Tips with coping with the pandemic at home ~ using astrology
*Part 3 - randomised order of water, fire, earth and air signs + houses
*Somenon-professional advice to those who are struggling to cope with staying at home using astrology
Planets in Libra/7th House
*Focus on your relationships whether that’s in your household or online*
- Call, Skype, Facetime or Houseparty your friends and loved ones - Keep in contact with everyone. Maybe catch up with someone you haven’t talked to in a long time.
- Take time to think about the relationships you have with others.
- Maybe try to think about resolving conflicts with enemies, if it’s still bothering you.
- If you’re staying with people in your home, use your time to spend quality time with them- build your relationship with them.
- Maybe write a letter to someone or emails(romantic if you are in an intimate relationship).
- Work on creating harmony in the home
Planets in Sagittarius/9th House
*Increase your knowledge on different Cultures, religious practices and beliefs online*
- Keep up to date with what’s happening politically around the world
- Look up different spiritual practices, religious beliefs and cultures that interest you.
- Watch videos and documentaries of different countries you wish to travel to.
- Start learning a new language
- Cook recipes from different cultures.
- Maybe start talking to people who are from another country or culture online.
Planets in Capricorn/10th House
~Build your Image~
- A great time to connect with your father or authority figures in your life (unless you have negative aspects)
- Start a youtube channel on or post your daily routine or new hobbies or talents you’ve developed in quarentine.
- Think about whether there is anything that life has taught you or may have taught you. Confronting past struggles may help you to feel more content with yourself.
- If you are in a household with others, maybe take on the role as the responsible individual who can give others helpful and mature advice.
- Keep a diary and develop routine schedules to help you stay busy
- Build your public image online/express yourself online
Planets in Pisces/12th House
~Be Artistic, Use your imagination~
- Practise Meditation and Yoga
- Do things at home that are kind and giving, it’s the little things that matter.
- Keep a dream journal and keep track of your dreams.
- Draw, create art, write stories/ delve into artistic pursuits at home.
- Create your own dance routines/Express yourself through dance.
- Listen to music- explore different artists and genres
*Part 2 - randomised order of water, fire, earth and air signs + houses
*Some non-professional advice to those who are struggling to cope with staying at home using astrology
planets in the 1st House/Aries
*New Beginnings*
- practice indoor exercise and meditation. High intensity work out sessions will help to healthily release all the energy.
- Start something new, a new routine, a new hobby, a new goal
- express yourself over video
- Throw a photo shoot
- dress uppp!!!
- Dance or practise some pilates indoors. Get physical.
planets in the 2nd House/Taurus
*Self-love*
- create a comforting home space with all your favourite items, and all the things that trigger the senses - looks good, feels good, and smells good. Create your own indoor luxury retreat
- plan your own little self-love day, run yourself a scented bubble bath with scented candles, apply a face mask, paint your nails, do anything that makes you feel comforted and beautiful, positively triggering your senses.
- Start a notebook writing about all the many things you love about yourself
- Practise and make plenty of time for your talents, find them if you are unsure of what your talents are.
- Sing your heart out to your favourite songs
planets in the 3rd House/Gemini
*Learn something new*
- Communicate with people over Phone, video call and online. You could communicate with people by writing posts on social media or just generally talking to people in your household or on social media, via phone.
- Research or read about anything worth learning. Learn something new whether it’s events in history, facts about historical icons or celebrities, a new language, a new skill, anything. You have the opportunity to learn anything right now.
- Practice meditation, focus on your mind and how it works.
- If you aren’t living with them, keep in contact your siblings or cousins.
planets in the 8th House/Scorpio
*delve deep into the taboo*
- Research and read up about taboo subjects and deep topics of life and one’s existance.
- Sit in a quiet room alone, or your own private spot and dive deep into your thoughts.
- indulge in sexual exploration at home.
- stay in contact or spend time with the people you share close intimate bonds with.
- throw yourself a fright night
- create a secret diary or something that you can keep hidden and private.
Tips with coping with the pandemic at home ~ using astrology
*Part 1 - randomised order of water, fire, earth and air signs + houses
*Somenon-professional advice to those who are struggling to cope with staying at home using astrology
Planets in the 4th House/Cancer
*Explore your roots*
- Tap into your role of the mother/nurturer whether that is online or in your home. You might have the ability to help people who are struggling emotionally during this time.
- update and improve your living environment
- Rearrange your furniture and items at home
- Contact family members over phone, video call or social media. You could even start a family group chat.
- Start exploring your family history/ancestry online
- Create a Photo album full of photos of your memories, whether that is photos of memorable times with your family, parents or anything that makes you smile
- Be mindful and appreciative of anything that makes you smile in your present environment, it could be a sentimental item, just being appreciative of your home or someone you live with.
Planets in the 5th House/Leo
~ Get Creative ~
- Blast some music and throw yourself a party at home alone or whilst facetiming friends/get involved with an online party (video chat).
- create mini creative movies, dance videos or fun, silly videos
- Watch creative videos on youtube
- Start a youtube channel showing off your creative talents
- binge watch netflix or throw yourself a movie night
- Choreograph your own dance routine
- Try and fit in your hobbies at home, find creative ways of taking part in hobbies at home
- Learn how to play a musical instrument or a creative skill at home by researching or watching videos online
Planets in the 6th House/Virgo
*Be of service*
- Be of service somehow, to yourself and others. Volunteering to help out in the pandemic or helping your friends and people online or over phone who are struggling to cope with it all. Make sure you are practising self care too.
- Work from home
- Write a to-do list or create a planner to start a healthy routine and work-schedule
- Work out, meditate and practice yoga or pilates at home / watch videos online to help you do this
- Watch health videos and read about how to stay healthy at home
- Find some books to read (this could be online) of your interest.
- Look after your pets
- Research accurate information online and post advice online for others to stay healthy and well during this time.
Planets in the 11th House/Aquarius
~ be a part of an online community~
- Join an online chat room
- Join an online community, meet people online that share similar interests to you
- call and facetime friends / video chat more than one person
- start writing down your positive hopes and wishes for the future in a notebook
- spread awareness on how to help others suffering from the pandemic or maybe even get involved in helping people suffering from the pandemic through being a part of an online community helping others who are struggling.
- Keep up to date and conscious with what’s going on around the world and let your voice be heard
- Research and look up charities and organisations to be a part of online or in the future.
“We will never be the same again. But here’s a little secret for you—no one is ever the same thing again after anything. You are never the same twice, and much of your unhappiness comes from trying to pretend that you are. Accept that you are different each day, and do so joyfully, recognizing it for the gift it is. Work within the desires and goals of the person you are currently, until you aren’t that person anymore, and everything changes once again.”
— (Cecil, Welcome to Night Vale, Episode 75) That is legitimately some of the most helpful advice I’ve ever heard. (viasleuths)
one of the big concepts I learned in therapy that has been fucking revolutionary for me is the concept that sometimes u can just feel feelings and they don’t have to mean anything.
like, I can just be sad about something for a little while because it feels cathartic and helpful to let myself be sad, and it doesnt have to mean anything or change how I act or treat people.
like sometimes u just need to feel an emotion in order to process and work through things, and sometimes it just feels good to let urself be sad about a silly or little thing. and then once its out its over, uve experienced it and now it is done so u can move on.
and I dont have to derive greater meaning from it or do anything about it. i was just sad for a few hours and now i feel better and that’s all that matters.
My boyfriend and I got into a small argument a few days ago. I was needing reassurance and I have trust issues. I broke down, sobbing and absolutely manic over something so small. I didn’t want to lose him. I love him so much. Finally, I looked him in the eyes and apologized. I loved him before, but I knew I loved him when he did this:
It was late and I was exhausted so I went to sleep in our bed. He thought it was best for him to sleep on the couch. Before he left, he covered me up with the blankets, kissed my forehead and said “i love you”. Later on I woke up and found him sleeping next to me. I knew I loved him before we had an argument and I knew I loved him after. One single “fight” could of blown out of proportion and lead to us potentially breaking up. In a relationship, shit gets hard. It’s not always sex, cuddling and lovey shit. Sometimes you have to be an adult and apologize. You have to move on. You have to push past it.
When you take the “easy way out” and wait for your dreams to magically appear, you ultimately miss out on the huge amount of personal growth that comes from chasing a goal step-by-step and enjoyingtheprocess. Actively working toward the changes you want to make, will inevitably bring about other changes. It is like a ripple-like effect of changes & growth through every element of your life.
Now that I’ve had this realization, life is better than I ever could have imagined. It takes a little extra “umph” and a lot of exhausted nights, but it’s all worth it to live your dreams and watch previously unfathomable things happen before your eyes.
There’s just no way of knowing what’s out there or what’s in store for you. Carpe diem!
Manifestation does not work by the voodoo of magic, rather by the principle of “you will move in the direction which you think about the most; you will accomplish the goals which you invest the most energy in.”
I have been distracted from our bus by the social life of the farm and my obsession with learning language. I can’t stop thinking about the world, so massive and far. The lure of aimless travel, endless opportunities to learn and experience.
Remember, I tell myself, you must take your dreams one at a time…
Embrace this page of the story before you read too far ahead.
So my date with Nicholas Sparks got pushed back to this week but I’m surprisingly optimistic. He has deleted his profile since arranging to meet with me and has already begun financial negotiations with me. I’m aiming for 3x a month with a 10-12k allowance. So far, he seems pretty game.
In other life news that is somewhat related to sugaring but not really, I got a ridiculous promotion at work. While I’m getting quite a good chunk of change, I will be making more than 6 figures by the end of this year. I’m so ridiculously excited and happy, seeing as I’m only 22 and things seem to be going so well for me. I absolutely adore my work, the people, and the companies I work for. Plus, this work has me travel a lot to do what I do best: schmoozing older men. My boss initially saw this at the conference we were working at together and he noticed all of the men that came through our studio gravitated towards me. I could make them feel comfortable and at ease before their interviews so he decided to capitalize on the opportunity.
And, I noticed a lot of this professional development made me extremely attractive in the sugaring and regular dating world. When men ask me what I do, they’re thoroughly impressed. I certainly didn’t think I was dumb before, but now I feel like I can go on a whole other level with the men I meet. I can demand more from the company I keep plus my network keeps expanding. I have all of these great opportunities to meet CEOs and millionaires. I’m better at talking to them and creating what they need.
So if there’s any SB advice to be pulled from my personal experience: Girls, get your education and professional life together. It is amazing how much the world opens up to you when men no longer see you as a helpless girl. They begin to see you as an equal or at the very least, a woman who’s racing her way to the top. When you’ve got your shit together, trust me, it shows. And the right people will gravitate towards that.
i was wondering if anyone knew how to navigate a friend who has a transphobic “opinion”
this is all serious, not hypothetical, but i will be using different names because i love my friend dearly
my friend Vicky is a cis woman (detrans’d from male if that matters???? i dont think it does) who thinks that not wanting to date trans people because they are trans is valid and okay
this is an opinion that to me is transphobic, so we dont see eye to eye. but Vicky is very trans positive, and very supportive of mine and my parters transitions and trans rights and everything. but that one opinion really sticks out to me
i dont know how to navigate this with her at all. i dont want to give up on our friendship over just that, but i dont know if maybe it is worth losing a friend over. any advice would be helpful right now
I’ve been a part of a poly relationship for about a year now, we are all busy people and so we made a rough schedule for spending time together. Torvald and I always hang out on Wednesdays as it’s the only day that consistently works for both of us. He works late Monday, plays games with his friends and primary (we’ll call her Jespor) on Tuesday. I spend time with my primary (unrelated to Torvald or Jespor) on Thursday, and Sunday. He spends Thursday and Friday with Jespor. And we all three spend time together Saturday. But today he told me that he wouldn’t be able to hang out on Wednesdays anymore because he wants to watch a TV show the night it airs for the foreseeable future (with Jespor). I feel very hurt by this. I understand I’m not as important as she is and I probably don’t have any right to be upset, but I feel like I’m being shoved aside for something that could easily be done the next day. He said I might be able to come over for a little bit after the show gets over, but that would be fairly late and I work early and it makes me feel like a booty call. I don’t know how to communicate this to him without coming across as controlling or needy. Plus I feel like making a big deal out of this will make spending time with me feel like a chore. These are my best friends and I don’t want things to turn out badly.
This is likely a case of the “message sent” being different from the “message received.” The only thing he told you is that he can’t hold Wednesday nights as your hang out time any longer, but you received a lot of messages about your importance to him and how much he values your time together.
Which is understandable - I’m not saying that you’re wrong to feel hurt! Just that it’s important to engage with the things he’s actually saying and doing.
There are plenty of ways to bring this up with Torvald without being “controlling” or “needy.” Let him know that you really value your one-on-one time with him, and since it’s not going to work out on Wednesdays anymore, see if he can work with you to come up with a solution. It’s really great to have standing weekly dates with important people, but life changes and schedules do shift. Is it possible for you to hang out with him on Thursdays and shift date nights with your primary to Wednesdays? Or, since he’s adding another day with Jespor, could Fridays become your night?
It’s OK to ask other people in your life, including your other partners, to make adjustments. Adult life and real world relationships often require this sort of flexibility. Holding a night of the week for someone’s schedule is not a lifelong commitment and everyone involved is entitled to make changes. Someday someone else will really want to take a class that only meets on Tuesday evenings, or get a promotion that requires them to work late on Thursdays. Managing this with grace and without taking things personally will be important.
It’s also completely fine to talk to Torvald about how this makes you feel less important and pushed aside - without accusing him of actually devaluing you or pushing you aside - and let him know what would help you feel more secure and cherished in the relationship. If you can’t spend quality time together in the evenings, what kind of connection is important to maintain? Is there a way to make hanging out later in the evenings not feel like a “booty call?”
You say that you’re afraid that bringing this up will make you “seem” a certain way or that it will “make” Torvald feel a certain way. Remember that you are not psychic! If Torvald is someone who is dating you, it’s likely that he enjoys spending time with you, he doesn’t resent you for desiring his attention and affection, and that he wants you to be honest with him about your desires and feelings. If he acts in a way that demonstrates anything else, don’t date this person. Partners should always welcome this kind of honesty, and anyone who punishes you for it is not someone you ought to be dating.
You’re also well within your rights to ask him if he would be willing to wait 24 hours and watch the show with her on Thursdays. Again, he might not realize how important this is for you, or he might not have communicated something important about the fandom experience he wants to have. But none of that can happen without a conversation! Don’t frame it as a “confrontation” or a “demand,” just an open dialogue about how you’re feeling and what you’re wanting. Let him respond in his own way - either by collaborating with you to find a compromise that works for everyone, or by demonstrating that he’s not willing to do that and thus not someone worth dating.
I’m lost in my connections atm. My current partner and I have a nesting relationship with his wife and two kids. This situation has lasted for over 2 years. I have two ldr partners as well. My nesting situation has been filled with empty promises, lack of commitment, and metamour jealousy. My nesting partner tells me I’m the only reason he has pulled through the last two years, but I feel like I’m slowly trapping myself and I don’t know if it’s just anxiety. The kids see me as a second mom and I’m the main pet provider too. An ldr has wanted me to move in for over a year and I feel like the kids, pets, and my job are the only reason I haven’t. Am I wrong for feeling lost and kind of tired living this way? I don’t want to lose my nesting but I feel like we shouldn’t be nesting partners anymore.
You are absolutely not wrong for feeling lost and tired! Think about this like a big information gathering experience. You moved in with your current partner, his wife, and their two kids. You learned that you are great with the kids and the pets, and that there are things you like about this nesting situation.
But you also learned that there are things that don’t work for you, and that a relationship with your partner and/or his wife will include broken promises and jealousy and other things that you do not want in your relationship.
It is now okay to act on that information! You are not obligated to stay in a situation even if parts of it are working, or if other people are relying on you. The fact that you like some parts of the arrangement doesn’t mean you need to put up with the rest. Leaving will be hard and painful, but something being difficult doesn’t mean it’s the wrong thing to do.
Take the next step in your information gathering journey (because that’s all life really is). Allow yourself to collect data on how your relationship will change when you leave the nesting situation and how you like living with someone else in a different arrangement. Then, continue to act on the best and most recent information you have. That’s all any of us can reasonably be expected to do!
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