i don’t miss being in love… i miss love in general… i don’t see many souls these days that are capable of genuine love… to love, truly love someone unconditionally … in every way… every day not just when it is convenient for you … if you truly accept someone you accept ALL of them… you will embrace the little things that make them who they are… each time you look at them you smile… sometimes for no other reason then the fact that they are who they are and you have been blessed to have met them along your journey …loving someone should not involve trying to change them …look at someone from the inside first… listen to what they have to say not just what you want to tell them… respect what they need …perhaps they need alone or quiet time…that time to decompress allows them to be their very best… offer to be their peace…allow them to simply be and enjoy all the little moments together because one day it may be all you have left to remember them by…love like there is no tomorrow because it is not promised … just my ramblings…
Anyone else only in their 20s but feel like they are running out of time to get their life together??
Don’t.
I felt this way too, in my twenties, but you know what?
I began transitioning at 30. I went back to grad school at 32. I’m living my best life, and while I’m a little behind the curve compared to some of my classmates on some things, I’m also so far ahead of them on others.
You need follow nobody’s schedule but your own.
Life is hard and the world isn’t doing any of us favors.
Be kind to yourself, and remember that you still have plenty of time. The only difference between starting now and 5 or 10 years earlier is now you have more experience.
I needed to hear this so badly
This is one of those really important Life Lessons™️. It’s so simple, but it’s really hard to actually ahere to.
But truly, it doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing. All that is important is you’re working to make your life what you want it to be and you get to do it at your own pace because it’s your goddamn life, no one else’s!
Betye Irene Saar center and her lovely Daughters Alison ® and Lezley Saar( l)
“I merged those two words, black and feminist, because I was surrounded by black women who were very tough and and who always assumed they had to work and rear children and manage homes.” ― Toni Morrison
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I had the wonderful opportunity of acquiring a complimentary audiobook from Dr. Mansur Hasib for his book, Bring Inner Greatness Out. I listened to his story about personal branding on my way to and from work and his words were inspirational.
The book starts off with identifying personal branding, building relationships, and learning to express yourself confidently. It teaches valuable lessons…
I miss the simpler times when a telephone was all you had to communicate with someone. No social media, no texting, no blocking someone. You were forced to communicate or listen to the obnoxious phone ring over and over until you answered. Heck I even remember tying a string to two cans and playing telephone as a kid (still confused by that as it is a bit too much science for this blonde brain to comprehend how those two cans and a string worked)…
I wanted to reach out to you the other day. I reached out last month on the day of the Star and you forgave me. The intent was not to get a response but to bring something to light. To bring to your attention that I made you feel. And that is why you walked away. There is no other reason. But I chose not to send the email as I do not wish to be a hard limit pusher. You need to heal on your own terms, as I am mine. Please don’t misunderstand this post, for me, to write is to heal, to speak my truth and my needs come first. I am not selfish. That is the dynamic. I am happy you walked away this time as you were correct, I was not healing, you were a distraction. You were right, I wasn’t focused on my work.
I will trust that when/if that time comes I won’t need to seek the cards or outside sources, I will trust myself and that it’s the right time. I will trust that I will know without a shadow of a doubt when the right time will be to post this to the masses. Hoping you read. And it may never happen. Parts of this letter are over 2 months old, from our first lesson. You may just be a chapter in my life. An incredible one but who knows, only time will tell. For now I hold space for you as our story was pure magic and you said you would wait until June. But I have no idea if you’ll be at the other end of this journey, sadly I am not psychic.
I recognize that that I anxiously attached to you. Shut down the entire world except focusing on you, feeling a deep connection with just you, but that is not healthy. I need balance, strength and justice. I need to sit in the space and recognize why I chose you. It is my choice to choose you and your choice to choose me. Free will is a beautiful thing. You’re not the only person in the world. You don’t have to be a mathematician to recognize that there is way more than 1 person in the world for me. The subject of “The One” is beautiful but there are many ones, it’s just about who are we willing to work it out with, who are we meeting at the right time in our lives. So I need to sit in this space and recognize that you were brought into my life. And I was brought into yours. I chose you, and you chose me, and you said you would wait, but you have walked away three times now. Was it truly for my healing, or yours or some other lesson. I currently trust that it is all 3. And it may not be our time. I am doing the work without you, focused on the end goal. Up for the challenge. I heard you when you said I was jeopardizing my healing and myself for you, because by accepting that you are my Sir, my owner, my master and my divine union, I give myself over to you completely. That is submission. You were shocked by the transformation. And I accept that scared you. It made you feel. Not something you wanted. But do you need it? It’s a intimidating thing. I am sorry I triggered you, but to be triggered is to heal. If you choose to process. I hope you see that. Because in order to be in a life with me you will need to be open and honest and true to who you are, you will need to no longer deny your heart, your truth or your magic. To return to me, you will need to walk through the door knowing you’re entering a divine spiritual union.
To know is to enter. To enter is to heal. To heal is to love.
Hear me. I know you listen, but do you hear me? See me? Feel me?
It isn’t necessary to forgive someone in order to stop caring about what they think. Don’t let anyone try to tell you otherwise. The fact that you are no longer emotionally entangled with them doesn’t erase the harm that you suffered or the restitution that you deserve. That’s like expecting saying “Sorry” to pay for a broken window.
This can’t be it. This isn’t my dream. This won’t be my forever. I refuse to sit and dwell here. I refuse to give up. I refuse to settle. I’ve come to far to get to this place, although I’m passing through. I gave up so much of myself, although, I needed me too. But, this isn’t it. This can’t be it. This isn’t what I expected. This isn’t what I want or need. This isn’t it. I swear, it isn’t.
Why not Me? Is a common question.
