

Hi! It’s been a while since I last posted. So first of all, this is me. I didn’t look the same at all when I was writing here.

I wanted everyone to know that things won’t Always be bad. But you heard this too many times. Good things won’t last, and things won’t always be good either. It’s how life works and you have to deal with it. You have to start and continue to love yourself more than everything else. Cause the only person who will always be here for you is yourself. You are the only one who are making bad choices most of the time, but it’s normal even when it’s really bad choices, trust me I kept doing bad choices and I will continue. But less and less. Because I’ve decided to choose myself, the things I really want and need and love.

I might still post the sad things from before. But I’ll mostly post things I like.

Love,

Charlotte

So it’s 2018.. HOW IS IT 2018? Wasn’t it just 2015? Anyway, I digress. Happy New Year everyone! I hope 2017 didn’t suck all of the life out of you and you still have something left to give 2018… For me personally, 2017 had some ups and downs, but I think I am looking forward to what 2018 has to offer, because I have figured out little ways to stay on top of the game. 

New year new you right? I want to start the year off by talking about how to set goals for the new year (or in general, if you aren’t really a New Year New Me type of person). Personally, setting goals for the year allows me to stay focused throughout the year and work towards what is important to me. What you must realize is that even though you may have a set of goals you are working towards, life doesn’t always follow the straight and narrow path, so leave room for change and diversions. That being said, here are some tips I use to set my goals - both personally and professionally

Think broadly - Figure out which aspects of your life need improvement - When you are setting goals for the year, you should definitely be thinking broadly in a way that looks at various aspects of your life - your spiritual life, relationships (familial, platonic and romantic), your career, your finances, your health and more specifically your mental health / well being. Take each aspect and think about what you want to achieve. Do you want to save a specific amount of money? Do you want to improve your relationship with your family? your spouse? your girlfriends? Pick 3 - 4 things you want to focus on and figure out how you can set goals to improve those aspects of your life 

Write it down - Be specific! Make sure you are putting down specific goals, that way you are more accountable to yourself when it comes to evaluation. If you just write ‘save more’, at the end of the year, if you have saved 10ghc more than you did last year will you consider that an achievement? Be specific with your goals - ‘Save 70% more than last year’, ‘Savings account should be at xxx,xxx by the end of the year’, ‘Save xxx per month’. When you are writing down your goals think about HOW you are going to achieve them. If you write down ‘Be a positive person’, how are you going to achieve this? Be specific! Think about ‘Practice gratitude everyday - write down one thing I am grateful for each day’, or ‘Do not swear when drivers cut me off on the road’ or ‘Stop complaining about work’. These specific goals are easier to achieve and in the long run will get you closer to where you need to be. 

Measure yourself - Take the time every quarter to evaluate yourself and to see if you are achieving anything. There is no point in writing down goals and tucking them away under the bed for the year. It is important to constantly refer back to your goals to see how you are faring. Hold yourself accountable! Sometimes, you will realise that you may need to adjust some goals, especially those that are too broad and may be difficult to achieve in the short term. Keep a reminder close by to constantly be aware that you have something you need to achieve!

Reflection & Evaluation - You should take the time (usually at the end of the year) to write down what you have achieved (even if they do not directly pertain to your foals) and which goals you were unable to achieve. Now the fun part, you should take a minute to figure out why you were unable to achieve certain goals and what you can do different to achieve them next year. There will be some goals that you probably didn’t touch at all and there will be some that you halfheartedly attempted to conquer. Figure out WHY. 

Some goals to consider for 2018 

• Practice gratitude daily - write down 1 thing you are grateful for everyday 
  
• Drink 3 Litres of water per day
  
• Excersice for at least 20 mins everyday 
  
• Read a book for at least 20 mins everyday 
  
• Check on a friend you don’t speak to often at least once a month
  
• Save at least 50% of your income 
  
• Limit alcohol intake - once / twice a week only 
  
• Take 1 hour per week for self care - face mask, pedicure, paint your nails 

I hope this helps someone, I have been using these tips to set goals for myself in the last 2 years and I think we are making some progress. If you want to chat specifically about somethings you would like to achieve and how, send me an email at [email protected], I am always happy to help! 

Until next time, stay fly!

xx

Sharms

jehovahhthickness:

jehovahhthickness:

I don’t know who needs to hear this but you weren’t meant to be fucking skinny and that’s okay.

Being “fit” looks different on everybody.

Some body types will never ever be “skinny” or “thin” unless they’re malnourished. That is the fucking hill I’m willing to die on.

ftonews:

Keep your eyes open. This fight isn’t over. We will get real peace.

Being in loving long term d/s relationship means that your Saturday nights are filled with amazing sex with with a beautiful, obedient, passionate sexual creature that knows your every desire.

Or a night filled with clearing out the garage, shopping for household staples on Amazon, checking Tumblr before sleeping in the guest bed room, while said wife cuddles in your bed with a kid, getting over their shared fever.

You know, basically the same thing.

To all the students out there preparing or filling out college applications: don’t freak out.

Take it from me - no matter where you go, you will not be unhappy. College is a pretty big deal, but where you go will not dictate your life and your experiences. Here are some words of advice:

1. Only apply to schools you feel confident about. Applying to schools that don’t have your major or interests is a waste of time, energy, and money. Apply to schools you would be proud to attend and can see yourself at. This was a struggle for me - I wasn’t accepted into my dream school, but my backup school was still one I would be comfortable with attending (I know I didn’t come off that way on this blog).

2. Don’t lie on applications. You want a university to want you for YOU, not for this made up person on paper (or, in most cases, online). Of course, bring out your best qualities and characteristics, but don’t go telling a school you are the president of a club or founded a group, if it isn’t true. Be you!

3. Don’t get stressed if you don’t get into your first choice. That was me. I was crushed and felt sad, which is normal and OK. That was something people often forget to mention: it’s okay to be sad about college. There are so many other universities out there (approx. 2,169!) and you will find one that you will fall in love with.

4. Make the best of the school you’re at. I thought I would hate my school, but after being here for two weeks, I’m realizing that I do like it. I like the city (town), the school, and the people. Give it some time. And if you’re going to your first choice, don’t go in with extremely high expectations. Be realistic, but still have fun!

Good luck to everyone sending out applications this fall and winter. You’ll all do great!

Fin.

All I ask is for a woman who deserves to be treated like a lady but who loves to be fucked like a whore.

Is that too much to ask?

I posted this on Fetlife quite a while ago, but felt the need to re-post it in other places so that people who aren’t on Fetlife can find it as well. I’ve edited this a bit and added some information that I’ve learned since originally posting this. Hope everyone finds it helpful!

I can’t claim to be an expert on what is correct and incorrect play etiquette when it comes to the scene, but I feel like not enough people actually ever talk about it. Sure, most play parties have an established set of rules that everyone follows, but it I feel like play etiquette goes far beyond just being polite and the whole SSC (Safe, Sane, Consensual) and RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink). There’s just a lot of things people don’t really know or talk about and, when you’re new to the scene and public play, don’t really dawn on you as something that could be potentially seen as rude or uncomfortable.

THE GOLDEN RULE: Don’t be a douche bag. If you think that your behavior may come off as slightly jerk-baggy, it probably is.

GOLDEN RULE II: The house rules are always to be respected. If it’s your first time going to a venue, ask someone what the rules are. Rules that apply to one place may not apply to others. (Example: Most venues in my community are sex positive, but I know that venues in Washington DC or NY aren’t.) All venues have their rules written out somewhere and someone who has been there before will happily show them to you. Not following these rules is grounds for expulsion from the event, banning from the venue and you being labeled in the community as someone who doesn’t play by the rules.

1. Talking to people while they are in the middle of a scene. Generally, if I’m watching a scene or I know people who are participating in a scene together, I don’t try to talk to them until after they are done or if they approach me first. A lot of times, I don’t want to break the energy the scene is building, the concentration of the Top or the subspace/headspace of the bottom. And really, is whatever you want to say to someone who’s in the middle of a scene that important that it can’t wait? I personally don’t like it when someone comes up in the middle of a scene and starts talking to Daddy. We do a lot of suspension work and, as much as I trust him with my life, I need him to be paying full attention to the rigging and rope work to make sure I stay safe.

2. It’s okay to say, ‘no’. A lot of times, a lot of people are afraid to say no when it comes to public play; instead, they go into wishy-washy mode. If you don’t want to play with someone, just say no. You don’t have to be rude about it and it won’t hurt the others feelings. In fact, stringing them along with a bunch of excuses and 'uhmmmms….“ and "eeerrrrrrs…” is much worse.

When negotiating before a scene, don’t just go along with anything if you aren’t comfortable with something, As a bottom, you definitely have to be able to express what your limits are. If a Top can’t respect your limits, maybe playing with them isn’t the best idea. Tops also get a ridiculous amount of pressure as well. As a Top, you should be able to say, “No, I don’t want to do this.” The scene you’re about to be in is also YOURS, you have the right to agree or disagree with anything during negotiations. If a bottom is making you feel pressured, you shouldn’t feel like you have to play.

Side note: Unless otherwise pre-negotiated, saying 'no’ in a scene does not necessarily constitute a safe word.

3. Respect the play space (Reiteration of Golden Rule II). You’ve been lucky enough to be invited to a lovely party, one of the best things you can do is respect the play space. It’s super important to clean up after yourself. Condoms, training pads and plastics are meant to be used, so why not use them? Even if they are your own toys and your own body fluids, not everyone is so comfortable with them. Disinfecting an area after play takes less than a minute to do and everything is provided by the party: sweat, blood, tears and other fluids can be anywhere. Make sure all your used condoms and things that have touched bodily fluids make it to the trash can.

When I finish using a play space, I try to clean up quickly and receive my aftercare somewhere else. I know other people are waiting to use the same play space and I don’t want to be the one holding up the use of it. On the other hand, I usually am a bit lost in subspace when cleaning up my messes, so please be understanding if I do NOT clean up fast enough for your liking. Asking me, “Can you hurry up?” is a million times more rude than, “Are you still using this area?”

Also important is respecting the intention of the space. Most play parties are designed to have play areas and social areas separate. A direct quotation from my good friend, CurtisMercury on FL: “Talking (loudly) with your friends seven feet from where a scene is going on is just so disrespectful. If your conversation is more important than what is going on there, please please please take it elsewhere. Respectful voyeurism is a wonderful thing. I wish people practiced it more. Vise versa, playing in a social space is also rude, IMO. Spankings have their time and place, ya know? Often, having a social area puts those who are new at ease in a potentially scary environment. You don’t want to be the asshole that scares away that new person, do you? Its easy to get into what you want to do but think about others around you, especially in a vanilla environment. To the unassuming eye, what you are doing could very well look nonconsensual.”

4. Asking for permission is always a good thing. Sometimes, being in a play party or with kink people in general, you feel a lot more welcome to do things you normally wouldn’t do. That’s a perfectly acceptable feeling, but don’t think that everyone feels the same way. It’s acceptable to want to hug every stranger in the room: it’s not acceptable to do so without asking them if they are comfortable with it. If you ask someone if it’s alright to touch them, even it’s in a non-sexual manner, like a hug, they will feel so much more comfortable around you.

If you want to play with someone or scene with someone who came to the party with a date/their significant other/their play partner, why not ask both of them if it’s okay to play, even if you only want to play with one person? It just seems polite to let everyone who is involved with each other what your intentions are.

5. Play parties are not dating services! This isn’t the place to pick up a date or a fuck buddy or grab a live in 24/7 slave. If you come in with that kind of mind-set, I don’t think you’ll make it very far. It makes people feel very uncomfortable when you come to parties with that kind of intention and you’ll be labeled a creeper really quickly. 

I’m sure there are bunches of other things I could write about. If you want to add anything, please feel free to as a comment below :D

selfhelpforstudents:

1.     Organize your study space

• Organizing your study space is really important. Avoid starting to study before that because getting up to get things you don’t have at hand will distract you. I have my own “desk organization list”. Laptop, iPad, Apple Pencil, earphones, water, fruits, my pencil case, my folders, paper, etc.

2.     Make a plan and get control of your calendar

• Make a to do list and plan everything out. When exactly are your exams?  How many days do you want to study for each subject? Which subject needs more time? Etc., etc.

3.     Mistakes are good

• When studying we do make mistakes sometimes. I hate it. You hate it. Yes, it’s awful. But they are GOOD. You learn from them. A short anecdote of my life: If I didn’t make the mistake of dating a complete idiot, I probably would not have learned that bad boys really aren’t that great haha.

4.     Find examples

• To really understand something, you should find examples. E. g. if you are learning about some kind of criminal law, look up cases. If you are studying about the business cycle, look up examples of different countries. Is the US in a boom? Or a depression? Has it been in a depression before? What was that like?

5.     Test yourself

• Quizz yourself. This is the most important thing when studying something by heart or learning a language. Get your flashcards out of your pocket!  And quizz yourself every single day!

6.     Take regular breaks and sleep for 8 hours

• I know, studying is important. But what is even more important is your health. Don’t drain yourself. You got this. Don’t worry! Take a short break after 25 minutes every time. Just a short one. Allow yourself to breath and close your eyes. Your brain needs sleep and breaks to function!

7.     Study before going to sleep

• A numerous amount of studies have found out that the brain processes a lot of things while sleeping. This can be very beneficial to us! Study for a few minutes before going to bed or revise what you have studied that day. It will help you remember it better.

8.     Eat good foods

• I know you don’t want to hear this… A pizza is quite nice. But is it good for you? Probably not. Food is fuel. But we need good fuel to function properly. Eat nutritious foods and be good to your body. It really needs a healthy diet to maintain your health and stay happy. Also: Your brain needs calories. Don’t starve yourself. Aaaand, remember to drink enough water. I recommend watching “The Game Changers” on Netflix.

9.     Exercise

• Working out can be extremely beneficial to you. Not just for your physical strength but also for your mental health and productivity, studies have found. Going for a run or going to the gym can increase your overall well-being! So let’s go! I’m getting ripped tonight, RIP that… umm sorry.

10.  Be kind to yourself

• Last but not least, please be kind to yourself. Don’t beat yourself up. Everything is going to be fine. You are not alone. You are loved. You are worthy. Please remember that! I love you.

IIf you are struggling right now, please join our self help group on Discord. We’re doing self help “group therapy” calls and „live study with me‘s“. We’re stronger together. I’m also working on a website to help students with studying and mental health issues.

I am also currently looking for a job and I would like to tutor German online. So hit me up if you know someone who could use a German tutor. <3

Love, Sophia

So, I’m not sure what’s gonna happen to tumblr, and really, this is the platform I use the most, as my drawings fit here.

My Instagram is katigrins, and I’ve been mainly posting work doodles. I’d need to do some intense reformatting to get my comics to fit properly over there.

I don’t have a Twitter, is it any good for posting longer comics?